spiderowl Posted May 2, 2021 Share Posted May 2, 2021 OP, this guy was extremely rude to you. Why would you want to see someone like that again? He has the potential to be an abuser. You would be making a mistake to stay in touch with a guy who would say that to you. Link to post Share on other sites
ShyViolet Posted May 3, 2021 Share Posted May 3, 2021 He cursed you out, told you to "F*** off", blocked you, told you not to contact him again...... and you're saying that you "would like to see him again?" Are you kidding? You don't need to see this guy again, you need to get into therapy. You are not ready to date. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted May 3, 2021 Share Posted May 3, 2021 22 hours ago, belladun said: Ended up sleeping together, not a selfish person, cuddled afterwards and had our good chats. Unfortunately it seems all he wanted was hooking up (pj movie night). Rather than trying to drag things out or turn it into a relationship, just delete and block him from all your social media and messaging apps Link to post Share on other sites
TeddyBundy1993 Posted May 7, 2021 Share Posted May 7, 2021 2 months. But it didn't worked out for long. Looks like you are looking for an ex to return. Better focus on moving on for now. You don't break up at first place if it's really important for you. But every relationship is different. And it depends on circumstances also. Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted May 7, 2021 Share Posted May 7, 2021 6 hours ago, TeddyBundy1993 said: . Looks like you are looking for an ex to return. Better focus on moving on for now. Agree. Just move on. Being apart doesn't miraculously change anyone or anything. It is just a relief from the nonsense so you feel better for a while. On/off relationships are the worst. It's incompatibilities, drama, stuck in a prison like bind,etc. Just delete and block him from all your social media and messaging apps. That way you can be free of nonsense and dragging the past around with you. Link to post Share on other sites
Happy727 Posted May 8, 2021 Share Posted May 8, 2021 So long story short, I briefly dated my ex 10 years ago, we didn’t really have contact at all minus a brief hello etc every so often. Now, I think he’s still in love with me. And he tells my best friend , (a mutual friend of his) that he’s still in love with me etc. ). Don’t give up hope. You never know what will happen. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TeddyBundy1993 Posted May 11, 2021 Share Posted May 11, 2021 (edited) On 5/8/2021 at 7:36 PM, Happy727 said: Don’t give up hope. This hope is what keeps people moving on. Yes people do get back together and it happens a lot. But dwelling and hoping for an ex to return is dreadful in my opinion specially if you were the one who is dumped. 10 years is a long time you are quite lucky id say Edited May 11, 2021 by a LoveShack.org Moderator formatting Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted May 11, 2021 Share Posted May 11, 2021 On 5/8/2021 at 11:36 AM, Happy727 said: So long story short, I briefly dated my ex 10 years ago, we didn’t really have contact at all minus a brief hello etc every so often. Now, I think he’s still in love with me. And he tells my best friend , (a mutual friend of his) that he’s still in love with me etc. ). Don’t give up hope. You never know what will happen. To be fair, though, your ex isn't single either (based on your thread) He has a long-term girlfriend that he's still dating. He hasn't returned to you. I would therefore be very careful hanging on to hope, both for you and for the OP. The situaitons aren't exactly very promising. Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted May 15, 2021 Share Posted May 15, 2021 1 hour ago, belladun said: he hopes I’m happier now. When was the last time he contacted you? What does he mean by "hopes you are happier now"? Who ended it and why were you that unhappy? Did you ever address the depression? Link to post Share on other sites
Author willnotdoit Posted May 15, 2021 Author Share Posted May 15, 2021 26 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said: When was the last time he contacted you? What does he mean by "hopes you are happier now"? Who ended it and why were you that unhappy? Did you ever address the depression? We spoke over 2 weeks ago. I guess he meant when I was angry, sad and hurt by the break up. He officially ended it. I don't have depression. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted May 15, 2021 Share Posted May 15, 2021 (edited) 20 minutes ago, belladun said: We spoke over 2 weeks ago. I guess he meant when I was angry, sad and hurt by the break up. He officially ended it. Ok, then don't bother with bread crumbs and nonsense communication. Pull the trigger and delete and block him. Dragging out a breakup for 6 mos. after dating a year, is time you could have healed, moved on and been happily dating someone who actually cares about you. The longer you drag out this angry, sad, hurt thing, the longer you will be angry, sad and hurt. It's entirely up to you. Edited May 15, 2021 by Wiseman2 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted May 15, 2021 Share Posted May 15, 2021 13 hours ago, belladun said: I've posted a few times and recently about my boyfriend missing me. I don't get the impression that he misses your relationship. I think he feels guilty for hurting you and probably misses being friends, but you are confusing this with missing the romantic relationship. Based on your previous threads, he doesn't regret breaking up. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
usa1ah Posted May 15, 2021 Share Posted May 15, 2021 The real question is this. Do you want the relationship to start again? It really doesn’t sound like he is happy about breaking up with you. If you don’t want to date again then you need to cut off all contact. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author willnotdoit Posted May 15, 2021 Author Share Posted May 15, 2021 51 minutes ago, usa1ah said: The real question is this. Do you want the relationship to start again? It really doesn’t sound like he is happy about breaking up with you. If you don’t want to date again then you need to cut off all contact. Yes I do. If I don't want to date again with him or in general? Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted May 16, 2021 Share Posted May 16, 2021 If you don't want to date him or in general, stop talking to him. Don't leave him or any other guy on if you have no intention of dating. If you want to get back together with him, tell him that in no uncertain terms. I don't see the point in trying this again. Reconciliation only works if you have resolved whatever broke you apart. Here he said that there was no alternative, meaning it can't be fixed. So why go back to something that wasn't working? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
