Marc878 Posted April 1, 2021 Share Posted April 1, 2021 No contact is for you. It’s not game playing. It’s to move on from someone who doesn’t want you. Self protection. Link to post Share on other sites
Author whatitdo Posted April 1, 2021 Author Share Posted April 1, 2021 21 minutes ago, Marc878 said: You never had a chance. The opportunity was there for her to engage. She didn’t and gave you the big brush off. Most women would welcome someone who took an interest in their child. What’s that tell you? Most like you want it to be your fault perhaps with the faulty thinking if I was the problem I can fix it. It can’t be her because shes so perfect. I must keep her on that pedestal I put her on? You should wake up to reality. Or keep yourself in limbo. Over what? Well to be clear the break up was 90% my fault. I take full accountability for that after some counseling and such, but before then I knew it was my fault..... but no she isn’t perfect... not by a long shot. I have the ability to fix the actual problem that broke us up, which is why I reached out yesterday. But she brushed me off so I’m back to NC, moving on with my life Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted April 1, 2021 Share Posted April 1, 2021 Sometimes in life things don't work out like we want. Link to post Share on other sites
Author whatitdo Posted April 1, 2021 Author Share Posted April 1, 2021 44 minutes ago, Marc878 said: Sometimes in life things don't work out like we want. Very true sir very true. Like I said it’s just day one of NC all over again Link to post Share on other sites
Interstellar Posted April 1, 2021 Share Posted April 1, 2021 (edited) On 3/28/2021 at 1:20 AM, whatitdo said: Ok so I’m not crazy.... she is just playing me still Yes. Edited April 1, 2021 by Interstellar Link to post Share on other sites
dramafreezone Posted April 1, 2021 Share Posted April 1, 2021 (edited) On 3/27/2021 at 7:14 PM, whatitdo said: Ran into my ex Thursday after 4 months of NC we talked for like 45 mins while shopping at Walmart. She told me that she had been thinking about me, and she never told her son it was over, rather she said I went to go visit family. So I told her well I still have his Christmas present so I can mail it or drop it off to him. She ask why I didn’t call and see if I could drop it off I explained she blocked me and so I figured she didn’t want to hear from me. She informed me that she had unblocked me..... So she text me her number, we got to the car I helped load her car and went to walk away, she stopped me and gave me a hug. Later on I texted her and say it was nice to run into her and I hope she has a good evening. she said that it was great to see me and she misses me. I said likewise. Hour or so later she sent me some pics that she had already showed me. Couple text and over. Next day she invited me over to see her son.... I informed I couldn’t make it but I could come by Saturday or Sunday, she said make it Monday cause she is going camping with a “friend” wtf?? Why did she have to tell me she is camping with a friend (yes a guy based on our convo at Walmart), and two why couldn’t I just take the gift to her son while he was at grandma house as her family loves me? Ah you got suckered in. She wanted to see she still "had it." Lesson learned. Just remember that some people get a kick out of fricking with their exes. Next time, you don't get iinto a 45 minute convo. You talk for 5 minutes, remain cordial, then keep it moving. The most important thing we can give anyone else is our time, and she saw that she could still have as much of yours as she wanted. From here on out, she doesn't get your time. Edited April 1, 2021 by dramafreezone Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted April 1, 2021 Share Posted April 1, 2021 The only one that can play you in these situations is yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
Author whatitdo Posted April 1, 2021 Author Share Posted April 1, 2021 18 minutes ago, dramafreezone said: Ah you got suckered in. She wanted to see she still "had it." Lesson learned. Just remember that some people get a kick out of fricking with their exes. Next time, you don't get iinto a 45 minute convo. You talk for 5 minutes, remain cordial, then keep it moving. The most important thing we can give anyone else is our time, and she saw that she could still have as much of yours as she wanted. From here on out, she doesn't get your time. Maaaaaaaaaaan..... this couldn’t be more spot on. Think it’s sad she played with her kids feelings like that.. but you are so right it’s unreal. I fell for the oke dok..... in my ignorance I just didn’t see the kid being used as part of it. Now I know better Link to post Share on other sites
