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My first love broke up with me


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aworriedgal

I was in a relationship for 1 year and a few months. He broke up with me only a week ago. The reason was he couldn't deal with my mental health anymore. I have been struggling for a while with depression, anxiety, stress and intense emotions. I thought we were going to last. It was going so well. We were perfect. Now he's gone and I will never see him again. I'm struggling so much, this is the worst thing I've ever gone through. I'm constantly thinking about the memories we had. I can't begin to imagine him with anyone else. It really hurts. I feel like a huge part of me has been ripped out. I don't feel like myself anymore. I feel like I can't live without him. How can someone just walk out of your life and become a stranger to you so quickly?

Has anyone here gone through something similar, and how did you cope with it?

 

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I'm so sorry you are hurting.  Being broken up with hurts but it is survivable even if it doesn't feel like it.  Hang in there. 

Just because he was your 1st love, doesn't mean he was your forever love.  It wasn't perfect.  It may have been great but nothing is perfect. 

Going forward never treat your SO like a therapist.  It's OK to be blue & share once in a while but you can't expect a SO to deal with your depression, anxiety & stress.  That is what professional therapy is for.   Stress is a part of life.  Learn to manage it.  There are book that teach you how to harness it & make it work for you.  There are techniques to calm yourself which also lessons anxiety:  meditation, mindfulness, deep breathing, prayer.  Pick the one or combo that works for you.   Exercise & movement can help with depression.  

Hang in there.  

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