Gaeta Posted May 14, 2021 Share Posted May 14, 2021 29 minutes ago, Cappygyal said: and about him saying if you hadn’t slept with someone else we’d be together as indicator that he’s letting her know he’s moving on? Not at all, he's simply expressing his hurt. This sentence doesn't say anything about him not loving her anymore. Him being worried, feeling protective of her, wanting to run to take care of her is a huge indication he's working on forgiving her. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cappygyal Posted May 14, 2021 Author Share Posted May 14, 2021 11 minutes ago, Gaeta said: Not at all, he's simply expressing his hurt. This sentence doesn't say anything about him not loving her anymore. Him being worried, feeling protective of her, wanting to run to take care of her is a huge indication he's working on forgiving her. Oh 😕 I heard him tell her “it’s not like that. I don’t hate her” a couple of times. Could that be positive? Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted May 14, 2021 Share Posted May 14, 2021 4 minutes ago, Cappygyal said: Oh 😕 I heard him tell her “it’s not like that. I don’t hate her” a couple of times. Could that be positive? Who's the *her* in that sentence? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cappygyal Posted May 14, 2021 Author Share Posted May 14, 2021 9 minutes ago, Gaeta said: Who's the *her* in that sentence? I think he was referring to me. Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted May 14, 2021 Share Posted May 14, 2021 25 minutes ago, Cappygyal said: I think he was referring to me. He was telling his ex that he doesn't hate you??? and you take that has he has feelings for you? 🤨 Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted May 14, 2021 Share Posted May 14, 2021 39 minutes ago, Cappygyal said: I heard him tell her “it’s not like that. I don’t hate her” a couple of times. Could that be positive? 25 minutes ago, Cappygyal said: I think he was referring to me. So - the man that you are dating tells *anyone* that he “doesn’t hate you” - and you want to know if that’s positive? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Spider Posted May 14, 2021 Share Posted May 14, 2021 I mean... he doesn’t hate her ... that’s more than some guys I date could say about me Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cappygyal Posted May 14, 2021 Author Share Posted May 14, 2021 (edited) 29 minutes ago, Gaeta said: He was telling his ex that he doesn't hate you??? and you take that has he has feelings for you? 🤨 Yea, because if she asked if he had feelings for me and his response was, “I don’t hate her” he didn’t actually say no. If he didn’t have feelings for me he would’ve said no instead of being evasive with “I don’t hate her”. Why didn’t he say “no I don’t”? Edited May 14, 2021 by Cappygyal Link to post Share on other sites
poppyfields Posted May 14, 2021 Share Posted May 14, 2021 (edited) 2 hours ago, Gaeta said: I have no clue why this means something in your eyes. Not having an issue is not something that counts as *positive actions*. It's like thinking your boyfriend is a good man because he's never been to jail. Your standards are below ground level. After reading your response @Cappygyal, I am going to have to agree with Gaeta. All of what you wrote is you projecting, there is nothing tangible there to conclude he actually cares about you and views you as anything more than an FWB if that. I'm sorry. Edited May 14, 2021 by poppyfields 1 Link to post Share on other sites
poppyfields Posted May 14, 2021 Share Posted May 14, 2021 2 hours ago, Cappygyal said: and about him saying if you hadn’t slept with someone else we’d be together as indicator that he’s letting her know he’s moving on? Wha? I am trying to understand your thought process but NO, it's not an indicator he's letting her know he's moving on, he's letting her know he's hurt and angry which in actuality indicates the opposite of what you're projecting it to mean. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
poppyfields Posted May 14, 2021 Share Posted May 14, 2021 7 minutes ago, Cappygyal said: Yea, because if she asked if he had feelings for me and his response was, “I don’t hate her” he didn’t actually say no. If he didn’t have feelings for me he would’ve said no instead of being evasive with “I don’t hate her”. Why didn’t he say “no I don’t”? More projection..... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cappygyal Posted May 14, 2021 Author Share Posted May 14, 2021 13 minutes ago, poppyfields said: More projection..... 😕 then why didn’t he flat out say “no I don’t” when asked if he had feelings? Plus, there’s a good chance he could be lying to her to spare her feelings, right? Link to post Share on other sites
