Author IrisZion Posted April 20, 2021 Author Share Posted April 20, 2021 (edited) 9 minutes ago, poppyfields said: >>I buy my usual things and when he was putting the items in my bag, i noticed he had a pen with him. As he asked me to pay via contact less, he was writing something and then handed me the paper bag with the napkin which had his full name and number alongwith this emoji.<< Wait huh? HE gave you his full name and number on a napkin, how was he able to send you whstsapp messages? Or call you like Gaeta asked? Something isn't jiving dear, please enlighten us. I sent him a whatsapp message after I got the napkin. So what is not adding up? Do you think I just kept the napkin and didn't send him a message? Edited April 20, 2021 by IrisZion 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author IrisZion Posted April 20, 2021 Author Share Posted April 20, 2021 17 minutes ago, Gaeta said: If you go in a coffee shop and give your number to a random guy then ya sure! But this was not *simply someone*. This was a man that had been flirting/chatting with you for a while. That was not what we call a cold approach. Yes but he was still a stranger to me who flirted haha Link to post Share on other sites
poppyfields Posted April 20, 2021 Share Posted April 20, 2021 2 hours ago, Gaeta said: 🙌**hallelujah**💥 Did you hear from him? Gaeta, the guy gave OP his number or so she claims, meaning she would have to contact him. But yet she's claiming he messaged her? What am I missing? Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted April 20, 2021 Share Posted April 20, 2021 2 minutes ago, poppyfields said: Gaeta, the guy gave OP his number or so she claims, meaning she would have to contact him. But yet she's claiming he messaged her? What am I missing? She answered but, hey! good catch! Link to post Share on other sites
Author IrisZion Posted April 20, 2021 Author Share Posted April 20, 2021 5 minutes ago, poppyfields said: Gaeta, the guy gave OP his number or so she claims, meaning she would have to contact him. But yet she's claiming he messaged her? What am I missing? 9 minutes ago, IrisZion said: I sent him a whatsapp message after I got the napkin. So what is not adding up? Do you think I just kept the napkin and didn't send him a message? Did you not read this reply or are you trying to imply something else? Link to post Share on other sites
poppyfields Posted April 20, 2021 Share Posted April 20, 2021 (edited) 9 hours ago, IrisZion said: I sent him a whatsapp message after I got the napkin. So what is not adding up? Do you think I just kept the napkin and didn't send him a message? What didn't add up was you failing to mention you messaged him first. [redacted] Edited April 20, 2021 by a LoveShack.org Moderator attacking Link to post Share on other sites
Author IrisZion Posted April 20, 2021 Author Share Posted April 20, 2021 (edited) 9 hours ago, poppyfields said: What didn't add up was you failing to mention you messaged him first. Lady, no offense but you need to get over yourself. 😂 You should be thrilled, you got what you wanted but yet you're still here defensively arguing. Go live your life, who give a * what others think. That's such a trivial thing to post that I messaged him first. Obviously i would unless I threw away the napkin 😭😭😭🤣🤣🤣 Nobody is arguing. It's just people trying to imply things which is quite obvious lol. Edited April 20, 2021 by a LoveShack.org Moderator response to removed content Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted April 20, 2021 Share Posted April 20, 2021 18 minutes ago, IrisZion said: So far i haven't called and neither has he. It's only messaging through Whatsapp. I'm interested to know how long he's been in your country, let us know. Link to post Share on other sites
Author IrisZion Posted April 20, 2021 Author Share Posted April 20, 2021 (edited) 1 hour ago, Gaeta said: I'm interested to know how long he's been in your country, let us know. So update. He got off work half an hour ago and he's said he's been here for 5 years. He moved from Barcelona and is 25 years old. Edited April 20, 2021 by IrisZion Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted April 20, 2021 Share Posted April 20, 2021 38 minutes ago, IrisZion said: he's been here for 5 years. How you feel about that? Remember, it's suppose to be fun. You're not shopping for a husband, you're moving on from a broken heart. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author IrisZion Posted April 20, 2021 Author Share Posted April 20, 2021 (edited) 34 minutes ago, Gaeta said: How you feel about that? Remember, it's suppose to be fun. You're not shopping for a husband, you're moving on from a broken heart. @Gaeta I mean 5 years and he didn't learn the language to the point where he can at least hold a conversation is a bit upsetting 😬. There is another girl who is from Italy, has an accent yet we talk so normally as she still learnt the language. I honestly don't know how I will manage a date. I'm a talkative person and my ex and I user to talk about EVERYTHING. I'm not even sure how I will go with this. I also feel kind of obligated 😬😬. I mean yesterday, he wasn't talking to me yet he saw that I was in the line and wouldn't be able to take the drink as I had queued up again, so he took the drink personally and kept it beside him. Also is almost the first person to give the cup to me once he hears my order. Tbh, yesterday he kind of looked a bit upset/grim. I feel like he's really kind? Or at least that was sweet of him to do so but I'm scared if he gets attached (right now I think he's infatuated) I wouldn't like to be the cause of his broken heart as I know exactly how it feels. Also I know this sounds ridiculous and I don't know if you believe in religion or dreams with spiritual meanings, but I had a dream that I was in this shop where another girl and I were wearing white colored top/clothing and he had a deep red shirt on. I brushed it off initially but decided to Google the symbolic meaning of red and things like lust, sexuality, passion, romance came up. So the thought of him getting attached in reality, to me, who is still recovering and still in love with her ex may just end up hurting him. Which I wouldn't want at all. Edited April 20, 2021 by IrisZion Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted April 20, 2021 Share Posted April 20, 2021 @IrisZion: You did not go on a date yet. You may not want to see him again after a first date, who knows maybe he has 5 kids with 5 mothers. Take it one day at a time. He's a big boy of 25. He won't throw himself off a bridge because you dated a bit and got to know each other for a couple of months. