I had a problem with my bf's likes, so he blocked on me tw.

[in1t]

hi guys

i have a relationship for like 7 months. well, last 1 month, my bf likes hot models or porn girls on twitter so it came on my dash. actually, when it happened once, i never waited to see on dash. i checked his likes for everyday. 

i told him it's ok to follow but i didn't like to see that pictures come in front of me. well, we had 2,3 times, he passed over me. if you don't like to see it, make my profile quiet, he said. 

yesterday, i saw it again and blow up this time. i said i feel sad, because i think you are less find attractive me for 1-2 months, than i see these girls i feel sad. i want you to make me feel more beautiful. it's ok you see them, or okay to like them but these are my feelings. i just want you to stop pushing the like button.

he blocked on me twitter. he said, this is a problem for you, but it is not a problem for me. this is a line, and i can't break it. if i break it, you will ask for another line for me and it will be bigger i saw that many times. than i say, no it won't be, bec. i won't abuse your nice behavior. but you know, it stayed on air. 

you know, it was a tiny problem for me but now, we talked and it is just made another problems.

he is always prepare himself "if she leave me, it's ok i can live my life", he is always ready for bad or good things. he doesn't like surprises. and he showes me that. if you wanna go, yes you can got i don't care i'm strong, he gives me that message.

i said him i would do it for you, than he says you wanna show me like a devil.

at the end of the fight, results are:

if there is a problem for both of us yes we can change somethings, but that problem make sens for just one of us, there is no solution. 

there is a line, because if you give 1 compromise, they will ask you another. (a relationship need compromises, in my opinion. but he doesn't think like that.)

 

he said: if you break up me right now i won't be sad because i am right, this problem is not a problem. if i was wrong yes i would be sad, but now, i am right. you can accept me like that. (he try to feel me "i can leave you easily" that image. also i felt that: if there is a break up it won't coming from him. bec. he doesn't wanna feel guilty. if i break up, it would be my fault. he try to protect himself, again.)

 

 

what do you think? what should i think?

what should i feel? please say something to me. 

[Starswillshine]

I would feel highly disrespected. If I told my boyfriend something bothered me, and he continued to do it, it would feel like he did not care about my feelings. This would signal the end of our relationship for me. What he has said about compromises and not accepting him for who is screams not great relationship material. He will be the guy who cheats on you and says she understands him... aka she knows he is a cheater and she is still with him. Cut your losses. He is just a boyfriend.

[Wiseman2]

17 hours ago, in1t said:

I told him it's ok to follow but i didn't like to see that pictures come in front of me. 

Sorry this is happening. Unfortunately you're not compatible. He's being a horndog and you're acting like the twitter police.

Be glad he blocked you so you're not associated with him.

Now delete and block him and all his people from ALL your social media and messaging apps.

You can't tell him what he can or can't do on social media. What you can do is observe this and cut your losses.

Next time don't try to be the "cool GF" only to go ballistic when someone does something you don't like on social media.

Edited February 16, 2021 by Wiseman2

[ShyViolet]

Ok so your rule was, he's allowed to look at the stuff but not allowed to hit the "like" button?  Stop policing his social media activity.  You are going to drive him to dump you with this nonsense.  

[smackie9]

You enable his behavior to follow these women by allowing it. Put your foot down and set some boundaries. No porn girls, hot chicks...tell him to grow the f up.

Me personally would never date a guy that was obsessed with following porn girls on social media....that's just gross.

And yes OP breakup with him...because he is wrong....the wrong guy for you.

Edited February 17, 2021 by smackie9

[Watercolors]

On 2/15/2021 at 12:00 PM, in1t said:

(a relationship need compromises, in my opinion. but he doesn't think like that.)

Dump him. If he won't compromise with you -- his g/f -- then he is not a good guy. Tell him, "Fine. You can have your porn pin-up models on Twitter." 

You deserve to be in a relationship with a mature man who knows how to respect your feelings and how to compromise, without you having to ask. When you have to ask your boyfriend to compromise, that is a huge red flag about his weak character and self-centered ego. He sounds very, very immature. If it were me, I'd dump the idiot. 

[Gaeta]

Don't date grown up men that need to follow hot girls, anywhere. It's juvenile, he's a grown man but he has the brain of a 15 year old. He's not good boyfriend material. Yes yes yes men are visual and like to look at hotties. Good men look at those in private, not on public media. 

[usa1ah]

Sounds like he is with you just for the sex, nothing else.

Are you sure this isn’t a FWB relationship?

 

One thing is obvious, he doesn’t care about you one bit.