Tgee92 Posted February 20, 2021 Share Posted February 20, 2021 Just some advice on what you would do in this situation please! So my ex partner has recently decided that she would like some space to herself, as she advises she needs to sort her mental health out. This is with regards to overthinking and caring too much about what other people think of her. Recently we did lose a baby together as the baby lost its heartbeat and she has had to have this surgically removed. I know this will be massively affecting her mental health state more than mine because its her body physically going through it than me. The thing is with her though is she is a closed book, with all the complications she did have with the pregnancy she kinda shut me out with them, and kept saying shes fine when she clearly wasn't and shut the world out and suffered in silence. Now while she was pregnant she did say it was all too much for her with the complications and she said she needed her own space, and ended the relationship. so I fully understood and gave her the space. I started the "No contact" process and then the day after she was commenting on my photos saying how attractive I am, then 2 days later she was messaging me saying she misses me. Then we fell naturally back into the scheme of things of a relationship, we both ended up seeing each other more especially with me staying over at her house, and when we are with each other in person. Its like nothing has ever happened. We both have kids from a previous relationship and we have introduced them to each other, something I said I didn't want to happen unless we were serious which she advised we was. Now since losing the baby, it did bring us close again for a few more days, then again I'm back in the same position where she wants space. I've unfollowed her on social media so I won't see her name and I've muted all text alerts from her. Again the day after she requested space, she was messaging me just asking me how my day has been and if me and my daughter are ok. I've advised her that if she wants space, its not something I want because I want a relationship with her but I will respect her choice. Shes messaged since advising " I'm the most honest and genuine guy she has ever met and I'm not going to have any trouble finding a woman to fall in love with" If she does message and she mentions anything about a future with me and I reply back about a future with her, this gets ignored on the reply she doesn't mention anything back regarding it. Something else to add to the pot, I have had her mum ring me to say "please give her time, she shuts everybody away but I know how good you will be for her and her daughter" So what would you guys do in this instance? I'm trying to do the no contact the same as last time but she is messaging me so does she miss me? Does she just want me there for somebody to talk to? Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted February 20, 2021 Share Posted February 20, 2021 How long have you been dating? Unfortunately it seems like it's over but she wants support for the termination of the pregnancy. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Tgee92 Posted February 20, 2021 Author Share Posted February 20, 2021 We've been dating around 1 year. Again this morning, she has texted me to say she misses me but I'm just giving her space. My head strongly believes that she is going to sort her mental health out like she advises and then we might give it one last go but I'm putting this to the back of my mind Link to post Share on other sites
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