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Should I let my ex know there’s a possibility that we could run into each other at the gym ahead of time or just let it happen? 
 

I’m perfectly fine running into her but I don’t want to come off like I’m stalking her... so ran the idea of extending a olive branch of courtesy/heads up. 

plan on going in the AM as I know she goes at nights but if I end up having to go in the PM just don’t want that awkwardness. 

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If you know she goes in the afternoon / evening, stick to your plan of going in the morning.  If you do go in the afternoon evening look for her car in the parking lot or scan the room for her.  

Just use equipment away from her if you are there at the same time.  Ignore her like she's any other stranger you don't know but you can offer a curt nod of the head & a tight lipped smile if you get cornered.  

No need to call in advance.  

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19 minutes ago, d0nnivain said:

If you know she goes in the afternoon / evening, stick to your plan of going in the morning.  If you do go in the afternoon evening look for her car in the parking lot or scan the room for her.  

Just use equipment away from her if you are there at the same time.  Ignore her like she's any other stranger you don't know but you can offer a curt nod of the head & a tight lipped smile if you get cornered.  

No need to call in advance.  

Sounds good, just don’t want to add fuel to the fire by unexpectedly running into each other and leaving her feeling like she can’t get away from me while we both try to move on. 
 

I’ll leave it at that then and stick to AM 

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22 hours ago, Spec1 said:

Should I let my ex know there’s a possibility that we could run into each other at the gym ahead of time or just let it happen? 

How long ago was the breakup? Do you want to get back together?

No. If you don't want awkwardness, don't contact her. If you run into her, just be polite and go about your business.

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1 hour ago, Wiseman2 said:

How long ago was the breakup? Do you want to get back together?

No. If you don't want awkwardness, don't contact her. If you run into her, just be polite and go about your business.

 We broke up mid October, then tried to make it work a month later... but then mutually  realized because of the initial breakup there was new issues we never had before and both still going through that initial breakup process while trying to have a new one. 
 

in short, we both are hoping to come back together after we heal and work on ourselves. So yes, I hope we come back together in due time. 

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Don’t communicate with her. It will be awkward anyway. Just ignore it. My ex moved close by and I see him at a lot of places. Yea it’s weird, but just going to ignore him and go about my biz. If you’re on good terms with your ex, you can politely acknowledge and move along. 

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