Should I do something?

[Alexantra]

Hi guys. I am new here, just google up this forum.

Me and my boyfriend are together for 7 months but its like a semi LDR because for the first 3 months we lived together (actually from the first day we went out) and the rest of 4 months we are in separate countries. I work in his country from late April untill late October, this is the reason, but we planned for 2021 to be the year we make our relationship more official and for me to move with him in his country.

After I came back home, everything was ok, we were speaking on the phone 3-4 times per day, had some small fights but nothing important.

A few days ago, I was bored and checked his FB profile and noticed that some woman from another country was likeing all of his photos so I entered her profile. And surprise...he also had liked all of her photos. You might say that is silly and for teens but, when i asked him about it he just said "its possible, it happens". If he had told me shes an old friend and bla bla i wouldnt have had a problem. But what kind of an answer is that? I hung up the phone and continued searching and found out that he has a lot of old girlfriends in his friends list. I was very angry.

In the evening i sent him a message and told that i never want him to call me again and that its over. That was a week ago. No contact after and no answer to my message.

It might seem foolish i know...sometimes even for me but...you never like anything that i put on fb but you like everything in another womans profile, you keep your old flames there for what? To see them, to remember them, to speak?? You give me a crappy answer to my question? 

I know that he loves me. I know that he had a past before me and i accept it. But its also a LDR and trust is so fragile. 

Now i dont know what to do. My heart is broken. I know that if i give him a sign he will immediatelly call me. But is it my position to do it? Will i regret it after? Can anyone give me some advice please? 

Edited February 19, 2021 by Alexantra

[ExpatInItaly]

Why did you start living together from Day 1? 

That strongly suggests both of you are impulsive and don't have the most rational decision-making skills. I don't say that to be unkind, but look where you are: you took up with a stranger, and you're now learning who he really is. 

It sounds like he's not the man you were hoping for. 

[Alexantra]

1 minute ago, ExpatInItaly said:

Why did you start living together from Day 1? 

That strongly suggests both of you are impulsive and don't have the most rational decision-making skills. I don't say that to be unkind, but look where you are: you took up with a stranger, and you're now learning who he really is. 

It sounds like he's not the man you were hoping for. 

It was not exactly living together but he was all the time sleeping at my place or me at his. We didnt move our things but the situation was like that.

[Wiseman2]

47 minutes ago, Alexantra said:

But its also a LDR and trust is so fragile. 

Sorry this happened. Were you working or studying in his country for 3 mos.? Why did you go back home?  It seems like you have excellent insight into the problem , and that is LDRs are very difficult, especially after dating just 12 weeks in person. 

It would be best to free yourself from these headaches and heartaches by ending it, then deleting and blocking him and all his people from all your social media and messaging apps.

Set yourself free to talk to and date local available men so you can enjoy your life in the present rather than living in the past 3 mos. fling or the future that was never promised.

[Alexantra]

I work there every year so soon, at the end of April I ll be back. Its a very small comunity and its practicly impossible to avoid eachother.

If I start dating here its the same thing...i live six months here and six months in the other country.