ShyViolet Posted June 7, 2021 Share Posted June 7, 2021 Her behavior is sending a clear message that she's not interested in you any longer. Not to mention that if you and her were compatible, you wouldn't have broken up back in February. You are only stuck in limbo if you choose to be. Face reality and see that this doesn't have a future, and put an end to it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Onlyafterdark Posted June 7, 2021 Author Share Posted June 7, 2021 Basically i have been cheated on twice marriage 14 yrs and a 5 yr relationship. I think i brought my past into our relationship. The changes was me being less insecure. One of the reasons ive felt insecure now is the fact 7 yrs ago when we met she wanted to be a clothes model and a male friend was going to help her. I agreed so not to come across jealous etc. A month later he was sending dick pics and pics of himself having sex. She was honest and showed me but i asked her to tell him its not acceptable. She chose to block him for the next 6.5 yrs. A month after this i came across an email she sent him topless, his reply nice tits ! Fast foward to nov 2020 without telling me she called him a females name on her phone and was txting him again. I was feeling like there was another guy late night txts etc. Anyway when we broke feb 2021 she told me she had re added him. He still sends pics of ladies naked etc no idea why. Hes 61 shes 36 hes loaded and in an open relationship. obviously im not comfortable with it and at times made this known but she tells me it has nothing to do with me what shes doing in her life. She also helps a rich 96 yr old guy out shopping and hes always giving her gifts. Thats weird too Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted June 7, 2021 Share Posted June 7, 2021 It she trying to male money on sites like onlyfans? What's up withy the dirty old (rich) men? Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted June 7, 2021 Share Posted June 7, 2021 (edited) The two of you broke up in February. As she's no longer your girlfriend, she's 100% correct that her behaviour with other men has nothing to do with you. As a single woman, she's free to do what she wants with whoever she wants. If you don't like it, stop hooking up with her. And out of curiosity, how old are you? Have you been financially generous in terms of gifts or money to her? Edited June 7, 2021 by basil67 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Onlyafterdark Posted June 8, 2021 Author Share Posted June 8, 2021 7 hours ago, basil67 said: The two of you broke up in February. As she's no longer your girlfriend, she's 100% correct that her behaviour with other men has nothing to do with you. As a single woman, she's free to do what she wants with whoever she wants. If you don't like it, stop hooking up with her. And out of curiosity, how old are you? Have you been financially generous in terms of gifts or money to her? Iam 46 shes 36 been together 7 years. How can we be broke up if we are still seeing each other still sleeping together and going out for meals etc . She has told me she still loves me only a week ago. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted June 8, 2021 Share Posted June 8, 2021 You told us you'd broken up. And now you're hanging out, having sex with the ex. Having sex and hanging out doesn't mean that you're back on. Even her telling you that she loves you doesn't mean that you're back in the relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
spiderowl Posted June 27, 2021 Share Posted June 27, 2021 Sounds like she likes your company every so often but is not in love with you and has no intention of getting back together. Her relationship with this other guy is just weird and sordid. Why would you want to be involved with a woman who has no sense of what is normal behaviour? She has not been supportive with your children, by the sound of it. It's a good thing they are not staying with her anyway as she seems to have little sense of right or wrong. The only thing that is going to help you is for you to give this woman up. Cut her off and do not see her again for any reason. She is keeping you hanging on in the background and you are determined to stay with her even if she is mostly hurtful to you. Can you not see that you are putting yourself in this hurtful situation? You could be getting to know someone else who actually loves you and does not allow sordid guys to interact with her. Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted June 27, 2021 Share Posted June 27, 2021 On 6/8/2021 at 3:34 AM, Onlyafterdark said: Iam 46 shes 36 been together 7 years. How can we be broke up if we are still seeing each other still sleeping together and going out for meals etc . She has told me she still loves me only a week ago. Ok. Is this guy a sort of sugar daddy? Maybe it's a faux breakup so she's free to deal with this guy? Link to post Share on other sites
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