Should I cancel a trip with my friends to accompany my bf?

[Vcontrerasi]

I am the girl who kissed my friend a few days ago Now I'm reconciling with my boyfriend, he forgave me

But something else happens, before being unfaithful to my boyfriend, I planned with my friends to go on vacation to a place close to where we wanted to go, I was in charge of inviting my boyfriend, I mean that he was not there when we planned this, that's why I invited him

But now after I was unfaithful and happened to a terrible situation and he forgave me

Now he told me that his sister invited him and me to travel to another place but on the same dates as the trip with my friends I must say that three of her sisters will be there too and they my boyfriend only looks more when it is vacations because they both go to university in another city so this trip would be to see the family because they will go to other cities I must say that the trip with my friends, all of them are from my city, even 2 of them go to the same university, so we see each other every week and my boyfriend will not look at his sisters for months

Should I cancel the trip with my friends to accompany my boyfriend and help us reconcile?

Edited March 12, 2021 by Vcontrerasi
I write in spanish not english

[usa1ah]

Who is more important to you?

 

That is who you should go with. 

[basil67]

Did your boyfriend know the dates of the trip with your friends with you before he booked the one with his family?  Have you paid anything towards the trip with your friends?

[HappilyMarried]

Hey @Vcontrerasijust asking is one of the friends on this trip you planned a while back the friend you kissed? If so I think you know the answer. If not I think you and your boyfriend need to sit down and have a heart to heart and reach a decision together. That way nothing can be said about it to each other if you guys decide together.

[Vcontrerasi]

2 hours ago, basil67 said:

¿Sabía tu novio las fechas del viaje con tus amigos contigo antes de reservar el de su familia? ¿Ha pagado algo por el viaje con sus 

Yes, he already knew, he has not paid anything for the trip with my friends, since I am inviting him, it was something I wanted to do after being unfaithful to the family trip his sister is inviting us, all paid

[Vcontrerasi]

2 hours ago, HappilyMarried said:

Oye @Vcontrerasipreguntando ¿es uno de los amigos en este viaje que planeaste hace un tiempo el amigo que besaste? Si es así, creo que sabe la respuesta. Si no, creo que tú y tu novio deben sentarse y tener un corazón a corazón y tomar una decisión juntos. De esa manera, no se podrá decir nada al respecto si deciden juntos.

no, this is another group of friends with boys and girls

[Miss Spider]

I would, if only because your relationship is on somewhat shaky ground and you’re trying to earn back your bf’s trust in your loyalty. So this would be “brownie points” in that direction

Edited March 12, 2021 by Shortskirtslonglashes

[HappilyMarried]

@Vcontrerasithanks for the answer to my first question. The 2nd part of my statement was have you and the boyfriend sat down and discussed both options? I think with what you guys just went through it is very important that you guys discuss this fully and come to a mutual decision on which trip to take. I also think it is very important that you both go together no matter which one it is. Best of luck!!

[usa1ah]

15 hours ago, basil67 said:

Did your boyfriend know the dates of the trip with your friends with you before he booked the one with his family?  Have you paid anything towards the trip with your friends?

I missed part of the thread. 

Edited March 13, 2021 by usa1ah

[d0nnivain]

It's entirely up to you.  I would not make the decision unilaterally.  I would ask my BF what he wanted me to do.  

How much money will you be out if you cancel at the last minute with your friends?  

Even though the guy you kissed will not be on this co-ed trip the fact that it is a co-ed trip with most likely make your BF uneasy at best.  He may also see it as you again choosing somebody else over him.  Or he may not care, which is why you have to talk to him

[Lotsgoingon]

First of all, cut all this guilt over a kiss. How old are you? Young people kiss other people just out of youthful naivete. Older folks like me can notice that hey, I'm feeling attracted to this person, let me pull back a little--physically and emotionally. Young people will lie on the bed with a friend, not knowing that they have crossed into dangerous territory.

But you stopped at a kiss. That's actually great! You caught yourself. Now had you had sex that's a different matter. 

