Boyfriend cheated and had Threesome with my Sister and Best Friend!

[ariaxoxo]

Last week I found out my boyfriend had a threesome with my best friend and sister in my apartment while I was fast asleep in the next room. This happened about two weeks prior. My best friend decided to come clean as she felt bad about it. However she also told me after they got finished.. my boyfriend and sister jumped into the shower together and according to her they had sex AGAIN in the shower all while I'm still asleep in another room . My sister had asked her to join in again but my best friend said no and went to sleep. Since finding out I've cut off my boyfriend and my sister but dunno if I can keep my best friend in my life. Although she finally came out about it and showed remorse. I'm still hurt that she had sex with him. And don't know if I could trust her again. I confronted my sister and boyfriend and they originally denied it but have since told the truth. That they had sex TWICE! Although I suspect it's been more than that. I believe now they were hooking up constantly during our relationship. But they claim it was only twice. I can't believe they acted totally normal the following morning. Like nothing had happened. My best friend was acting strange but I thought nothing of it. Anyways My sister had reached out to me through a fake account and instead of an apology or showing remorse for what she did said since I didn't want a relationship with her anymore she may as well go ahead and be in a relationship with my now ex. She then proceeded to tell me how my ex told her that sex was better with her.. how he thought she was the hotter sister & even told me they had anal sex in the shower. She's disgusting. My boyfriend has also tried reaching out to me begging me back. But a family member informed me yesterday that my sister has tagged my ex in a relationship status on Facebook and put a picture of them together as her profile pic. Even uploaded a picture of them in bed together. He was half naked she had a bralet on. But the disrespect is insane. I'm heartbroken and will never speak to my sister again. Now what should I do with my best friend? Should I continue my friendship with her or cut her off too!? I need help please

[d0nnivain]

Glad you dumped the BF.  I think you need a LONG break from the best friend.  No BFF worth the title would do what yours did.  

You could probably benefit from counseling.  You had 3 huge betrayals all in the same act.  Also tell your parents what your sister did so they know why you will be skipping family functions for a while.  

Unless there is something under here you are not sharing, I would think you would want to eventually reconcile with your sister & be OK with throwing your former BFF over for all time.  Sis is still gonna be there whether you want her to or not.  You can always get a new BFF but the sister is blood

[ExpatInItaly]

If this is true...cut off all these people. 

End of. 

[Keridan]

This is disgusting behavior from all 3. Just get toxic people like that out of your life and find someone you can trust to hang out with. Your friend made a choice and maybe she regretted it later, but who does that in the first place?

Find better people to fill your life with.

I'm very sorry for what you are going through.

[Fletch Lives]

When a SO cheats with friends or siblings, it often destroys those relationships too. So sorry this happened.

 

You may have to find new friends. Sometimes you have to start with a clean slate.

[kendahke]

Frankly, I'd cut everyone out, including your so-called "best friend"--She's not--and move to another state and start a whole new life. She's your frenemy; she and your soiled sister debased you in the worst way. Doesn't matter after the fact that she showed remorse---SHE NEVER SHOULD HAVE DONE IT IN THE FIRST PLACE.

And when you sister comes to you talking mess, tell her "the difference between you and me is you're like cotton and I'm like a diamond.  Drop both in mud and the diamond will wash clean. The cotton will never be clean no matter how many times you wash it".  And hang up/slam the door in her face.

Cut out any family member who tell you that you need to forgive her--that's someone who doesn't mean you any good.

Edited April 2, 2021 by kendahke

[glows]

You realize you shouldn't be pushed to make any major decisions right now, yes? If someone (ie your best friend) is pestering you and nagging you or your boyfriend is begging you constantly, you only have to mute those contacts and take the much-needed break. Simply mention you need time to yourself to think and stop responding to them. 

 

Edited April 2, 2021 by glows

[mark clemson]

This may not be helpful, but I sometimes feel like perhaps it's better to go through experiences like this earlier in life, rather than later. No doubt this was a horrible experience, but at least you won't be going through life carrying a lot of illusions about how people MAY behave.

It's possible you and your sister may one day reconcile IF she eventually becomes open to admitting how completely inconsiderate she was to hurt you this way and if you, in turn, are able to accept her contrition. There is no guarantee either of those things will happen, unfortunately.

We tend to believe in "happy families" but in truth a surprisingly large % of people are actually estranged from family for various reasons (yours is just one possible example). For better or worse your eyes are opened.

When she and the x-BF break up (likely IMO) she will I think realize he was not worth losing a sister over.

The suggestion to get some counseling if you feel it would be helpful is a good one IMO.

[trident_2020]

You sure are a deep sleeper.