Is my ex trying to manipulate me again or just being petty?

[Upsettingmoments]

My boyfriend and I broke up a few weeks ago. Specifically,  I was fed up with my ex controlling behavior among other things so I drove to his home filled up my car and gave him back the things he left my house including food clothes etc. I think he was shocked when I told him I didn’t love him anymore and I tried not to elaborate too much because I was told to keep it short and sweet when you’re breaking up with somebody. I was a bit concerned because he does have guns in his house so I want to get out very quickly so I just basically told him that I could not tolerate his lack of empathy and his controlling nature.
I asked him to get his things from my car which he did and he sent me one or two text a few days later with no words just simply pictures of his grandchildren. I’m not really sure what I’m supposed to do with that but I did respond.
Two weeks later I get an email text from him saying that he left there a few other things I have in my house that belong to him including golf clubs he bought me last year. Now when it came to gifts he was probably the most inconsiderate and cheap boyfriend that I’ve ever had (he was cheap in some respects but kept on bidding on expensive items for himself). In fact he promised me an apple watch and then a tablet but never got either. 
His idea of a gift was getting me something that he could also use. For example he was he’s a big wine drinker so one of my gifts for the holidays was a portable wine carrier that he said we can use when we go out. He also threw in some of his office pens and T-shirts from his office with the holiday gift along with a cheap bracelet. Now when it comes to bracelets, he was very aware that I had way too many bracelets since I leave it out on my counter and I don’t wear any of them especially not these days.
One month after the holiday he gave me supposedly the real gift that was on delayed order which consisted of a cheap necklace and matching yes you got it a bracelet! Nobody needs a bracelet here!
I realize any gift is a nice thought but he also would buy me some pots and pans and of course he primarily used when he visited me on the weekends. The golf clubs was the only thing I ever bought me during our 18 month courtship that was of any value and that was for me but not totally since he is a golf fanatic and he only wanted to play golf with me iso it’s sort of was self-serving as well.
by the way guess what he gave me for Valentine’s Day last month...women’s winter golf gloves ($20). I’m guessing he might want to give the golf clubs to his adult daughter, but it was a gift for me. I certainly didn’t ask for the gifts I gave him which were very expensive unlike his including a brand new tablet and designer bracelet he wanted a expensive weekend bag. When I came to the bag, I had filled it up with a lot of his things when I dropped off his stuff and he dumped his things out on the floor and threw the bag at me and said let the next one use this after I said don’t you want that?
He was insistent on coming to me immediately to pick up his items and I said that was not possible because I was out of town. This is not a true statement but I just couldn’t stomach seeing him right away. I asked him to come in 10 days. After some back-and-forth texting on that he finally agreed

. The question is should I give him the golf clubs back. I have learned golf  to some extent you somewhere because of him and it may be something I would like to use. Now he didn’t ask for other things back like the some of the pots and pans he bought me and something that I really liked from his garden that he brought to my house which like twirls around in the wind and it’s very pretty. Of course when he gets here I wouldn’t be surprised if he pulled it out of the ground and took it with them. I hate to be this petty! But really? After me treating him so well in terms of our relationship in our gifts and me getting the bottom of the barrel, should I just tell him I’m keeping the clubs? My other concern is that asking for the clubs back because as a ploy to see me since I can mail the other items easily. My feeling about that is just leave everything outside my garage and tell him unavailable if he tries going to the back of my house where my deck is I’ll close the doors and make sure I’m out of sight.
Does anyone have any suggestions in this regard?

[d0nnivain]

Once a gift is given it belongs to the recipient.  The clubs & the bracelet are yours.  You do not have to give them back.  If he left his golf clubs there, you should return those

[Upsettingmoments]

I returned his clubs already. 
should I tell him the clubs he bought me are mine to keep so can mail the rest of the items to him?

[Brooke02]

When you look at the golf clubs what are you gonna think of?... him! I would just give them back even the ones he gave you & be done with this guy.

Edited March 7, 2021 by Brooke02