Long-Distance Dating

[conny23]

Dear people,☺️

I met someone in August and we have only seen each other once so far. He lives in another country and we met in September (it was a weekend trip). We both live in Europe and because of all the travel restrictions it is very difficult for us to see each other. Also, because of work, we can't take too long a holiday and go into quarantine.

The point is, we are still in touch and hear from each other more or less regularly and are having like virtual dates (FaceTime, messages, phone calls etc.) We get along very well and he says totally nice and sweet things (like he thinks about me a lot etc.). On the one hand it's nice, it gives me security that we are still in contact and I feel totally comfortable when we talk, but on the other hand the presence is clearly missing. It's not enough for me to enter into a relationship and I don't want to enter into a relationship via mobile phone. But somehow something is happening with my feelings. At the same time neither of us talks about our feelings directly. Then it sometimes happens that less comes from him and then I feel insecure. But that's probably because we just can't see each other at the moment. Of course it's hard to fall in love with someone over a mobile phone and there's no such thing as having big feelings at the moment, but I feel an energy and I definitely have butterflies in my stomach, I definitely want to see him again and we're also making plans about what we're going to do when we see each other again. Like I said, I'm attracted to him and I definitely want to see him at the next opportunity. But I'm not always quite sure if he feels the same way. Now my question is if any of you have experienced something similar and if I should just tell him how I feel and what I want? Or should I wait because obviously it would be much nicer to tell him everything in person

Thanks a lot and have a lovely day!!! 

[Wiseman2]

Keep in mind after one date that you are both still free to talk to and meet others.

If you want a sort of penpal, this is fine, but date local men.

[d0nnivain]

If the world was open you would probably have seen each other more, right?  That is the hopeful part of things.  However, with this pandemic nobody knows what the future brings.  The pessimism around that would not let me hope enough that an international relationship would be viable.  The present state of the world would kill my heart's ability to be open to this.   That pragmatic side would cause me not to try but that's me, not you.