ls7878 Posted February 11, 2021 Share Posted February 11, 2021 He is married and has lots of girlfriends and girlfriends in the process. Somehow he treated me different but he clearly expressed he will not break his family for us. All his girlfriends feel jealous about my existence. Currently his business has issues, he needs their support and they asked him to keep distance with me. I know he struggled for very long time(or maybe he pretend he was struggled, I truly do not know) and at the end, he said its a very difficult time for him and he had to keep distance with me. At the beginning, I just do not accept it because I do not want to let them make decisions for me..We keep contacts secretly but his girlfriends found it out... his pretend to be with them has became more for real now. I even find out he hook up with another new girl. All his girlfriend ‘s attitude is as long as it is not me, they are fine. I want to cut loose with him however I realized in business I also need his support. So we are in a loop, I cannot cut it clean and move on. But I am also not important to him any more... when I want to leave, he will make me be back with him, when I feel I want to be with him, he disappeared again...and I also cannot cut clean with him because I will lose lots business with him too. under this complicated situation, what you would do? Any suggestion? It is very hard to hold on my feeling when I still have business with him. Please give me some suggestions. Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted February 11, 2021 Share Posted February 11, 2021 I guess you have to decide which is more important: your integrity or money. Link to post Share on other sites
littleblackheart Posted February 11, 2021 Share Posted February 11, 2021 Is his business supporting his wife, girlfriends, girlfriends in the process and you? Are you all involved in this business in some way? Do you have family outside of this set-up that can help? Link to post Share on other sites
Amethyst68 Posted February 12, 2021 Share Posted February 12, 2021 Are you single or in a relationship? Do you have any integrity or sense of morality? You mention his girlfriends what about his wife and family? Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted February 12, 2021 Share Posted February 12, 2021 (edited) Nothing could stop me from looking for another job and removing myself from this situation as soon as humanly possible... I would even quit, move back with my parents, and begin the process of starting over. This is a nightmare. Edited February 12, 2021 by BaileyB Link to post Share on other sites
Watercolors Posted February 12, 2021 Share Posted February 12, 2021 What is that famous idiom, never mix business with pleasure. You are dating a married man who has a polyamorous marriage and other romantic relationships. You knew that going in. Your situation reminds me of those Playboy bunnies who Hugh did side business with, to help those women become entrepreneurs. As others have pointed out, you need to decide which is more important to you: his wealth and the doors that it opens for you professional and personally, or your own integrity. If you have to rely on some rich guy who has a wife and bunch of girlfriends for business advice and a roof over your head, well, maybe it's time to go back to school and get yourself an MBA instead. Link to post Share on other sites
Amethyst68 Posted February 12, 2021 Share Posted February 12, 2021 1 hour ago, Watercolors said: You are dating a married man who has a polyamorous marriage Where do you get the fact his marriage is polyamorous? Nowhere does the OP state that. Link to post Share on other sites
Watercolors Posted February 12, 2021 Share Posted February 12, 2021 40 minutes ago, Amethyst68 said: Where do you get the fact his marriage is polyamorous? Nowhere does the OP state that. He’s married and he has girlfriends. That’s exactly like Hugh Hefner. Link to post Share on other sites
Amethyst68 Posted February 12, 2021 Share Posted February 12, 2021 I just got he cheated a lot... The OP's other threads don't mention him being married, hopefully she'll clear that up. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ls7878 Posted February 12, 2021 Author Share Posted February 12, 2021 I think I know I should get myself out of this situation , just do not have a good plan yet... yeah maybe I should go back to school and have a new start for life... Link to post Share on other sites
Watercolors Posted February 12, 2021 Share Posted February 12, 2021 12 minutes ago, ls7878 said: I think I know I should get myself out of this situation , just do not have a good plan yet... yeah maybe I should go back to school and have a new start for life... Grad school or getting your bachelor's is a better path then the one you're on now with this married philanderer. Put yourself first for once. Make yourself and your well being the priority here. Once you decide to do that, doors will open for you that don't include being under the thumb of some rich married guy who treats women like objects. Link to post Share on other sites
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