Anyway, forget feeling all bad, what do YOU WANT to do? What would be the most fun? Start there. As someone else asked, is the guy you kissed going to be on the trip with friends? If not, go for it. 

 

[primer]

Understand that you will be disappointing your friends you had plans with. 

[Harry Korsnes]

Just wondering how young are you two? 

[Lotsgoingon]

@Vcontrerasihow old are you?

[Vcontrerasi]

4 hours ago, Lotsgoingon said:

@Vcontrerasi¿Cuantos años tienes?

I am 21 he is 20

[Vcontrerasi]

5 hours ago, Harry Korsnes said:

¿Me pregunto qué tan jóvenes son ustedes dos? 

I am 21 he is 20

[Vcontrerasi]

5 hours ago, primer said:

Comprende que decepcionarás a tus amigos con los que tenías planes. 

But is my boyfriend and our relationship is in bad moment

[Vcontrerasi]

On 12/3/2021 at 13:22, usa1ah said:

¿Quién es más importante para ti?

 

Ese es con quien deberías ir. 

Reconciation with boyfriend

[Vcontrerasi]

12 hours ago, d0nnivain said:

Depende completamente de ti. No tomaría la decisión unilateralmente. Le preguntaría a mi novio qué quería que hiciera.  

¿Cuánto dinero saldrás si cancelas en el último minuto con tus amigos?  

A pesar de que el chico al que besaste no estará en este viaje mixto, el hecho de que sea un viaje mixto probablemente hará que tu novio se sienta incómodo en el mejor de los casos. También puede verlo como que usted elige de nuevo a otra persona en lugar de él. O puede que no le importe, por eso tienes que hablar con él.

My bf want  to be in the trip with his sisters

[Vcontrerasi]

On 12/3/2021 at 16:51, HappilyMarried said:

@Vcontrerasigracias por la respuesta a mi primera pregunta. La segunda parte de mi declaración fue: ¿tú y el novio se sentaron y discutieron ambas opciones? Creo que, con lo que acaban de pasar, es muy importante que discutan esto a fondo y tomen una decisión mutua sobre qué viaje tomar. También creo que es muy importante que ambos vayan juntos sin importar cuál sea. ¡¡La mejor de las suertes!!

Thanks, the most important thing to me is reconciliate with my boyfriend

[Harry Korsnes]

Not to be rude but i think you should go with your heart. 

[Wiseman2]

9 hours ago, Vcontrerasi said:

I am 21 he is 20

Go with your friends. You can always reschedule the trip with your BF.

[NYAG]

On 3/12/2021 at 9:16 PM, Vcontrerasi said:

I am the girl who kissed my friend a few days ago Now I'm reconciling with my boyfriend, he forgave me

But something else happens, before being unfaithful to my boyfriend, I planned with my friends to go on vacation to a place close to where we wanted to go, I was in charge of inviting my boyfriend, I mean that he was not there when we planned this, that's why I invited him

But now after I was unfaithful and happened to a terrible situation and he forgave me

Now he told me that his sister invited him and me to travel to another place but on the same dates as the trip with my friends I must say that three of her sisters will be there too and they my boyfriend only looks more when it is vacations because they both go to university in another city so this trip would be to see the family because they will go to other cities I must say that the trip with my friends, all of them are from my city, even 2 of them go to the same university, so we see each other every week and my boyfriend will not look at his sisters for months

Should I cancel the trip with my friends to accompany my boyfriend and help us reconcile?

You should be having this conversation with your boyfriend. If you both agree this would be a nice trip for you both to help reconcile then do it.

[d0nnivain]

12 hours ago, Vcontrerasi said:

Thanks, the most important thing to me is reconciliate with my boyfriend

If the most important thing is reconciliation with your BF & he wants to go on the trip with his family, understand he will dump you if you go with your friends.  So figure out which you want more:  your BF or your friends?  If you go with your BF your friends will still be your friends.  If you go with your friends, your BF will be done with you.  

[Vcontrerasi]

9 hours ago, Wiseman2 said:

Ve con tus amigos. Siempre puedes reprogramar el viaje con tu novio .

but I could also reschedule with my friends right?