I love my boyfriend but I think we're both too used to living alone to ever get married.

[lovebooks]

I've been "going" with the same man for 8 years.  He's 10 years older but still attractive to me.  He is so comfortable at home with his endless games and movies.  He cooks well and dislikes eating out.  I like dining out as well as other experiences.  I am excellent at being a loner but I shouldn't have to be if I have a boyfriend.    I was married for 24 years and have adult children who live in another state.  I'm free and still interested in experiencing my city and traveling.  I have a passport that I used once before the pandemic.  He doesn't have one.  I think he's too cheap about important things.  He buys me wearable gifts and movies etc. so I won't complain there.  I  just want more companionship sometimes.  My circle of friends has been shrinking but I think I should try blind dating if I can get someone to get me some.  I'm scared.

[basil67]

Open relationships aren't for everyone.  What would your boyfriend think of you seeing others?

[lovebooks]

I have not spoken to my so called boyfriend in days.  He can only reach me on my home phone.  He made a date last week and cancelled because he was too tired from  volunteering at the polls.  Later that day he texted me to let me know he had gone out grocery shopping.  I think he only does what he wants to do.  I'm just done.  I can absolutely do without a boyfriend but I do like men and I would like a reliable companion. I have started going on solo vacations once every month or two.    I'm a divorced senior with adult children in another state.   I  think I am ready to try a good dating site that requires  paid subscription.  I've completed  so many questionnaires for them  but never follow through.  I'm so apprehensive but I think it's my only hope.  My friends  and relatives are not going to be of any help.  Which sites should I try?  A veterinarian would be nice.

[Wiseman2]

2 minutes ago, lovebooks said:

He can only reach me on my home phone. Later that day he texted me to let me know he had gone out grocery shopping. 

I  think I am ready to try a good dating site that requires  paid subscription.  A veterinarian would be nice.

Just curious why your specifically into veterinarians?🐈👨‍⚕️🐕

Volunteer at an animal shelter in addition to the many paid dating apps.

Get a nice profile and pics on a site that's relationship oriented perhaps eHarmony or age groups oriented.

[lovebooks]

I just think veterinarians are good people.  I guess I watch too much Animal Planet.  I'm just looking for a good man who isn't selfish or cheap.

[Daisydooks]

On 6/27/2021 at 3:08 PM, lovebooks said:

I have not spoken to my so called boyfriend in days.  He can only reach me on my home phone.  He made a date last week and cancelled because he was too tired from  volunteering at the polls.  Later that day he texted me to let me know he had gone out grocery shopping.  I think he only does what he wants to do.  I'm just done.  I can absolutely do without a boyfriend but I do like men and I would like a reliable companion. I have started going on solo vacations once every month or two.    I'm a divorced senior with adult children in another state.   I  think I am ready to try a good dating site that requires  paid subscription.  I've completed  so many questionnaires for them  but never follow through.  I'm so apprehensive but I think it's my only hope.  My friends  and relatives are not going to be of any help.  Which sites should I try?  A veterinarian would be nice.

My partner and I met on Plenty of Fish 8 years ago this year. Haha. Free and everything! He is 6 years my senior. No big age gap but bigger than any age gap Ive had in my life. 

I decided to keep him forever but it took us a few years to really make that move because although we enjoyed our companionship, we also really loved our lives apart and our alone time. We still do. We just had to find a way to make it work while also living together and getting more time together while still respecting that we both really do need space sometimes. I definitely enjoyed being with him, but also having my own life as well. I love that I have a companion in life,  but also have my friends, my business, my job and my alone time all wrapped into my life 

[d0nnivain]

If you are done, be done.  Tell the guy.  Do that before you go on line

Wanting a good man who is generous of self & spirit is a lovely goal.  (always couch what you want in positive terms, not negative ones about what you don't want.  The universe ignores the "not" & then sends you exactly what you don't want)   Wanting a veterinarian is a bit too specific.  Maybe mention wanting somebody who loves animals.  

Different sites work for different people.  Mostly I think they all suck to some extent.  Do not make OLD/dating apps your only source of possible new contacts.  Now that the world is opening up again, get out there & do something.  Join a dining club or go on a singles trip.  Reach out to a friend you haven't seen in a while & expand that social circle of yours again.