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author IrisZion Posted April 20, 2021 Author Share Posted April 20, 2021 (edited) 8 minutes ago, Gaeta said: @IrisZion: You did not go on a date yet. You may not want to see him again after a first date, who knows maybe he has 5 kids with 5 mothers. Take it one day at a time. He's a big boy of 25. He won't throw himself off a bridge because you dated a bit and got to know each other for a couple of months. Haha 5 kids with 5 mothers omg 😭😭😝🤣 Yeah I think you are right. I mentioned seeing him with his friend once and to be very honest he seemed very annoying to me 😝 he wasn't at the cash registers and hadn't started serving customers, and he was acting a bit OTT. Like this one dude came in with their kid in the baby carrier and he was waving at the kid (the dad didn't look amused) and seemed a little high/hyper to me lol. I mean the way he is with me is due to him being in customer service. Once he drops that uniform and walks out, he maybe completely different whom I might not even like I guess. You are right!!! Edited April 20, 2021 by IrisZion 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Lisa Posted April 20, 2021 Senior Moderators Share Posted April 20, 2021 (edited) This thread has been locked pending moderator review. Update: Thread has been reviewed with 45 posts removed due to lack of civility and off topic discussions. When posting, please be mindful to stay on topic and show respect to other posters Thank you for your cooperation. Edited April 20, 2021 by Lisa Link to post Share on other sites
mark clemson Posted April 21, 2021 Share Posted April 21, 2021 ^^ does that mean I can't tell @Wiseman2 he owes me a coffee?? (Sorry, couldn't resist.) 1 Link to post Share on other sites
LivingWaterPlease Posted April 21, 2021 Share Posted April 21, 2021 Well, I am so glad for you that he gave you his number and that you messaged him! Now you two can finally have a normal friendship! Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted April 21, 2021 Share Posted April 21, 2021 14 hours ago, IrisZion said: Well, he gave it himself today. Fantastic. And you didn't even have to bake cookies. Link to post Share on other sites
Sun Seeker Posted April 21, 2021 Share Posted April 21, 2021 If only he knew what he was getting himself into giving you his number. From your posts in this topic... Good luck to him. Link to post Share on other sites
Author IrisZion Posted April 23, 2021 Author Share Posted April 23, 2021 (edited) So update. we went out together, added each other on Facebook and Instagram too. At first it was pretty exhausting since he really had a hard time trying to express himself. Eventually, he was getting really upset because he wasnt able to say what he wanted to properly so i decided to use Google translate. He typed everything in Spanish and I read it in English. It was still tough but he seems really sweet and kind. He said he is going to start taking online free English classes as he can't afford paid ones due to his job and financial constraints but is willing to learn so that we can talk. He was very interested in knowing about what i like, my fav foods, interests, hobbies. He joked that the only things he knows is my love for coconut hot chocolate and black colour (as I wear mostly black). The one bit I found a bit concerning is he can paint and he told me that he painted a photo of me which he took a photo of on his phone. He showed it to me and he is, indeed, a very good painter. He said he had seen me without the mask the day I wore the rose pink blouse and drew that. He also brought me flowers that day. I'm a bit worried regarding this now. Edited April 23, 2021 by IrisZion Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted April 23, 2021 Share Posted April 23, 2021 12 minutes ago, IrisZion said: The one bit I found a bit concerning is he can paint and he told me that he painted a photo of me which he took a photo of on his phone. He showed it to me and he is, indeed, a very good painter. He said he had seen me without the mask the day I wore the rose pink blouse and drew that. He also brought me flowers that day. I'm a bit worried regarding this now. Why...Was it a caricature? Carnations? Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted April 23, 2021 Share Posted April 23, 2021 24 minutes ago, IrisZion said: The one bit I found a bit concerning is he can paint and he told me that he painted a photo of me which he took a photo of on his phone. He showed it to me and he is, indeed, a very good painter. He said he had seen me without the mask the day I wore the rose pink blouse and drew that. He also brought me flowers that day. I'm a bit worried regarding this now. Wow! and you thought he had no romantic interest in you all the while he was secretly taking picture of you!!?? Link to post Share on other sites
Author IrisZion Posted April 23, 2021 Author Share Posted April 23, 2021 (edited) 1 hour ago, Gaeta said: Wow! and you thought he had no romantic interest in you all the while he was secretly taking picture of you!!?? No not secret picture. While he's on till and near coffee machines, I have never seen him with a phone.. It is a drawing. I don't even know how to react. I mean I would love to spend time with him but the language barrier is quite a challenge tbh. And I don't know, he's really sweet and pure it seems but I just don't feel the love for him. I feel a care for him as a buddy, a friend whom I think I will have for lifetime , whom I will love platonically but a genuine romantic interest is a bit hard 😕 Edited April 23, 2021 by IrisZion Link to post Share on other sites
Author IrisZion Posted April 23, 2021 Author Share Posted April 23, 2021 (edited) 1 hour ago, Alpaca said: Why...Was it a caricature? Carnations? No it is a sketch. Like he drew with a pencil or crayon I guess and coloured it. Edited April 23, 2021 by IrisZion Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted April 23, 2021 Share Posted April 23, 2021 13 minutes ago, IrisZion said: he's really sweet and pure it seems but I just don't feel the love for him. I feel a care for him as a buddy, a friend whom I think I will have for lifetime , whom I will love platonically but a genuine romantic interest is a bit hard 😕 I think it's a bit early to draw a conclusion. Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted April 24, 2021 Share Posted April 24, 2021 So you weren't feeling the romantic chemistry on the first date. Did you at least feel some degree of physical attraction? Link to post Share on other sites
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