primer Posted April 2, 2021 Share Posted April 2, 2021 Some of these threads on Loveshack talk about a spouse/partner being argumentative, secretive, lying, or cheating. It reaches a point where the relationship has to end. The dumper is forced to break up with the dumpee because they do not like being a doormat. When it gets to this point, why is the dumpee sad, mad and upset? Weren't they the ones causing the turmoil? What did they expect? (I try to understand people too much.) Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted April 2, 2021 Share Posted April 2, 2021 27 minutes ago, primer said: When it gets to this point, why is the dumpee sad, mad and upset? Because a lot of people like to have their cake and eat it, too. Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted April 2, 2021 Share Posted April 2, 2021 56 minutes ago, primer said: Some of these threads on Loveshack talk about a spouse/partner being argumentative, secretive, lying, or cheating. It reaches a point where the relationship has to end. They're still getting something out of being in the relationship with the dumper: Financial stability, social status, common assets, life style, attachment. Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Peach Posted April 5, 2021 Share Posted April 5, 2021 I have a lot of male friends who are quite open with me. In my experience some guys I know did it because they were too chicken to end it themselves. Other men I know were genuinely surprised they bad behavior wasn't put up with. Link to post Share on other sites
TeddyBundy1993 Posted April 6, 2021 Share Posted April 6, 2021 It can be due to various. It depends on people circumstances and how attached they are to each other. In my case both time girls clinged to me and left as soon as they got someone else. A friend of mine married for years ended bcz they just grew apart at the end and just cannot bear sight of each other he told me he tried to save his marriage bcz of his daughter but still it failed really badly. We should be generous enough with each other and not keep our other significant in dark. But people are f***ed up and think about themselves only. At the end of day we should be wise enough to read signals and behavior pattern of our partners, after all it isn't that difficult after being together for a long time. If you still get blindsided just consider it as a life lesson and don't stop yourself from moving on anyway Link to post Share on other sites
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