ItsTheDay Posted May 18, 2021 Share Posted May 18, 2021 Sorry, but I'm not with the whole "It's over" and "move on", we're all human and we all make mistakes. We don't know what the issues or problems that caused the break up. Did he cheat on you? Did he physically hurt you? This are solid reasons to "move on" but if the reasons are repairable, I see nothing wrong with meeting. Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Peach Posted May 18, 2021 Share Posted May 18, 2021 I'm going through this too. I don't want him but I do want him to be farther moved on and be able to attend some things with groups we mutually enjoyed. I'm having to avoid a large part of my social network right now not to run into him. IMO you need to just keep things cut off for now. Get over each other. It is later in where you can see if you can come back as friends but you BOTH need to be over things first. Link to post Share on other sites
Author willnotdoit Posted May 25, 2021 Author Share Posted May 25, 2021 I've posted a few times and recently about my boyfriend missing me. Ex and I dated for a year and we broke up almost 6 months ago. When he did, he expressed a lot of doubt and still does to this day. He cried too when we broke up. He was initiating a lot of contact recently, wanting to see me and clear the air but I declined. I ended up responding to one of his messages once and for all about 2 months later. He replied to what I said and then said it has 'been very difficult from his end. He felt it was the most appropriate thing was to break up, which has been really hard and he misses me all the time. But what's the alternative? He then went on to say that it's really difficult but he tries to leave me alone as he doesn't quite know what to do as he doesn't want to mess with me. I replied and said I hope one day we can be on friendlier terms but I understand if we don’t keep in touch. 2 weeks later he texted me saying he would definitely like to know how I am/how life is but he’s conscious of not lingering around and making things more difficult and he hopes everything is good and I’m happier now. That he of course feels the same but it’s just the nature of break ups. I responded, in a kind way that we should probably not keep in contact as I still like him. He responded, apologised for how long it took him to get back to me and said he still likes me and cares about me but thinks probably not talking at the moment is the right thing. I responded and said that I didn’t want to seem sarcastic previously but wouldn’t the alternative be to work through our issues like an adult, I went onto say that we meshed well so maybe that’s why it’s been so hard and wished him well. He replied days later, apologising again. Said he would rather not get into this discussion over text and would much prefer in person, agreed that we meshed really well and we had a similar sense of humour. Said he hoped I had a good trip and then he hopes my university has been going well lately. I said that maybe we can revisit it soon and talk in person and I felt the same regarding talking about this over text. He then went onto ask when my exams are and a few other things. Thing is.. it's his birthday soon and unsure whether I should acknowledge it especially if we were ever to get back together. Mainly because after we broke up, one of the messages I sent him was that he forgot my birthday (at that stage, we had been broken up - fair enough) even when I had mentioned it numerous times together. I told him that I still remember his. Would I be hypocritical/jeopardising anything if I don't acknowledge it? Link to post Share on other sites
GeorgiaPeach1 Posted May 25, 2021 Share Posted May 25, 2021 You seem to be trying to hang on to something that's clearly over with and done. The faster you cut contact, the faster you can heal and move forward with your life. You are not ready to be friends, because you still have feelings for him. Only when you reach a point where you would be happy to seem HIM happy with SOMEONE ELSE, will there be any possibility of being friends. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted May 25, 2021 Share Posted May 25, 2021 An EX is somebody you used to know. They are not an active part of your life. If you are looking for reconciliation this could be an ice breaker. If you aren't, don't give him false hope. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author willnotdoit Posted May 25, 2021 Author Share Posted May 25, 2021 3 minutes ago, d0nnivain said: An EX is somebody you used to know. They are not an active part of your life. If you are looking for reconciliation this could be an ice breaker. If you aren't, don't give him false hope. So essentially say happy birthday if I want to reconcile but ignore if I don't? Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted May 25, 2021 Share Posted May 25, 2021 Pretty much 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author willnotdoit Posted May 25, 2021 Author Share Posted May 25, 2021 (edited) 3 minutes ago, d0nnivain said: Pretty much Keep it basic however and not too lovey-dovey/flirty? If I do send something. Edited May 25, 2021 by belladun Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted May 25, 2021 Share Posted May 25, 2021 Are you trying to reconcile? He'll get over the fleeting insult of you not wishing him happy birthday if he even notices. You have been his EX for 6 months. He will be deeply hurt if you only text 2 words: HB -- but don't want to get back together. It's cruel to be kind. Link to post Share on other sites
Mrin Posted May 25, 2021 Share Posted May 25, 2021 4 minutes ago, d0nnivain said: It's cruel to be kind Truth. I agree unless you are trying to reconcile, just leave him alone. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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