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Just now, DannyKayyy said:

 She's gone away with my daughter. I honestly dont feel like I have anything to work for. I know its rush but then again nothing makes sense anymore.

Very little makes sense when you are heartbroken.   You have something & someone to work for -- your daughter. 

You also need money for a lawyer so you can get custody & visitation.  You have to work out child support.  Your child's needs have to come 1st.  

Sorry for the tough love but start behaving like an adult.  

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Just now, d0nnivain said:

Dude you are going to end up on the wrong end of a restraining order.  You better start caring & you need to leave her alone.  You are bordering on a criminal harassment charge.  You think today was the worst day of your life because somebody broke your heart ? No the worse day of your life will be when those jail cell doors close behind you after you get convicted of stalking or harassment.   Delete her # out of your phone.  Disconnect on all social media platforms & LEAVE THIS WOMAN ALONE!!!!!!!!  

No need to delete her number because I know it off head. I'm gonna try and stop with the texting...its tough though. Something so beautiful can end in the blink of an eye. 

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5 minutes ago, DannyKayyy said:

 

To be honest, even if I knew that I was being a pain, at that moment I just didnt care. I was only interested in getting my message across. Now I know it's done more harm than good.

 

Having said that, I've already sent 6 texts today...and she's replied to the grand total of.....NONE.:classic_wacko: 

You learned nothing. Get some professional help. You have a major problem.

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Just now, d0nnivain said:

Very little makes sense when you are heartbroken.   You have something & someone to work for -- your daughter. 

You also need money for a lawyer so you can get custody & visitation.  You have to work out child support.  Your child's needs have to come 1st.  

Sorry for the tough love but start behaving like an adult.  

She's not my biological daughter so I doubt if she'll ever need or even want my help. I therefore cannot see the legal process applying here.

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Just now, Marc878 said:

You learned nothing. Get some professional help. You have a major problem.

You have a major problem............yes, its called LOVE.

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5 minutes ago, DannyKayyy said:

 Something so beautiful can end in the blink of an eye. 

Solely from what you posted I doubt this ended in the blink of an eye.  There must have been warning signs that you ignored while you were being a bull in a china shop solely concerned about what you want & having poor impulse control.   What you are describing is not love.  It's obsession.  It's unhealthy.  

If the child is not your bio daughter you have no legal rights or responsibilities. For the kid's sake, leave mommy alone.  

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You get wrapped up in a restraining order against you’ll be sorry.

That goes on your record and can impact employment, etc. 

Wake up here. If I was her I’d have already filed.

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4 minutes ago, DannyKayyy said:

You have a major problem............yes, its called LOVE.

Nope, this is beyond normal.

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20 minutes ago, elaine567 said:

So why has she left you? 

 

She says I was sexually attracted to her daughter who is 11 because I used to be "abnormally" affectionate towards her.

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You really have to let her go.  If she pushes her claim you could end up defending yourself against charges of being a child molester.  

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11 minutes ago, d0nnivain said:

You really have to let her go.  If she pushes her claim you could end up defending yourself against charges of being a child molester.  

 

If I was guilty of that, I would be long gone. I'm sticking around because I know she'll come back to her senses.

 

Basically What happened is that on 28th February, I was sleeping on our bed. Her daughter, 11 came in carrying her homework and lay next to me. She was doing her homework when suddenly, I dont know if she was possessed, she took my arm and bit real hard into it. I tried getting her to stop but she wouldnt. She kept biting even harder while laughing oddly. I don't know what came over me, but due to the pain, I pinched her real hard between her legs. Its only then that she let go. She immediately rushed out of the bed and told her mom that I had abused her. The mother kicked me out and the relationship has been downhill from there.

She relates that incident to periods when I've been genuinely affectionate towards her daughter and now says that I was only with her because of her daughter. It's sad really.

Is there any hope?

 

 

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5 minutes ago, DannyKayyy said:

Is there any hope?

There is no hope this relationship can be fixed. 

No matter what that 11 year old did to you there was never any justification for you retaliating by touching her between her legs or defending yourself with force.  

Leave this woman alone.  You are going to end up in jail if you don't.  You would already be facing charges if that was my daughter.  

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Just now, elaine567 said:

Ah!

 

I know what it looks like but I swear down it wasn't my intention. I tried pushing her head off and even pulling my arm but nthing happened so I stpidly went for an area where I knew was sensitive enough for her to let go. I was stupid, I know but she was biting me real hard and the pain was unbearable.

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What it looks like is the problem.  If you pinched her on her upper arm maybe you could claim self defense but pinching her there makes it sexual assault of a minor.  It doesn't matter what you intended.  Where you pinched is the CRIME. 

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1 minute ago, d0nnivain said:

There is no hope this relationship can be fixed. 

No matter what that 11 year old did to you there was never any justification for you retaliating by touching her between her legs or defending yourself with force.  

Leave this woman alone.  You are going to end up in jail if you don't.  You would already be facing charges if that was my daughter.  

 

Fine, I will leave the mother, but do you think her daughter will ever forgive me??

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I have no idea if the daughter will ever forgive you.  It doesn't matter.  You won't be in her life.  With a little luck she will simply forget you.  

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3 minutes ago, d0nnivain said:

What it looks like is the problem.  If you pinched her on her upper arm maybe you could claim self defense but pinching her there makes it sexual assault of a minor.  It doesn't matter what you intended.  Where you pinched is the CRIME. 

 

Now the mother says I'm a paedo despite me not having a prior record of paedophilia. Surely, isnt she being too harsh? I'm telling her that this only happened because her daughter bit me. The mother also bit me last year and I slapped her real hard. (The first and only time I ever laid hands on her)

My partner has this odd habit of biting people that she has taught the daughter. I have been bitten twice and on one  occassion I slapped the mom and the other I "assaulted" the daughter. Surely, cant anyone see that the biting is the cause of all this?

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3 minutes ago, d0nnivain said:

I have no idea if the daughter will ever forgive you.  It doesn't matter.  You won't be in her life.  With a little luck she will simply forget you.  

 

Thats so cold. They are my life and basically my everything. I honestly dont see myself seeing out 2021 without them in my life.

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Just now, DannyKayyy said:

 

Thats so cold. They are my life and basically my everything. I honestly dont see myself seeing out 2021 without them in my life.

Mommy bites & now daughter bites.  Good grief.  

This woman is not good for you.  She has problems of her own.  Adults don't solve problems by biting 

Killing yourself is NOT the answer.  These people are not your life or your everything.  You are dramatic. It's part of why you blow up people's phone.  It's why you are threatening to resign from your job.  You need to manage your own emotions & learn self restraint.  Please get into therapy.  Life is better when the extreme highs & lows are moderated.  You need guidance about how to modulate yourself.  

If you truly feel suicidal call a hotline.  Call a friend.  Go to an ER.  Death is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.  As bad as your heartache is, you will get through this with time & patience.  I realize you have no patience but it's time to develop some.  

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If this woman is smart, she'll get a restraining order against you.  You seriously need mental help.

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1 hour ago, DannyKayyy said:

Now the mother says I'm a paedo. I'm telling her that this only happened because her daughter bit me. The mother also bit me last year and I slapped her real hard.

She was a fool for not having you arrested for assaulting her and a bigger fool to not have you arrested for assaulting her daughter. Sorry. You belong in jail.

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