Breadcrumbs 2 years on

[JL1210]

I hope I've come to the right place in order for me to come to some sort of conclusion. Me and my ex partner broke up 2+ years ago, it broke me for a long time, I didn't see it coming and I never thought I'd see the day where I didn't really care about it anymore, it's been a long time coming but I'm in a much better place in all aspects of my life. 

However... during the breakup right up until today, my ex has continued to contact me despite being in multiple other relationships, they're mostly breadcrumb texts but he does try to initiate conversation. I got fed up of this late last year as it was preventing me from fully moving on, so I eventually blocked his number and social media accounts something i'd done previously but I was never strong enough to carry it through for more than a few days. This time was different though and I just kinda forgot about it, I still think of him daily but they're just passing thoughts. In this time I met someone new which is going well. Recently though my ex contacted me via his work number, he is aware he is blocked on every platform, he had tried to text on his regular number with no response. I guess I just want to know why? He is again in another relationship, so why does he continue to message? 

[Marc878]

More breadcrumbs. Like a lot he doesn’t want you but wants to keep you dangling on his string.
 

As you look back you were the one keeping yourself tied up in this. No one else has that power over you. You were living on a hopium addiction. 
 

What did it get you?

[EAM19]

8 hours ago, JL1210 said:

I hope I've come to the right place in order for me to come to some sort of conclusion. Me and my ex partner broke up 2+ years ago, it broke me for a long time, I didn't see it coming and I never thought I'd see the day where I didn't really care about it anymore, it's been a long time coming but I'm in a much better place in all aspects of my life. 

However... during the breakup right up until today, my ex has continued to contact me despite being in multiple other relationships, they're mostly breadcrumb texts but he does try to initiate conversation. I got fed up of this late last year as it was preventing me from fully moving on, so I eventually blocked his number and social media accounts something i'd done previously but I was never strong enough to carry it through for more than a few days. This time was different though and I just kinda forgot about it, I still think of him daily but they're just passing thoughts. In this time I met someone new which is going well. Recently though my ex contacted me via his work number, he is aware he is blocked on every platform, he had tried to text on his regular number with no response. I guess I just want to know why? He is again in another relationship, so why does he continue to message? 

You're focusing too much on the negatives. What I mean is, saying "I was never strong enough to carry it on for a few days". But you are forgetting ALL YOUR GROWTH. 

People make breakups seem black and white. Getting past a heartbreak is long. Be proud of yourself for how far you have come. Its normal to think of them sometimes, it slowly slowly become less. And eventually you will block his number permanently. I can imagine lots of rhe reasons ou haven't is that you are still attached and still seeking validation. This isn't nice but its NORMAL. Everyone will feel like his, often more than once.

Don't be so hard on yourself. He is messaging because its his ego. Guys have a sixth sense for when you're moving on. He isn't the one for you clearly, bit you still have some attachment. Try a bit of therapy and a bit of self love. 

I applaud you for getting this far

[ShyViolet]

Oh man.  So he knew that he's blocked everywhere and he contacted you from a different number?  His behavior is borderline stalking.  Just block any number that he contacts you from.  You did the right thing in blocking.