jspice Posted March 9, 2021 Share Posted March 9, 2021 1 hour ago, sprotz said: @d0nnivain You shouldn't bring that first world mentality to a third world country. Unlike in first world developed countries, where people are self centered, In third world countries people are more communal, friendlier, more caring and loving. They socialize with each other far more frequently and have more free time. Extended families, relatives, friends frequently exist and they all help each other. Elders are taken care of by relatives. Modern middle class families who live in cities do have some first world traits but they are still not that self centered. Although many fear this kind of communal living might disappear as the third world is also industrializing. This dog eat dog society that exists in the developed, capitalist world is not how humans evolved to live. Humans are social beings, they evolved to live like how they did in the stone age, in groups of communities. The able bodied went out hunting and gathering and they bring back and share the spoils among everyone in the community. The young, sick and elderly are cared for by others. Also, among the real estate we own, one apartment is in my name, secondly, my mom doesn't mind helping me and my brothers out with her upcoming business, my mom knows me well . My mom knows that I probably can't survive on my own I come from an African country. The children of families work for their parents, especially when the children are 38. I got my first job when I was 18, a university student. From that day I contributed to the household and was responsible for taking care of my needs. My family provided a roof over my head and food to eat but I was responsible for paying for university, cleaning the house and being a productive family member. I do have a cousin like you. He’s 35. He has never had areal full time job. He stays at home and expects his father to pay for everything. He’s never earned a salary. He also has a house in his name. His father stole my house and gave it to him. That doesn’t mean anything. He’s never been a productive member of society. most normal people want nothing to do with him because he’s lazy and entitled. Link to post Share on other sites
ShyViolet Posted March 9, 2021 Share Posted March 9, 2021 5 hours ago, sprotz said: My mom knows that I probably can't survive on my own All the reasons you give as to why you don't work sound like excuses. First it's because you're on "holiday", then you blame our cultural differences, then it's supposedly because your mom doesn't mind supporting you, then it's because of a "relationship problem" (I have no idea what that means). You have a very long list of excuses. Meanwhile you're complaining that your father controls you, and you can't leave the place that you are in. If you want to live the rest of your life saying things like "I can't survive on my own", good luck to you. I'm sorry but honestly this all just sounds LAZY, nothing more. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Noproblem Posted March 11, 2021 Share Posted March 11, 2021 (edited) I see you have many options to go back , you just don't want to use them and want him to pay for you and then call him controlling, well if you want him to pay for you, then you gotta respect his wishes and go the hospital! You obviously can't even work by yourself and now you don't even want treatment! This is entitlement! FYI: before you say oh you don't understand 3rd world countries and what not. I grew up in the middle east. I understand! But I also understand you can leave if you put your mind to it, you just don't want to lose anything in such process! Edited March 11, 2021 by Noproblem 1 Link to post Share on other sites
spiderowl Posted March 11, 2021 Share Posted March 11, 2021 I think it best you find another way to get the money for your fare, OP. Your father does not have to pay it, even if he usually does. If you are mildly autistic, then I appreciate that this can affect relationships and other things. Is your father asking you to see the doctor again out of concern, do you think? What is the idea behind you seeing the doctor again - is something supposed to help? You do not have to go along with it but find out first if it is something that would help you. A formal diagnosis might help if you need support in the future or benefits. I think maybe you could talk to your mother about the situation and see what she says about the doctor appointment - does she think it is a good idea? How long will it take for you to finish uni? Are you able to study and do your work from where you are now? Link to post Share on other sites
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