What do I do about this situation with a woman at work?

[ironpony]

In my job a female co-worker asked me out.  I liked it and was actually going to do the same thing, but she got me to first.  Normally I do not like dating a co-worker but it's a temporary seasonal job, so I figured it's more okay that way, if we are both going to be gone in a few weeks probably.  Let's call her co-worker 1.  So we exchanged numbers and started texting since and getting to know each other more.

While we were working on our break, she texted me and say that another female coworker, let's call her coworker 2, was saying how cute I am and how she wants me and she said this in front of coworker 1 since they work in the same area with each other, and I do not work in that area with them, normally.  I thought this was strange of coworker 2 to tell her and I told her that I have not actually met coworker 2 but just seen her around while working, so it's strange how co-worker 2 would randomly tell another co-worker this.

Now me and co-worker 1 planned on hanging out next week sometime or after, once the overtime lets up and there is more time.  Now last week, close to the weekend, coworker 2 messaged me on facebook and found me on there.  She said that I am going over to her new place next week.  I thought this was coming on strong so I said "what am I coming over for?"  And she said "what do you think?"  So I said "oh is that it?  And why am I coming over for that?".  And she said "Because I said so".  And I said "Oh I see".  I sort of played along to see where this was going but I was not serious about coming over and I didn't say I would directly, just said Oh I see, not knowing how to respond.  But she was coming on too strong for me so I didn't want to, and just ignored her after that.

So the next day, on the weekend, the girl I liked, co-worker 1, messaged me with a screen shot of co-worker 2's facebook messages from me and she replied that I should enjoy my invitation with coworker 2, and to not talk to her again.

Was I too nice to coworker 2 that I shouldn't have been causing her to send the screen shot to coworker 1, or what is going on here, and how should I handle this situation now?  I could have told co-worker 1 that co-worker 2 sent me those messages on facebook beforehand, but I thought it would have been awkward to tell her about that.

Edited March 28, 2021 by ironpony

[Wiseman2]

Stop messaging either of them. They're playing games.

Even if you are leaving, it's still a setup for sexual harassment if things go sideways.

Be professional at work and date outside of the workplace.

If they are sending screenshots to each other stop loading the gun with that.

 

[ironpony]

Okay thanks, I will do that.  Do you think I should report coworker 2 to the boss since she found me on facebook, when I didn't even give her any information on how to find me either?

[ShyViolet]

They both sound crazy.  Keep your distance from both of them, they are playing games with you for sure.  They sound immature.

[ironpony]

Okay thanks, I'll do that.  Thanks.

[dramafreezone]

On 3/28/2021 at 1:26 AM, ironpony said:

In my job a female co-worker asked me out.  I liked it and was actually going to do the same thing, but she got me to first.  Normally I do not like dating a co-worker but it's a temporary seasonal job, so I figured it's more okay that way, if we are both going to be gone in a few weeks probably.  Let's call her co-worker 1.  So we exchanged numbers and started texting since and getting to know each other more.

While we were working on our break, she texted me and say that another female coworker, let's call her coworker 2, was saying how cute I am and how she wants me and she said this in front of coworker 1 since they work in the same area with each other, and I do not work in that area with them, normally.  I thought this was strange of coworker 2 to tell her and I told her that I have not actually met coworker 2 but just seen her around while working, so it's strange how co-worker 2 would randomly tell another co-worker this.

Now me and co-worker 1 planned on hanging out next week sometime or after, once the overtime lets up and there is more time.  Now last week, close to the weekend, coworker 2 messaged me on facebook and found me on there.  She said that I am going over to her new place next week.  I thought this was coming on strong so I said "what am I coming over for?"  And she said "what do you think?"  So I said "oh is that it?  And why am I coming over for that?".  And she said "Because I said so".  And I said "Oh I see".  I sort of played along to see where this was going but I was not serious about coming over and I didn't say I would directly, just said Oh I see, not knowing how to respond.  But she was coming on too strong for me so I didn't want to, and just ignored her after that.

So the next day, on the weekend, the girl I liked, co-worker 1, messaged me with a screen shot of co-worker 2's facebook messages from me and she replied that I should enjoy my invitation with coworker 2, and to not talk to her again.

Was I too nice to coworker 2 that I shouldn't have been causing her to send the screen shot to coworker 1, or what is going on here, and how should I handle this situation now?  I could have told co-worker 1 that co-worker 2 sent me those messages on facebook beforehand, but I thought it would have been awkward to tell her about that.

Ugh, this is the danger of crapping where you eat.

Co-worker 1 liked you.  Co-worker 2 just wanted to see if she could get you, IMO.  Ideally you should've ignored it, unless you really did want to get with 2.

Who looks better, 1 or 2?

[glows]

Leave them alone. Block them on all social media so that they have no access to your private info either or anything that happens to not be automatically privatized.

Block them on your cellphone as well and make sure none of them can reach you outside of seeing you in person at work. They seem to have a bond or friendship that's stronger than any interest in knowing you genuinely as a person. And yes, they are playing games with you.

Avoid playing along with anything in future. Just do not respond. Date singles outside of work. 

Edited April 5, 2021 by glows

[ironpony]

Okay thanks, I can do that.  Thanks.

[alphamale]

On 3/29/2021 at 12:59 PM, ShyViolet said:

They both sound crazy.  Keep your distance from both of them, they are playing games with you for sure.  They sound immature.

This^^^

[Lotsgoingon]

Definitely game playing. Leave them alone.