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He tossed her aside because I accepted him back. He had been trying to get me back the whole time he was with her, but I wouldn't even talk to him for almost a year. When I finally was ready to make up and get back together he instantly dropped her. Had I said no he would have continued using her.

He dropped you off IG as soon as he thought he was getting his ex back. He didn't even give it a second thought. What does that tell you? He only came back to you because she is not an option at the current time. If she changes her mind in the future,  he'll drop you like a hot potato. 

 

 

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ExpatInItaly

You need to seriously re-evaluate your standards, OP

I wouldn't even let this little twerp buy me a Slurpee. 

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10 hours ago, Cappygyal said:

So he got really angry and hurt that she slept with someone else.

Says the man who spent the weekend banging another girl... 😂

At this point, I’m just so curious to see what’s going to happen... who is he going to chose? Are they going to live happily ever after? It’s so difficult to know... 😂

 

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So I flew back out to be with him for the rest of this week :)

He was just with his ex 3 weeks ago so I feel like he couldn’t wait to see me once he was done with her 🥰

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44 minutes ago, Cappygyal said:

So I flew back out to be with him for the rest of this week :)

He was just with his ex 3 weeks ago so I feel like he couldn’t wait to see me once he was done with her 🥰

I suppose you win. Well done. 

 

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7 minutes ago, ExpatInItaly said:

I mean, if this sort of arrangement is satisfactory for you, have at it. 

 

What do you mean “arrangement”? How is seeing/dating someone an arrangement?

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Miss Spider

Ughhhh if this is even for real, why are either of you two still messing with this guy! Is he super good looking or rich or what?  

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59 minutes ago, Cappygyal said:

Sarcasm? 
 

Yes. Only because I can’t believe you are gloating about the fact that it’s been three weeks and you are flying out to meet the man again...

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1 minute ago, BaileyB said:

Yes. Only because I can’t believe you are gloating about the fact that it’s been three weeks and you are flying out to meet the man again...

I’m only gloating because IMO he couldn’t wait to see me and that he clearly didn’t want his ex.

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4 minutes ago, Cappygyal said:

I’m only gloating because IMO he couldn’t wait to see me and that he clearly didn’t want his ex.

Like I said, you won. Congratulations.

You won a hypocritical man who dumped his ex for having sex with another man when he clearly did the very same thing. What a prize. 

Some lessons are meant to be learned the hard way. This is one of those lessons for you. Good luck! 

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4 hours ago, Cappygyal said:

So I flew back out to be with him for the rest of this week :)

He was just with his ex 3 weeks ago so I feel like he couldn’t wait to see me once he was done with her 🥰

What a waste of your time and money, not to mention emotional energy.

Lots of single guys out there who aren't still hung up on their ex's.

Make better choices.

 

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2 hours ago, Cookiesandough said:

Ughhhh if this is even for real, why are either of you two still messing with this guy! Is he super good looking or rich or what?  

Big, um, feet? :eek:  lol

OP, me believes he's playing the both you.  That is the "arrangement" Expat was referring to.

And why are you always going to him?  Chasing him?  

Jmo, but your "relationship" with him sounds so debasing, I realize you're quite young (early 20s?) so won't judge you too harshly, I made some mistakes too at that age, but I truly hope that as you grow and evolve, you will think more highly of yourself and raise your standards.

This guy is like the bottom of the barrel as far as I am concerned, playing the both of you.

But good luck to you anyway.

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3 minutes ago, poppyfields said:

Big, um, feet? :eek:  lol

OP, me believes he's playing the both you.  That is the "arrangement" Expat was referring to.

And why are you always going to him?  Chasing him?  

Jmo, but your "relationship" with him sounds so debasing, I realize you're quite young (early 20s?) so won't judge you too harshly, I made some mistakes too at that age, but I truly hope that as you grow and evolve, you will think more highly of yourself and raise your standards.

This guy is like the bottom of the barrel as far as I am concerned, playing the both of you.

But good luck to you anyway.

Yea, just turned 22 in the fall. 

How is he playing the both of us? When I said previously that he was playing the ex you all said, “no she’s who he truly wants he’s just using you because she’s kicked him to the curb” blah blah. So how am I getting played too?

 

Oh, and I’m going to him because he has his own place. I don’t.

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2 hours ago, Cookiesandough said:

Ughhhh if this is even for real, why are either of you two still messing with this guy! Is he super good looking or rich or what?  

Apparently, begged for to stay. She got all dramatic 🙄 then told him to kick rocks. 