poppyfields Posted May 14, 2021 Share Posted May 14, 2021 8 minutes ago, Cappygyal said: 😕 then why didn’t he flat out say “no I don’t” when asked if he had feelings? Plus, there’s a good chance he could be lying to her to spare her feelings, right? Bolded - denial and pride. Non-bolded - you projecting again. Cappy, if this were me before I learned what projection meant, I would start researching the meaning of projection. This entire thread is about you projecting, nothing more. Again I'm sorry. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cappygyal Posted May 14, 2021 Author Share Posted May 14, 2021 16 minutes ago, poppyfields said: Bolded - denial and pride. Non-bolded - you projecting again. Cappy, if this were me before I learned what projection meant, I would start researching the meaning of projection. This entire thread is about you projecting, nothing more. Again I'm sorry. No need to apologize. I appreciate your response. How is the bolded denial and pride? Link to post Share on other sites
poppyfields Posted May 14, 2021 Share Posted May 14, 2021 2 minutes ago, Cappygyal said: No need to apologize. I appreciate your response. How is the bolded denial and pride? Oh apologies I read that wrong initially. So you can disregard what I wrote. I will have to go back and have another read but my first thought is it's anyone's guess what he meant, you would have to ask him... Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted May 14, 2021 Share Posted May 14, 2021 (edited) 1 hour ago, Cappygyal said: Yea, because if she asked if he had feelings for me and his response was, “I don’t hate her” he didn’t actually say no. Is that seriously where you have decided to set the bar? He doesn’t hate you - so, he must have feelings for you? Come on. If you try to stretch anymore you will put your back out! Edited May 14, 2021 by BaileyB 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cappygyal Posted May 14, 2021 Author Share Posted May 14, 2021 13 minutes ago, BaileyB said: Is that seriously where you have decided to set the bar? He doesn’t hate you - so, he must have feelings for you? Come on. If you try to stretch anymore you will put your back out! lol no. It’s his evasive answer that makes me think that he does. Why didn’t he say “no I don’t have feelings for her”? He never said no, why is that? Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted May 14, 2021 Share Posted May 14, 2021 Just now, Cappygyal said: Why didn’t he say “no I don’t have feelings for her”? He never said no, why is that? He was cheated on, he still loves her but his brain is trying to reason with his heart. So he's not telling her he likes you because he's afraid he would lose her, and he doesn't want to tell her he doesn't like you because that would make him an arse and expose his feelings for her. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
jspice Posted May 14, 2021 Share Posted May 14, 2021 1 hour ago, Cappygyal said: Yea, because if she asked if he had feelings for me and his response was, “I don’t hate her” he didn’t actually say no. If he didn’t have feelings for me he would’ve said no instead of being evasive with “I don’t hate her”. Why didn’t he say “no I don’t”? If he had feelings for you he would say”yes, I have feelings for her” He didn’t say that 3 Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted May 14, 2021 Share Posted May 14, 2021 (edited) 4 minutes ago, jspice said: If he had feelings for you he would say”yes, I have feelings for her” He didn’t say that Exactly. I don’t dislike broccoli, but I would rather eat almost any other food. Edited May 14, 2021 by BaileyB Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cappygyal Posted May 14, 2021 Author Share Posted May 14, 2021 (edited) 8 minutes ago, Gaeta said: He was cheated on, he still loves her but his brain is trying to reason with his heart. So he's not telling her he likes you because he's afraid he would lose her, and he doesn't want to tell her he doesn't like you because that would make him an arse and expose his feelings for her. So I was right, he does have feelings for me then. he wasn’t cheated on they were broken up but he just got crushed by her sleeping with someone but i guess this part doesn’t really matter. Edited May 15, 2021 by Cappygyal Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cappygyal Posted May 14, 2021 Author Share Posted May 14, 2021 6 minutes ago, jspice said: If he had feelings for you he would say”yes, I have feelings for her” He didn’t say that Not if he wanted to spare her feelings. Link to post Share on other sites
jspice Posted May 14, 2021 Share Posted May 14, 2021 2 minutes ago, BaileyB said: Exactly. I don’t dislike broccoli, but I would rather eat almost any other food. Hey if I had to choose between broccoli and a guy that says he doesn’t hate me, I’ll choose broccoli 2 Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted May 15, 2021 Share Posted May 15, 2021 1 minute ago, jspice said: Hey if I had to choose between broccoli and a guy that says he doesn’t hate me, I’ll choose broccoli Me too, actually. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
jspice Posted May 15, 2021 Share Posted May 15, 2021 (edited) 1 minute ago, Cappygyal said: Not if he wanted to spare her feelings. Cool. So why are you here if you know the answers? Edited May 15, 2021 by jspice 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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