Author KittieKat Posted March 19, 2021 Author Share Posted March 19, 2021 34 minutes ago, basil67 said: @KittieKat if it's true that you want to date him, what's with all your complaints about this being symptomatic of broad spread sexual harassment in the workplace? Or your desire for revenge? Or the disrespect for his wife? If you really thought his behaviour was bad, you wouldn't be into him. Yes, to all of the above. I am to blame too, but I am able to separate the situation especially if he does so if he doesn’t want to date or flirt and doesn’t want to do any type of business conversation then what does he want? Just to play games for the hell of it? Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted March 19, 2021 Share Posted March 19, 2021 (edited) 18 minutes ago, KittieKat said: What does he want? Just to play games for the hell of it? I don’t think he is the only one playing games here... Edited March 19, 2021 by BaileyB 7 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted March 19, 2021 Share Posted March 19, 2021 18 minutes ago, KittieKat said: Yes, to all of the above. I am to blame too, but I am able to separate the situation especially if he does so if he doesn’t want to date or flirt and doesn’t want to do any type of business conversation then what does he want? Just to play games for the hell of it? He probably just wants a bit of sex on the side. Link to post Share on other sites
Author KittieKat Posted March 19, 2021 Author Share Posted March 19, 2021 9 minutes ago, basil67 said: He probably just wants a bit of sex on the side. Yes I guess so, that’s what it looks like to me too. We will see sooner or later what happens. Maybe nothing maybe something. After all these opinions I’m exhausted thinking about it. Tomorrow is another day. Link to post Share on other sites
Snakesalive Posted March 19, 2021 Share Posted March 19, 2021 On 3/17/2021 at 11:50 AM, KittieKat said: Also the wife has seen the flirting going on but I guess she’s stuck with his ways so accepts it? Why is this any of your concern ? I’d suggest investing time in understanding your behaviour and motivation in wanting to “date” a married man would be more beneficial 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Snakesalive Posted March 19, 2021 Share Posted March 19, 2021 18 hours ago, KittieKat said: Yes it seems like my story is changing and mixed up. I will research all the suggestions and advice given here. Hopefully this post will help others see what’s been going on in today’s dating/work environment. I find this really insulting for the women out there who are genuine victims of sexual harassment in the workplace . For those who genuinely want to do their job without any hidden agenda , for those who are receiving attention that is genuinely unwanted . 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Negotaurus Posted March 19, 2021 Share Posted March 19, 2021 11 hours ago, KittieKat said: Yes it’s not a partnership I’m looking for it’s just a conversation, that’s it. You're just making excuses now in order to justify having him around. You're a grown woman, get real. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted March 19, 2021 Share Posted March 19, 2021 12 hours ago, KittieKat said: He’s the one that’s playing around with both his wife and me. He's married to his wife and you have a crush on a creep. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Author KittieKat Posted March 19, 2021 Author Share Posted March 19, 2021 5 hours ago, Wiseman2 said: He's married to his wife and you have a crush on a creep. Yes, probably this is a pretty good assessment at this point. I will see how he approaches it next time and if he’s just interested in the side sex things that’s okay too. I can decide at the time if I want that too or not. I’m okay with not working together, I definitely can find someone else to work on the project with me. It’s probably a good idea I don’t share it with him anyways. Link to post Share on other sites
LynneVicious Posted March 19, 2021 Share Posted March 19, 2021 Op, maybe I missed it somewhere, but how old are you? And the mm? Link to post Share on other sites
vla1120 Posted March 19, 2021 Share Posted March 19, 2021 22 minutes ago, KittieKat said: Yes, probably this is a pretty good assessment at this point. I will see how he approaches it next time and if he’s just interested in the side sex things that’s okay too. I can decide at the time if I want that too or not. I’m okay with not working together, I definitely can find someone else to work on the project with me. It’s probably a good idea I don’t share it with him anyways. Of the approximately 3.9 billion men in the world, is this really the man you want to get involved with? Based on many of the posts out here by OW who regret getting involved with a MM, you could surmise your future will be fraught with pain and misery. Why not avoid that and tell this inconsiderate misogynistic loser to pack sand next time he comes on to you? 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author KittieKat Posted March 19, 2021 Author Share Posted March 19, 2021 38 minutes ago, LynneVicious said: Op, maybe I missed it somewhere, but how old are you? And the mm? 27 minutes ago, vla1120 said: Of the approximately 3.9 billion men in the world, is this really the man you want to get involved with? Based on many of the posts out here by OW who regret getting involved with a MM, you could surmise your future will be fraught with pain and misery. Why not avoid that and tell this inconsiderate misogynistic loser to pack sand next time he comes on to you? This is a helpful opinion and gives me the energy to do just that but like I said before I don’t know how I will react if I do see him again. He has a certain way about him that makes me want to hook up but I don’t like that this is the case either. Maybe if he pisses me off one more time I will want nothing more to do with him. Link to post Share on other sites
NYAG Posted March 19, 2021 Share Posted March 19, 2021 1 hour ago, KittieKat said: Yes, probably this is a pretty good assessment at this point. I will see how he approaches it next time and if he’s just interested in the side sex things that’s okay too. I can decide at the time if I want that too or not. I’m okay with not working together, I definitely can find someone else to work on the project with me. It’s probably a good idea I don’t share it with him anyways. Stop making excuses for him. It sounds like you have already decided if he makes any move on you, you're going with it. Just admit it, you want to date this guy regardless. Link to post Share on other sites
