Whaatamidoing Posted March 19, 2021 Share Posted March 19, 2021 Hello, So he sent me a text. It said, 'I liked it when you loved me, we are ace together'. The woman in me is trying not to look at every letter in every word and dissect what he means by it. I am looking at it two ways 1) he misses me and wanted to say something or 2) he is missing his ego being stroked. There is no mention of me, how I feel or the situation. Just that he liked the attention. Am I being cynical or realistic? I haven't responded. I don't think I will because I think I feel insulted by it. I have typed out many messages to him that I have not sent and none have been quite so about me. I have wanted to tell him I miss him, or I miss us or I miss him making me laugh. He wrote we ARE ace together. What does that even mean? We are not ace and neither are we together. I hate this. Link to post Share on other sites
jah526 Posted March 19, 2021 Share Posted March 19, 2021 Ugh, sorry. Toying with someone's emotions is a terrible thing to do, and I have to think a lot of these guys are borderline sociopathic to do it. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted March 19, 2021 Share Posted March 19, 2021 He’s just throwing it out there, to see if you are still angry or if maybe you are ready for things to go back to normal... Remember, normal is - he gets what he wants, and you do not. Stay strong. You got this. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
NYAG Posted March 19, 2021 Share Posted March 19, 2021 57 minutes ago, Whaatamidoing said: Hello, So he sent me a text. It said, 'I liked it when you loved me, we are ace together'. The woman in me is trying not to look at every letter in every word and dissect what he means by it. I am looking at it two ways 1) he misses me and wanted to say something or 2) he is missing his ego being stroked. There is no mention of me, how I feel or the situation. Just that he liked the attention. Am I being cynical or realistic? I haven't responded. I don't think I will because I think I feel insulted by it. I have typed out many messages to him that I have not sent and none have been quite so about me. I have wanted to tell him I miss him, or I miss us or I miss him making me laugh. He wrote we ARE ace together. What does that even mean? We are not ace and neither are we together. I hate this. Notice how he said 'when you loved me'. No mention of his actual feeling for you. It tells you everything you need to know. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Whaatamidoing Posted March 19, 2021 Author Share Posted March 19, 2021 Normal is exactly that. All about him. Its so sad. Its awful to think about the person who once made me feel so wonderful now makes me feel so sad. He could have written any words in the world and those are the ones he chose. Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted March 19, 2021 Share Posted March 19, 2021 24 minutes ago, Whaatamidoing said: Normal is exactly that. All about him. Its so sad. Its awful to think about the person who once made me feel so wonderful now makes me feel so sad. He could have written any words in the world and those are the ones he chose. It really does tell you everything you need to know... Do something nice for yourself today... be kind to yourself and know that you are on the path to healing... 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Whaatamidoing Posted March 19, 2021 Author Share Posted March 19, 2021 Thank you @BaileyB always such wise words. I have really appreciated everyone support in this. When I wobble this i where I come and remind myself that im doing the right thing. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Snakesalive Posted March 19, 2021 Share Posted March 19, 2021 7 hours ago, Whaatamidoing said: Normal is exactly that. All about him. Its so sad. Its awful to think about the person who once made me feel so wonderful now makes me feel so sad. He could have written any words in the world and those are the ones he chose. I feel sad I didn’t see this earlier so I could tell you how much I understand exactly and I mean exactly how you feel. I remember so much that moment when the text comes and the way we pore over every letter , looking at it from every single angle -it’s exhausting. Hes reaching out , testing the water trying to hook you in again -testing your boundaries the ones you’ve fought so hard to build . I got a similar kind of message and it broke my heart -I wasted so much energy on him which left so little energy left for me -the person who had to quit her job from his company and is trying to rebuild her life . I still can’t believe that someone who meant so much to me could just discard me the way he did after so long . The person who could send such heart felt (or so it seemed ) text messages in the love bombing stage to ones that said when we broke up -“I didn’t feel like I lied when I said I loved you -sorry “ what ??? I’m 3 months in and every day is tough but please take some comfort that it will get better -you deserve more -stay strong we’re all here for you xo 3 Link to post Share on other sites
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