Author whatitdo Posted April 1, 2021 Author Share Posted April 1, 2021 18 minutes ago, Marc878 said: The only one that can play you in these situations is yourself. Yes, I allowed my heart to play my mind. She didn’t break no contact on purpose. It was an accident.... if we didn’t run into each other she wouldn’t have reached out Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted April 1, 2021 Share Posted April 1, 2021 Just now, whatitdo said: Yes, I allowed my heart to play my mind. She didn’t break no contact on purpose. It was an accident.... if we didn’t run into each other she wouldn’t have reached out You aren’t alone. It happens a lot. Hopium is a strong addiction. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted April 1, 2021 Share Posted April 1, 2021 I’d block her on everything. Out of sight out of mind. Link to post Share on other sites
Author whatitdo Posted April 1, 2021 Author Share Posted April 1, 2021 48 minutes ago, Marc878 said: I’d block her on everything. Out of sight out of mind. Smart man Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted April 1, 2021 Share Posted April 1, 2021 Unfortunately it seems like she's into camping guy and figured you'd babysit while she showered and got ready for her date. Step away from this. When someone breaks up, it's over . 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author whatitdo Posted April 3, 2021 Author Share Posted April 3, 2021 On 4/1/2021 at 12:22 AM, Wiseman2 said: Unfortunately it seems like she's into camping guy and figured you'd babysit while she showered and got ready for her date. Step away from this. When someone breaks up, it's over . Wtf???? Now 4-5 later she hits me up like nothing ??? As if I never texted her.... just hey how’s your day going Link to post Share on other sites
CommanderCody799 Posted April 4, 2021 Share Posted April 4, 2021 3 hours ago, whatitdo said: Wtf???? Now 4-5 later she hits me up like nothing What do you mean? Link to post Share on other sites
assertives Posted April 4, 2021 Share Posted April 4, 2021 And this is why you block her. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
everyoneComesHereOnc Posted April 4, 2021 Share Posted April 4, 2021 The power is yours. If you can don’t reply. If you leave it long enough she may offer you the world. You live local so will bump into her in a few months or years anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
trident_2020 Posted April 4, 2021 Share Posted April 4, 2021 11 hours ago, whatitdo said: Wtf???? Now 4-5 later she hits me up like nothing ??? As if I never texted her.... just hey how’s your day going It's called "breadcrumbs". Google it. Stop being so surprised and reactive. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted April 4, 2021 Share Posted April 4, 2021 11 hours ago, whatitdo said: Wtf???? Now 4-5 later she hits me up like nothing ??? As if I never texted her.... just hey how’s your day going Why are you pretending to be surprised by this? Link to post Share on other sites
Author whatitdo Posted April 4, 2021 Author Share Posted April 4, 2021 6 hours ago, ExpatInItaly said: Why are you pretending to be surprised by this? I was surprised and then she asked me if I was busy and wanted to chat..... I explained I didn’t have time at the moment but maybe tomorrow .... of course she said NVM, GN Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted April 4, 2021 Share Posted April 4, 2021 2 hours ago, whatitdo said: I was surprised and then she asked me if I was busy and wanted to chat..... I explained I didn’t have time at the moment but maybe tomorrow .... of course she said NVM, GN I don't know why any of this surprises you. You are playing games as much as she is now, though, so you must be enjoying her attention. Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted April 4, 2021 Share Posted April 4, 2021 Ignore no contact means no contact you aren’t there yet. Link to post Share on other sites
Author whatitdo Posted April 4, 2021 Author Share Posted April 4, 2021 2 hours ago, ExpatInItaly said: I don't know why any of this surprises you. You are playing games as much as she is now, though, so you must be enjoying her attention. I wasn’t playing games.... I had things going on.... didn’t have time to chat with her Link to post Share on other sites
Author whatitdo Posted April 4, 2021 Author Share Posted April 4, 2021 47 minutes ago, Marc878 said: Ignore no contact means no contact you aren’t there yet. I think your right Link to post Share on other sites
Author whatitdo Posted April 5, 2021 Author Share Posted April 5, 2021 3 hours ago, Marc878 said: Ignore no contact means no contact you aren’t there yet. Was upstairs and phone and I answered in from my air pod.... surprise it was my ex... She basically wanted to know what she did wrong and how come I wasn’t able to completely open up to her, and if I was seeing anybody. That her son is mad at her and blames her for me not being there etc Said she needs to know for “closure” wtf does that mean I don’t want to redo the break up convo Link to post Share on other sites
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