Wife [35] wants a threesome with another women, but not me, wants another guy [40]

[jonddd]

Wife [35 years old] has been bringing up that she feels like she's a little bisexual lately and that she has dreams about having sex with another woman. Yesterday she came up to me [40 years old] and said she's made up her mind and wants to have a threesome with another woman.

I thought about it and said well why not it could spice up our sex life a little. I said I'm OK with with it if you don't mind, and she says, "yes, but not with you, I would like a different guy"

I feel like this has put the final nail in the coffin for our marriage. I'm so ready to go see a divorce lawyer. How would you react to this?

[Mrin]

I would react exactly the same way. That's kind of "ender" IMHO.

[central]

Tell her fine, but you get to have a threesome FIRST with whomever you can get to join in (but not her).  Once that works (like, never!), she can go for it.

Or, just get a lawyer and file.  This has almost zero chance of ending well.

 

Edited February 25, 2021 by central

[Marc878]

I wouldn’t waste my time on someone like this.

[HiCrunchy]

I mean u could consider opening the marriage? Otherwise idk how this will work

[Harry Korsnes]

Just tell her she can have as manny 3somes after she sighns the papers, then see how she reacts. I think she's starting to bake the cake she wants to eat. 

Good luck to you. 

[elaine567]

Maybe it was a bit of a test you failed.
You would have been prepared to have sex with another woman...
Not only that you were happy for her to have sex with another woman too.
So much for monogamy and defending your vows, your marriage...

[Fletch Lives]

It sounds like she has fallen out of love with you. You could seek counseling to try to fix it, or divorce.

[Caauug]

A test? Ya, maybe.... I think it is closer to a confession. She has likely already been there and is just introducing the idea to you to see your response. You agreed to it, she can shed any guilt she has now..... All good in her eyes, she has done nothing wrong!!! The H is always the last one to know....

If you are going to keep her, will you get offered sloppy seconds when she gets home? Or will her needs be all met by others and yours be left untouched? Will it be a regular couple or more of a swingers group? What will she be bringing home? As in a belly full and STD, STI's??? If she falls pregnant, who kid will it be? We all know she will put your name on the birth certificate so you can pay child support... What colour or ethnic back ground would the child be?

Protect yourself (cover up and flush when finished), seek legal advice from the most hated D lawyer you can find, visit all the good ones in your area so she can't use them. Do not give her any information on your plans, be nice and control any communication with her. Do not loose your temper, give her no reason to fear you. Remember as a woman she has more options to destroy you, one phone call can put you in jail. If she gets angry at you, calmly leave!!! 

Edited February 27, 2021 by Caauug
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[Marc878]

^^^^ yep. It’s up to you whether you wallow in this or not. Some will stay hung up in these things for long periods of of time. You’ll never get that back.

You normally see “I’m fighting for my marriage “! 
 

If you have to do that you don’t have one.