Author Britney25 Posted February 25, 2021 Author Share Posted February 25, 2021 29 minutes ago, d0nnivain said: It's a bad decision because he's going to lure you in. He's looking for fun & games, no strings attached, no commitment. You don't want that so it's a waste of your time to meet him. He's a suave PLAYER. He's going to be dapper, charming & persuasive. He's going to say & do exactly what you need to hear to fall into his bed. How do you think he got 3 previous women to marry him? He's divorced that many times because he can't make a commitment. He likes the excitement of the chase Maybe you need the experience to prove that we are all right & you are not up to the task of dealing with a master manipulator like him. I fear for your emotional safety. I wish you all the best on this coffee date. I bet you are going to come back & report one of two things: 1. We had coffee & then I went home. Now he's not returning my calls, why? or 2. I met him & he was so wonderful, handsome, funny. You guys were wrong about him. We met & it was like we've known each other forever. The afternoon flew by so we decided to have dinner together. It was like a fairytale. He was so easy to talk to; he even bought champagne. The next morning he kissed me good-bye so tenderly after the best night of love making. I've never met anybody like him. He said he had to go into the office which is why he couldn't make me breakfast, so I went home early but he paid for my cab fare. <sigh> I think he might be the one. A few days or weeks after that he'll be bored & on to the next sucker. Not true and not funny. I dont sleep with a Man without a commitment and guess what a player doesnt do commitment. Anyway I am treating this like a casual coffee , I choose if I want to continue seeing him. Most likely I wont anyway. Relax. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Crazelnut Posted February 25, 2021 Share Posted February 25, 2021 You ask why all your friends are successfully coupling up and you're not. This is why -- you're wasting time with the wrong men. If your objective is a LTR and family, you aren't going to get that wasting your time going out with players who follow your Insta. Invest in a decent dating app like eHarmony or a good matchmaking service. Stop messing around with incompatible guys. And once you realize a guy is incompatible with your goal, stop seeing him. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted February 25, 2021 Share Posted February 25, 2021 19 minutes ago, Britney25 said: Stop everyone just stop. I'm not expecting anything from him. I know this will go nowhere and no I'm not even going to report back on how it went because some of you are mocking me for writing all the details here. I am not mocking you either. If you know it will go nowhere then why do you waste your time going? You should use that time to find a better suited date. I have 2 daughters and I give you the same advise I would give them in the same situation. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted February 25, 2021 Author Share Posted February 25, 2021 20 minutes ago, Crazelnut said: You ask why all your friends are successfully coupling up and you're not. This is why -- you're wasting time with the wrong men. If your objective is a LTR and family, you aren't going to get that wasting your time going out with players who follow your Insta. Invest in a decent dating app like eHarmony or a good matchmaking service. Stop messing around with incompatible guys. And once you realize a guy is incompatible with your goal, stop seeing him. Guess what my friend met their one thru Instagram and tinder! It's not all black AND white. Second of a coffee is not wasting time. I am free before tennis anyway. Omg 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted February 25, 2021 Author Share Posted February 25, 2021 6 minutes ago, Gaeta said: I am not mocking you either. If you know it will go nowhere then why do you waste your time going? You should use that time to find a better suited date. I have 2 daughters and I give you the same advise I would give them in the same situation. Because it doesn't hurt for me to be more open to some people. That's all. Who knows maybe it will be a nice convo over coffee and that's it. Why does this meeting make it so intimate for you? Its casual. Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted February 25, 2021 Share Posted February 25, 2021 16 minutes ago, Crazelnut said: You ask why all your friends are successfully coupling up and you're not. That's a good point. Britney: Why not ask help to these friends to help you meet someone? We all know a friend of a friend that's single and looking. Where did your friends meet their SO, about asking for their guidance. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted February 25, 2021 Author Share Posted February 25, 2021 7 minutes ago, Gaeta said: I am not mocking you either. If you know it will go nowhere then why do you waste your time going? You should use that time to find a better suited date. I have 2 daughters and I give you the same advise I would give them in the same situation. Plus I dont have any other date lined up that early. Come on. I appreciate your worries but it will be in a public place. I have no other dates so far. It's all good. Dont worry Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted February 25, 2021 Author Share Posted February 25, 2021 Just now, Gaeta said: That's a good point. Britney: Why not ask help to these friends to help you meet someone? We all know a friend of a friend that's single and looking. Where did your friends meet their SO, about asking for their guidance. Instagram and tinder Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted February 25, 2021 Author Share Posted February 25, 2021 1 minute ago, Gaeta said: That's a good point. Britney: Why not ask help to these friends to help you meet someone? We all know a friend of a friend that's single and looking. Where did your friends meet their SO, about asking for their guidance. Plus I am very very picky. I hate when people set me up. Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted February 25, 2021 Share Posted February 25, 2021 Just now, Britney25 said: Because it doesn't hurt for me to be more open to some people. That's all. Who knows maybe it will be a nice convo over coffee and that's it. Why does this meeting make it so intimate for you? Its casual. Where did I say it's intimate??? I said it's a waste of your time !! You're all over the place, you don't have a plan or any direction. You will spend the next 5 years going on dates with men that *you know* don't want marriage and babies? 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Versacehottie Posted February 25, 2021 Share Posted February 25, 2021 22 minutes ago, Crazelnut said: You ask why all your friends are successfully coupling up and you're not. This is why -- you're wasting time with the wrong men. If your objective is a LTR and family, you aren't going to get that wasting your time going out with players who follow your Insta. Invest in a decent dating app like eHarmony or a good matchmaking service. Stop messing around with incompatible guys. And once you realize a guy is incompatible with your goal, stop seeing him. This 100% ^^^^ was just about to say the same thing. The desperation is palatable. Not everyone is mocking you. How is it mocking you to point out that you are going down a road that leads you in the wrong direction? This one's not taking you to OZ. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted February 25, 2021 Share Posted February 25, 2021 2 minutes ago, Britney25 said: Plus I am very very picky. I hate when people set me up. At 30 you are ready to go out with 55 years old men. You are not picky!! 4 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Versacehottie Posted February 25, 2021 Share Posted February 25, 2021 1 minute ago, Britney25 said: Plus I am very very picky. I hate when people set me up. You are picky???? Sorry, your decision to go out with him speaks to being everything BUT picky. Serious question, do you think he has money or something? You are treating this like a gold digger situation. I missed where you originally said he had 3 kids but have seen it said since. Um, doubt he's gold digger material and the dynamic is all wrong is you are presenting yourself in this doormat fashion with no tough skin. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted February 25, 2021 Share Posted February 25, 2021 6 minutes ago, Britney25 said: Instagram and tinder Your friends married men 20-30 years older then them? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted February 25, 2021 Author Share Posted February 25, 2021 5 minutes ago, Gaeta said: Where did I say it's intimate??? I said it's a waste of your time !! You're all over the place, you don't have a plan or any direction. You will spend the next 5 years going on dates with men that *you know* don't want marriage and babies? Seriously??? I went out with men that want kids but nothing happen. Please dont assume something you dont know about me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted February 25, 2021 Author Share Posted February 25, 2021 Just now, Gaeta said: Your friends married men 20-30 years older then them? Irrelevant although one did Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted February 25, 2021 Author Share Posted February 25, 2021 4 minutes ago, Versacehottie said: You are picky???? Sorry, your decision to go out with him speaks to being everything BUT picky. Serious question, do you think he has money or something? You are treating this like a gold digger situation. I missed where you originally said he had 3 kids but have seen it said since. Um, doubt he's gold digger material and the dynamic is all wrong is you are presenting yourself in this doormat fashion with no tough skin. Yes he has money. Hes a mutlimulionaire. Hes not just a random guy. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted February 25, 2021 Author Share Posted February 25, 2021 2 minutes ago, Gaeta said: Your friends married men 20-30 years older then them? Ok I'm shutting down this post because now it's just turning in on attacking me for now reason. Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted February 25, 2021 Share Posted February 25, 2021 Just now, Britney25 said: Ok I'm shutting down this post because now it's just turning in on attacking me for now reason. I don't know how my question was attacking you. Britney: Good luck. Please be safe and don't believe everything that comes out of this man's mouth. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted February 25, 2021 Author Share Posted February 25, 2021 6 minutes ago, Gaeta said: At 30 you are ready to go out with 55 years old men. You are not picky Picky for me is different then for you. I look for men with money , morals etc. Like I said why dont you believe me it's just a meeting. @Poppy fields at least has my back and same mentality. Whatever happens happens. Omg it's not the end of the world. I would feel worse if I was sleeping with all of them. Link to post Share on other sites
6ix Posted February 25, 2021 Senior Moderators Share Posted February 25, 2021 1 hour ago, Britney25 said: Ok I'm shutting down this post because now it's just turning in on attacking me for now reason. Thread closed. Link to post Share on other sites
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