Author KittieKat Posted March 19, 2021 Author Share Posted March 19, 2021 20 minutes ago, KittieKat said: This is a helpful opinion and gives me the energy to do just that but like I said before I don’t know how I will react if I do see him again. He has a certain way about him that makes me want to hook up but I don’t like that this is the case either. Maybe if he pisses me off one more time I will want nothing more to do with him. Yes, that’s what it’s looking like more and more. Link to post Share on other sites
vla1120 Posted March 19, 2021 Share Posted March 19, 2021 41 minutes ago, KittieKat said: He has a certain way about him that makes me want to hook up but I don’t like that this is the case either. Maybe if he pisses me off one more time I will want nothing more to do with him. They all have a certain way about them. They catch you in their web of lies ("my wife doesn't understand me"..."we sleep in separate rooms"..."she hasn't had sex with me in years"..."we're only together for the children"...) Personally, I hope he pisses you off one more time.😉 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Seliana Posted March 19, 2021 Share Posted March 19, 2021 4 hours ago, KittieKat said: Yes, probably this is a pretty good assessment at this point. I will see how he approaches it next time and if he’s just interested in the side sex things that’s okay too. I can decide at the time if I want that too or not. I’m okay with not working together, I definitely can find someone else to work on the project with me. It’s probably a good idea I don’t share it with him anyways. It's this kind of "thinking" that encourages MM in their destructive behaviors and make me have no pity for OW. I really hope you're super young, b/c you sure have a lot of growing up to do mentally. 4 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author KittieKat Posted March 20, 2021 Author Share Posted March 20, 2021 3 hours ago, Seliana said: It's this kind of "thinking" that encourages MM in their destructive behaviors and make me have no pity for OW. I really hope you're super young, b/c you sure have a lot of growing up to do mentally. Yes but at least I’m willing to discuss the situation. I think there’s a negative tone here about the other women and it’s okay I guess but they have their feelings and are willing to discuss it. Where as the guys just go about their business with no concerns for either wives nor the side girlfriends. Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted March 20, 2021 Share Posted March 20, 2021 But you're not dating him. You just have a crush on a sort of lecherous type of guy. You must be starving for attention if this appeals to you, no? 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author KittieKat Posted March 20, 2021 Author Share Posted March 20, 2021 2 hours ago, Wiseman2 said: But you're not dating him. You just have a crush on a sort of lecherous type of guy. You must be starving for attention if this appeals to you, no? No I’m not starving for attention in fact I have a lot of attention maybe too much. Just happens that I like this particular one, crushes happen to people all the time. Now it’s up to me to decide how to react to it. A crush can happen with a single guy too, the single guy also plays games, I’m not making excuses for myself and my feelings. This guy is not the ideal person and is not worth it but that’s a choice I will make either way. The opinions posted here are great and helpful. I appreciate all the answers and suggestions. These type of guys are chosen by their wives, prior to marriage they also had a crush, a feeling and believed and trusted them until the rest of their character is revealed and unfortunately after many years, after years of ups and downs their true colors come out and hurt their loved ones. I’m not saying its a good thing to get involved, eventually people do break up regardless of how hard they try to make it work. That goes for all kinds of relationships. One never knows and one cannot say for sure what is going on within a marriage. To make time to analyze is a good thing better than just jumping into things blindly with no regards whatsoever, no? It helps to discuss the situation with a variety of minds. Link to post Share on other sites
jah526 Posted March 20, 2021 Share Posted March 20, 2021 8 minutes ago, KittieKat said: To make time to analyze is a good thing better than just jumping into things blindly with no regards whatsoever, no? To make time to analyze whether to get involved with a married man? That’s like saying it’s better to analyze whether to stick my hand on a hot burner instead of just doing it. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Author KittieKat Posted March 20, 2021 Author Share Posted March 20, 2021 3 minutes ago, jah526 said: To make time to analyze whether to get involved with a married man? That’s like saying it’s better to analyze whether to stick my hand on a hot burner instead of just doing it. Ha ha ha, that’s funny. The married men that are doing this type of thing will do it no matter what, they are going to find the attention the are craving and looking for regardless. Of course it’s better for me to take the time here and discuss, then just going ahead with it. That’s the point of these forums etc. Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted March 20, 2021 Share Posted March 20, 2021 Respectfully, these ^^^ are just words. Sure, it’s great to have this discussion... You now see the brick wall ahead but you are bound and determined to drive head first into it. Good luck to you. 7 Link to post Share on other sites
Author KittieKat Posted March 20, 2021 Author Share Posted March 20, 2021 10 minutes ago, BaileyB said: Respectfully, these ^^^ are just words. Sure, it’s great to have this discussion... You now see the brick wall ahead but you are bound and determined to drive head first into it. Good luck to you. Dont be so sure about that, it’s easy to judge and not so easy to be criticized. Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted March 20, 2021 Share Posted March 20, 2021 9 minutes ago, KittieKat said: Dont be so sure about that, it’s easy to judge and not so easy to be criticized. I’m not judging you. I’m just saying, you talk in circles and it’s very obvious what you intend to do. I’m honestly not sure why you posted. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Author KittieKat Posted March 20, 2021 Author Share Posted March 20, 2021 6 minutes ago, BaileyB said: I’m not judging you. I’m just saying, you talk in circles and it’s very obvious what you intend to do. I’m honestly not sure why you posted. I post for the same reasons the others post, I don’t see anyone else making their final decision so concretely or immediately. Link to post Share on other sites
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