Snapchat behavior of a married man

[Vivalavi]

Please help me understand: what makes a married man to talk to a multiple females on Snapchat? By talking, I mean flirting, sexting, asking for nudes, sending nudes and very private videos of him during a playtime.

When I met him, he looked so innocent. A typical, happily married man with a good wife and a child.

He was so charming and I fell for it.

We have been talking every day for almost a year now. I can see texting changes in him, anywhere from cold to hot, leaving me on open or replying after several hours. He says he is busy some days but I see his Snapchat score going up. Is he playing me?

It often happens late at night when I'm pretty sure he isn't talking to his wife or buddies.

I know what I do is wrong but I can't let go. I genuinely care for him. I'm trying to find other explanations for his late night activities.

I'm still hoping I'm wrong about him having a harem of females on his Snapchat, however, his score goes up like 100 points every day and his overall score is over 230,000. 

Deep down, I want to believe he is this great guy I've met in a person, but I might be blind.

Am I overthinking it all? Why would a married man talk to multiple females if that's the case here? 

Edited February 14, 2021 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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[BaileyB]

47 minutes ago, Vivalavi said:

When I met him, he looked so innocent. A typical, happily married man with a good wife and a child.

Deep down, I want to believe he is this great guy I've met in a person, but I might be blind.

Friend, if it walks like a duck, and talks like a duck... it’s a duck.

He’s a “typical” happily married man with a wife and child all right - aside from the fact that he’s cheating on his wife by talking to you. For real?

And you want to know why he’s cheating on YOU by flirting, exchanging nudes, and very private videos with other women? 

Some men like variety. Apparently one wife and one adoring affair partner is not enough for this man, he wants more - attention, adoration, excitement, sex. 

As Maya Angelou so articulately said, when people show you who they are - believe them.

Deep down you want to believe he’s a good guy - but all evidence to the contrary. Do good guys cheat on their wives and flirt, exchange nudes, and intimate videos with women who are not their wives? (And, I’m not referencing the other women here, I’m referencing you because I’m assuming you are doing the same things, if not having sex with the man). 

I would not say you are overthinking it, I would respectfully suggest that you are under thinking it. 

What is happening in your life that you feel the need to insert yourself into this marriage? Surely there are other men who are happy and single that you can date? Why set your sights on another woman’s husband - especially one who appears to be a serial cheat at that?

I say, value yourself more than this. There is no happiness to be found here. 

Edited February 14, 2021 by BaileyB

[HappilyMarried]

If he would cheat on his wife and kids with you why would  he not also cheat with someone else or more?

[Amethyst68]

7 hours ago, Vivalavi said:

When I met him, he looked so innocent. A typical, happily married man with a good wife and a child.

So that's your criteria for picking a married man to have an affair with? 

I don't get why you're so offended, you're not the one he's cheating on here. 

[mark clemson]

I think he's hooked on the online attention. We've had a guy post here before in a similar situation (he felt he was "addicted" to the online attention and was trying to quit). At any rate, I think it's pretty clear where this guy's head is at at the moment. IMO he's a "dopamine-chaser" and this has probably become something like an addiction to him.

[BaileyB]

This is still going on a year later? Girl, why do you waste your time...