silvershadowbeliever Posted February 19, 2021 Share Posted February 19, 2021 My husband is pretty loving and and easygoing guy for the most part, but we have our issues. Sometimes it doesn't feel like he really knows me at all though. My love language is gifts and I constantly have to tell him things I like as he never seems to remember. Like I know his favorite color is green and he doesn't even know mine. He says he never pays attention like to what I wear or my nail color, which is always turquoise. He always says he doesn't know what I like and it's just frustrating because I feel like after 15 years of marriage he doesn't know much about me. Like my favorite cake flavors etc. I feel like I know way more about him than he does me. Link to post Share on other sites
LuckyM Posted February 19, 2021 Share Posted February 19, 2021 This is odd. Is it possible that he knows about you and pretends not to know. Because he doesn't care? I am just guessing. There is more going on here under the surface maybe you will explain. Meanwhile you could write down all these likes of yours and show it to him or by email or text. Then he has no excuses. I like turquoise too. The rock and color. Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted February 20, 2021 Share Posted February 20, 2021 Maybe a few things escape him but I am sure he knows a lot about you. Try one of those games where you have to guess each other's like and dislike. It may reassure you he does know about you. Link to post Share on other sites
RecentChange Posted February 20, 2021 Share Posted February 20, 2021 Have you told him in plain language how important these things are to you? That while you understand these may not be the things most important to him, that they are important to you? That you feel validated by him when he does pay attention and gift, and hurt when he doesn't? Gifts are the bottom of my list when it comes to my love languages. I don't know what my favorite flower or cake would be! And my husband certain couldn't answer that. But my #1 love language is touch, and he isn't much of a touchy feely guy - and kinda doesn't get why I need it so much. But I have TOLD him that it's something I need. That it affects how I feel, and gave him easy ways to help fulfill that for me. And that really helped change things. It's also important to know his love language. My guy's is words of affirmation, and while I am not a natural complimenter - I try to step out of my comfort zone and gas him up. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Caauug Posted February 27, 2021 Share Posted February 27, 2021 On 2/20/2021 at 12:10 PM, RecentChange said: Have you told him in plain language how important these things are to you? Good point!!! ^^^^ Thank You. Most husbands do not listen well to what their wife is thinking...… 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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