Does he want his ex back? I'm flying out to be with him for VDAY tomorrow.

[Gaeta]

Nope! I'm in the *no hope in hell* team. Actually it's the only team. 

[Cappygyal]

3 minutes ago, BaileyB said:

Not a hope in hell...

Why? 

[Alpacalia]

Offer to send her a care package.

[d0nnivain]

Why?   Because he's picking her over you & always will.  You are the substitute. 

Look, he's a good guy.  That means you pick kind people.  Take that confirmation & move along 

[Gaeta]

No one wants to go take care of their ex *out of generosity of their heart*. They go back because feelings are still pulling them together.  You were a distraction while he was working on forgiving her. He has forgiven her. 

[Cappygyal]

Just now, d0nnivain said:

Why?   Because he's picking her over you & always will.  You are the substitute. 

Look, he's a good guy.  That means you pick kind people.  Take that confirmation & move along 

How is he picking her over me? 
 

when I heard him initially say I can take care of if you want on the phone she said it was nice but she wouldn’t want to take time away from being with his family. After they get off the call he sends her a voice message saying, “if you start to feel worse or don’t get better soon let me know and I’ll come back to take care of you”. I saw her response that said, “aww you’re so sweet I’ll definitely let you know”. Well later that day she told him she’d take him up on his offer. He told her he’d keep her posted because he planned on being out here for 2 weeks. So it sounds like he’s brushing her off.
 

[d0nnivain]

You saw that because it's what you wanted to see.  In reality if she did not have sense & told him to come he would have left in a heartbeat.  

[Gaeta]

3 minutes ago, Cappygyal said:

 Well later that day she told him she’d take him up on his offer. He told her he’d keep her posted because he planned on being out here for 2 weeks. So it sounds like he’s brushing her off.

Whether he goes now or in 2 weeks, he's going to go take care of her. He's worried about her, she thinks he's sweet......once he's gone back and he leaves you behind a big 10 hours away, he's going back to her. Sorry.

Edited May 13, 2021 by Gaeta

[Cappygyal]

1 minute ago, d0nnivain said:

You saw that because it's what you wanted to see.  In reality if she did not have sense & told him to come he would have left in a heartbeat.  

But she eventually did tell him to come down later that evening and he didn’t leave.

[Gaeta]

57 minutes ago, Cappygyal said:

We started seeing each other in February. He lives 10 hours

You're the 2 month girlfriend that lives 10 hours away. She's the ex girlfriend, sorry ex-fiancé, the woman he loved enough to want to get married to. They broke up over a fight, not because they didn't love each other anymore. You stand 0 chance against her. 

Edited May 13, 2021 by Gaeta

[d0nnivain]

What happens in 2 weeks?  It was also a 10 hour trip to get back to her.  Once he's closer & you are far away all bets are off 

I caution you that this guy is not as into you as you think.  

Edited May 13, 2021 by d0nnivain

[Cappygyal]

16 minutes ago, Gaeta said:

You're the 2 month girlfriend that lives 10 hours away. She's the ex girlfriend, sorry ex-fiancé, the woman he loved enough to want to get married to. They broke up over a fight, not because they didn't love each other anymore. You stand 0 chance against her. 

That’s the thing...I really do think they dislike each other. They fought all the time and never got along.

[Gaeta]

Just now, Cappygyal said:

That’s the thing...I really do think they dislike each other. They fought all the time and never got along.

So why is he so insistant on going to help her?

Remember you only have his version of what happened in their relationship. 

[introverted1]

Cappy, why do you come here for advice?  You keep asking about this guy and, each time, everyone tells you that he is still in love with his ex and that you are the rebound.  You always claim this is not the case, but I think you must know it is or you wouldn't keep posting with what is essentially the same question.

 

 

[Cappygyal]

13 minutes ago, introverted1 said:

Cappy, why do you come here for advice?  You keep asking about this guy and, each time, everyone tells you that he is still in love with his ex and that you are the rebound.  You always claim this is not the case, but I think you must know it is or you wouldn't keep posting with what is essentially the same question.

 

 

Well I’m just confused because we’re kind of a quick getaway right now. Plus, the other day he posted a picture of his mom and sister and tagged them. I haven’t met his sister yet, but I started following her and she followed me back so I took that as a good sign.
 

he could get back with her but he isn’t so with everything I mentioned that’s why I’m legitimately confused as to how I’m the rebound. 

[BaileyB]

43 minutes ago, Cappygyal said:

How is he picking her over me? 

I can’t actually believe that you are still asking this question...

[BaileyB]

16 minutes ago, introverted1 said:

Cappy, why do you come here for advice? 

 Clearly not, because she continues to ask the same question in different ways and she doesn’t ever take any of the advice that is offered. This seems to be more about attention than advice. 

[Cappygyal]

Just now, BaileyB said:

I can’t actually believe that you are still asking this question...

I only asked because he’s not leaving to go be with her. I guess I’m not particularly bright in this area so when I asked how he was picking her over me it’s because I really don’t know...

[Marc878]

Save yourself and drop the hopium pipe. Get out now.

[Calmandfocused]

Sigh 

This is going to be another 26 pager. Every loveshacker is going to spend that time pointing out how he still loves/ wants to be with his ex and cappygal is going to try to convince us that we’re all wrong. 
 

Even though she created this thread ...
 

I’m out already 

[Cappygyal]

3 minutes ago, Calmandfocused said:

Sigh 

This is going to be another 26 pager. Every loveshacker is going to spend that time pointing out how he still loves/ wants to be with his ex and cappygal is going to try to convince us that we’re all wrong. 
 

Even though she created this thread ...
 

I’m out already 

I’m not trying to convince y’all that you’re wrong. I’m genuinely confused. He has an opportunity to be with her so why isn’t he? This is me genuinely asking because I don’t get it. 

[sunny-daze]

He may be with you right now, but what about when he goes back home after visiting his family? It does sound like he's using you as a rebound until he's ready to be back with her. Almost like you're a placeholder. 

Have you even asked him about this?

[Gaeta]

You will be less confused in 2 weeks. 

[Calmandfocused]

2 minutes ago, Cappygyal said:

I’m not trying to convince y’all that you’re wrong. I’m genuinely confused. He has an opportunity to be with her so why isn’t he? This is me genuinely asking because I don’t get it. 

He expresses sentiment towards his ex repeatedly in front of you/ in your face and you’re confused!!! 
 

I personally think you need to see a professional. I say that with kindness as I’m genuinely concerned about your lack of awareness and insight. I have never seen denial this entrenched before, ever. 

[Cappygyal]

3 minutes ago, Calmandfocused said:

He expresses sentiment towards his ex repeatedly in front of you/ in your face and you’re confused!!! 
 

I personally think you need to see a professional. I say that with kindness as I’m genuinely concerned about your lack of awareness and insight. I have never seen denial this entrenched before, ever. 

It didn’t happen in front of my face....