ZHguy Posted March 1, 2021 Share Posted March 1, 2021 I'm used to flirting with guys my entire life. I'm bi. I'm hesitant when it comes to flirting. I think, what if I'm crossing the line. I think it's because I live in a Asian household and my sister is an extreme prude. People are weird about that in my house I think that's formed my opinion of talking to women (unfortunately) Back to me. When I want to flirt. Should I talk to her like I would want a man to talk to me? Or is that too disrespectful? Idk. I mean, I can get very dirty when I flirt with guys. With girls, it's like, 'Am I allowed to even talk about your but playfully?' Idk. Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted March 1, 2021 Share Posted March 1, 2021 (edited) Ya talkin dirty will get your face slapped. The only way to know how, is to know women. They work on an emotional level, not physical level like men do. You have to be able to read and understand their body language, social cues, etc. Can't just pull out some words and see what sticks. Women are like snowflakes...each one is unique. Edited March 1, 2021 by smackie9 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted March 2, 2021 Share Posted March 2, 2021 13 hours ago, ZHguy said: I can get very dirty when I flirt with guys. With girls, it's like, 'Am I allowed to even talk about your but playfully?' Idk. Depends what you want. If you want to come across as a player who only has sex in his mind sure try the butt compliment, lets see where it leads Link to post Share on other sites
Cookiesandough Posted March 2, 2021 Share Posted March 2, 2021 I wouldn’t flirt with guys dirty either until I knew them well. It’s a bit strange and forward to me unless you get a feel for them. That’s what flirting is about, though. It’s contextual. You have to read your audience and get a feel for what is appropriate in the moment. No one can give you a manual on it. It won’t work if it’s forced. It has to be natural. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted March 2, 2021 Share Posted March 2, 2021 There are plenty of youtube videos on this subject. I would suggest watching the ones women put on because they give you some background on how they are feeling when they are approached. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted March 13, 2021 Share Posted March 13, 2021 On 3/1/2021 at 2:52 PM, ZHguy said: I'm used to flirting with guys my entire life What has changed? Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Peach Posted March 17, 2021 Share Posted March 17, 2021 (edited) Are you a woman? Are you interested in dating lesbians? BIs? I've dated both (but date men more frequently). I'm happy to share my experiences. In short I find LGBT dating has different dynamics than straight dating. My experiences are people seem to move faster and often get offended if you want to slow things down. A large number of BI women also seem to be poly in my area. I'm in some BI groups and it's probably 80% poly. I tend to find these women want to hook up quickly but have met some where that's not the case. I haven't dating many lesbians but the ones I've met all wanted relationships quickly. Showing interest, asking questions, etc, just plays into general human nature. People like interest and to talk about themselves generally. You can try reaching out for touching like a quick arm tap and see if you can flirt from there. The knees can be good if sitting down. I tend to find a lot of straight women are touchy when talking (especially when drinking) so it could skew things if you're not sure. Do you have any LGBT groups or events? That might help you at least meet the types of women you're looking for. My city has a lesbian bar, LGBT center, lesbian/bi speed dating, etc. Edited March 17, 2021 by Miss Peach Link to post Share on other sites
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