chibikitty Posted March 6, 2021 Share Posted March 6, 2021 I've been with my boyfriend for almost two years... I've known him for a lot longer than that. We used to work together, didn't see each other for a few years and then he shows up again, asks me out and the rest is history. It started out amazing, we were together all the time, I fell in love and never wanted to be apart from him. It was my first real, serious relationship. I've never been with anyone longer than three months before.. Now, it's changed. my feelings are not as intense as they used to be, I've tried so hard to make it feel the same, but it just doesn't. Everything he does makes me question our relationship. He gets on my nerves quite a lot without meaning to. I know I'm falling out of love, but I don't know if it's just a rough patch or I no longer want to be with him? I don't want to make the wrong decision and regret it in the future, but I also don't want to lead him on if that's the case. I don't know what to do, I'm so confused. Any advice?? Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted March 6, 2021 Share Posted March 6, 2021 (edited) If you're not sure of loving him, then you don't. You may care for him, have respect and affection, but you are no longer in love. It happens. He was your first real relationship and you've outgrown it. The best for you, and for him, is to breakup. You will both be fine and find and move to a better/deeper connection with someone else. Edited March 6, 2021 by Gaeta Link to post Share on other sites
Author chibikitty Posted March 6, 2021 Author Share Posted March 6, 2021 2 hours ago, Gaeta said: If you're not sure of loving him, then you don't. You may care for him, have respect and affection, but you are no longer in love. It happens. He was your first real relationship and you've outgrown it. The best for you, and for him, is to breakup. You will both be fine and find and move to a better/deeper connection with someone else. Thanks for the advice, I'm just worried about hurting him. Link to post Share on other sites
mrlee123 Posted March 7, 2021 Share Posted March 7, 2021 (edited) [redacted] has he ever been unfaithful? has he ever let you down or hurt you? has he been there for you through rough times?? the grass aint greener on the other side.. remove him out the equation for a couple weeks with zero contact or social media etc and how would you feel? if you wouldn't care then move on.. if you would then just sort your head out. Edited March 7, 2021 by a LoveShack.org Moderator group berating Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted March 7, 2021 Share Posted March 7, 2021 23 hours ago, chibikitty said: Everything he does makes me question our relationship. He gets on my nerves quite a lot without meaning to. Do you live together? How old is he? What type of things get on your nerves? Are you spending too much time together? Is there someone else who interests you? Don't string anyone along out of complacency. He may be as relieved to end it as you. Perhaps you get on his nerves too, but neither of you want to say that to each other. Link to post Share on other sites
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