zig Posted March 2, 2021 Share Posted March 2, 2021 Last night my wife and I had another couple over (good friends) to hang out. We were sitting around playing a board game and somehow my wife starts talking about my underwear to her girlfriend right in front of me and my guyfriend. She bought me some novelty underwear that's kind of kinky. They are ball pouched and one has mistletoe printed, one Santa and the other an elephant. Silly stuff. So my wife goes into detail about them and I'm so embarrassed because my friend is there. I didn't say anything and just laughed it off. Anyway, any ideas why my wife would do this? Link to post Share on other sites
FMW Posted March 2, 2021 Share Posted March 2, 2021 (edited) She probably just thought it was funny and got carried away with the details. Women do that with each other, she was just careless in not thinking about how YOU would feel about it, especially in front of your friend. I'm sure she meant no harm or disrespect. That doesn't mean you shouldn't let her know it embarrassed you. Edited March 2, 2021 by FMW Link to post Share on other sites
Fletch Lives Posted March 2, 2021 Share Posted March 2, 2021 This woman loves you that's why she's talking about you. This is a great thing. See the bigger picture. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
mark clemson Posted March 2, 2021 Share Posted March 2, 2021 There may have been no special motive, just carelessness/an assumption that this wouldn't cause you distress. Just tell her to please think first and take your feelings into account before she delves into such a personal matter in front of others. Link to post Share on other sites
Author zig Posted March 2, 2021 Author Share Posted March 2, 2021 Yeah so I asked her about it and what she said was that she never thought anything of it because her and her friend talk about underwear all the time. Which ones are good, bad and which ones each other should try out. I guess women just talk about underwear. It all makes sense now. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
usa1ah Posted March 2, 2021 Share Posted March 2, 2021 She could have been bragging maybe. You should have first hand knowledge if she was or not. Link to post Share on other sites
usa1ah Posted March 2, 2021 Share Posted March 2, 2021 I wasn’t laughing at his advice. Did you not read his advice? Get the big picture! Really, I actually agree with what he said 110%. Link to post Share on other sites
usa1ah Posted March 2, 2021 Share Posted March 2, 2021 4 hours ago, Fletch Lives said: This woman loves you that's why she's talking about you. This is a great thing. See the bigger picture. Great play on words. I agree 110% If his wife was unhappy with the bigger picture, I don’t think she would have said anything about the underwear. She might not of even bought them. Link to post Share on other sites
IslandSanctuary Posted March 2, 2021 Share Posted March 2, 2021 She's probably just not very bright. Personally I would have immediately added something she does that she would find embarrassing - being married it wouldn't be hard to wrack your brain quite quickly - then laughed too. Link to post Share on other sites
Lotsgoingon Posted March 3, 2021 Share Posted March 3, 2021 Hold on, this is funny stuff and cute and sexy. Sure, I might have not brought this up, but I don't see any sin or crime here. What, are you friends prudes? Uptight? Link to post Share on other sites
Author zig Posted March 3, 2021 Author Share Posted March 3, 2021 1 hour ago, Lotsgoingon said: Hold on, this is funny stuff and cute and sexy. Sure, I might have not brought this up, but I don't see any sin or crime here. What, are you friends prudes? Uptight? Not at all. I did find it rather sexy and I never said I was offended... just embarrassed. For the worst part I was just curious if this is something women do often and what the meaning is. I guess at least in this instance it means nothing. Link to post Share on other sites
Author zig Posted March 3, 2021 Author Share Posted March 3, 2021 2 hours ago, IslandSanctuary said: She's probably just not very bright. Personally I would have immediately added something she does that she would find embarrassing - being married it wouldn't be hard to wrack your brain quite quickly - then laughed too. I think I'm a bit more secure than that. Link to post Share on other sites
ShyViolet Posted March 3, 2021 Share Posted March 3, 2021 Different people have different senses of humor. Many people wouldn't think this is a big deal. You seem a bit more on the conservative side. I personally don't see what the big deal here is. Link to post Share on other sites
Lotsgoingon Posted March 3, 2021 Share Posted March 3, 2021 Mentioning this WAS unusually intimate, I will say. Definitely. But we leave in a culture today that doesn't consider lots of topics secret or private anymore. Is your wife awkward at all around people? Has she said other things around others that were out of place? Rethinking this, I definitely think this is odd, but I don't think it was meant to embarrass you. Seems a bad attempt at publicly flirting with you or boasting that you guys were getting a little kinky. Any chance she feels insecure about this other couple and got thrown off her game? When people are in social situations, sometimes they get rattled and say the dumbest things, which of course just leads to more insecurity. Did you wife "repair" the damage afterwards or later at home with you? She could probably read your expression to see that you weren't comfortable with her share. So a good move on her part then would have been to apologize, even if playfully. Link to post Share on other sites
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