He said that she blocked him everywhere so there aren’t two of us in the picture - just me.

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7 minutes ago, Cappygyal said:

So how am I getting played too?

One little word - sex. 

He has a woman who is willing to travel to him... doesn’t even really know him well, but still willing to come and stay with him for a weekend/week. He doesn’t have to put any effort into it. It doesn’t even matter to you that he just got out of another relationships/is still hung up on the other woman... In fact, that’s a plus for you because you’ve made this a competition that you are determined to win. He’s just enjoying this whole situation, what’s not to like...

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5 minutes ago, BaileyB said:

One little word - sex. 

He has a woman who is willing to travel to him... doesn’t even really know him well, but still willing to come and stay with him for a weekend/week. He doesn’t have to put any effort into it. It doesn’t even matter to you that he just got out of another relationships/is still hung up on the other woman... In fact, that’s a plus for you because you’ve made this a competition that you are determined to win. He’s just enjoying this whole situation, what’s not to like...

My friend said before I left that he’s using me for sex to get over her and to hurt her because he’s hurt - that he’s hoping she finds out I’m here. 
 

If he was so hurt he wouldn’t have had me come out here so quickly. He would be by himself. That’s not the case. 

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14 minutes ago, Cappygyal said:

Apparently, begged for to stay. She got all dramatic 🙄 then told him to kick rocks. 

He said that she blocked him everywhere so there aren’t two of us in the picture - just me.

Yes he’s playing both of you, in my opinion, if this story is to be believed as written. Not a very large rock guy she’s still been messing with him and involving herself in the drama. If the story is to be believed as written,  she force dumped  him because he was being a “jack*** and wouldn’t put in effort to change. Then he found new people to sleep with ( one of which is you) and was hypocritical when she tried to move on. Now that she’s rejected him, three weeks later, he’s back looking to get it anywhere he can because he has the emotional depth of a kiddie pool and is the Oxford definition of ****boy 

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6 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said:

Yes he’s playing both of you in my opinion if this story is to be believed as written. Not a very large rock guy she’s still been messing with him and involving herself in the drama. If the story is to be believed as written,  she force dumped  him because he was being a “jack*** and wouldn’t put in effort to change. Then he found new people to sleep with ( one of which is you) and was hypocritical when she tried to move on. Now that she’s rejected him, three weeks later, he’s back looking to get it anywhere he can because he has the emotional depth of a kiddie pool. 

You don’t think he wanted me to see him so quickly because he couldn’t wait to see me? I’m the one he actually wants?  If he was using me I don’t think he would’ve come back to me so quickly.

 

and how is he playing her if she isn’t even in the picture?

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11 minutes ago, Cappygyal said:

If he was so hurt he wouldn’t have had me come out here so quickly. He would be by himself. That’s not the case. 

Men are still capable of having sex if they are still hurt or hung up on another woman.

Some guys are not going to turn down sex, ever. 

Have you not heard the saying, “the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else.”

This is clearly about sex for him. You are a rebound, a way to make her jealous, just - easy sex... You are being unbelievably naive if you don’t see this. 

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12 minutes ago, Cappygyal said:

You don’t think he wanted me to see him so quickly because he couldn’t wait to see me? I’m the one he actually wants?  If he was using me I don’t think he would’ve come back to me so quickly.

No I wouldn’t draw that assumption.. sorry. Why do you assume that? All it suggests to me is he that he is able sleep with others/move on really fast physically, yet has the nerve to call someone else on it which consistent with everything else in this thread that he is a j***** that  blows the way the wind goes. It’s his behavior that’s the reason that they aren’t together. And you want that ?good luck w him  girl you’re gonna need it 

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30 minutes ago, Cappygyal said:

You don’t think he wanted me to see him so quickly because he couldn’t wait to see me? I’m the one he actually wants?  If he was using me I don’t think he would’ve come back to me so quickly.

That is some twisted logic right there.

 

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30 minutes ago, BaileyB said:

Men are still capable of having sex if they are still hurt or hung up on another woman.

Some guys are not going to turn down sex, ever. 

Have you not heard the saying, “the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else.”

This is clearly about sex for him. You are a rebound, a way to make her jealous, just - easy sex... You are being unbelievably naive if you don’t see this. 

Thanks for the insight. I know some guys sleep with people to get over their ex, I just didn’t know it happened so quickly...

 

why are you saying he’s trying to make her jealous? How is trying moving on a means to make someone jealous?

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