SingleDad82 Posted March 10, 2021 Share Posted March 10, 2021 (edited) So a bit of background information first: my ex and I dated for over 3 years and broke up last November. She is 28 and I am 38. We were having talks of marriage, had introduced each other to our kids, become a family! The only thing left to do was pop the question. Early in 2020 we started hitting some rocky spots. My ex was struggling with depression and anxiety and it was really affecting our ability to connect as a couple. Without going into the details of my faults and hers, eventually, I knew that if we were going to ever have a shot at actually getting married one day, we needed to breakup to take some time apart. That happened in late November.. period of no contact for almost 2 months following. I was blocked everywhere. Texts, Social media, everything. Only email was the open avenue to communicate. When we were broken up, my feeling for only got stronger. She is a huge part of my life and we were the very best of friends. Very strong love! So, recently my ex and I have rekindled our romance and connection. Things over the past week have been so great, including the last two nights! She tells me she loves me, we spend hours together sitting in my truck just talking and connecting and holding each other. I sent her flowers at work, to which she responded (in email) how much she loved them, along with a few selfies of her holding them and smiling! Over the past 2 nights, we have spend countless hours in my truck just talking and holding each other like we used to when we first met. I KNOW she loves me, and she makes it clear how much she does when we sit together. We talk about old memories we had, everything under the sun! But, I still have to either email her or call from a private number to speak to her. I know what you're thinking.. Why are you calling from a private number and emailing her to reach out? I would agree with you, it makes me feel like a creep too. But, when she answers, She is elated to hear from me and wants to hang out.. which is why this is so confusing! Why? If we are spending all this lengthy time together, why won't she unblock my number? I know last time we talked, she very kindly told me when I walked her to her door. "I don't want us to start doing this everyday, I want to take it slow, I'm not ready yet", to which I responded "Well, should I just back off and give you the space to reach out to me the next time you want to hang out?" to which she said immediately "NO!".. I then asked her, "What do YOU want? I will respect your boundaries, and I don't want to make things uncomfortable for you.".. She really couldn't give me a straight answer, so we both agreed to pray on it. So, whats going on? and what should I do? Edited March 10, 2021 by SingleDad82 update info Link to post Share on other sites
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