The worst third wheel story you will ever hear.

[Liam L]

Hi everybody, I'd like to share a story that happened to me over the past decade. I'm not sure I should even post this but what the hell.

 

It all started in 2008, I was in my third year of high school. I was 15 years old in a new town. I met the prettiest girl I ever laid eyes on that year. We became friends, became partners in various school projects over the years. Needless to say it didn't take long for me to fall hard for her. One day I told how her I felt. Unfortunately for me, I got rejected and she ended up going out with a friend of mine. 

After high school ended(2011), I cut her out of my life. It was really really hard on me but I felt that it had to be done. I missed her dearly and never quite found anybody like her again. There was something about her that made me tic. I enjoyed every second beside her back then. We had the same taste in music, politics we basically had an amazing chemistry.

Fast forward a couple of years later we are now in 2016, I am now 24 in a sinking ship of relationship with a CRAZY lady. She sent me a friend request on Facebook and we got in touch again. Nothing much really happened after that, she had someone and I had someone. We chatted on and of off small talk.

And then came 2018. I am 26 years old, being a musician and living the life (whatever you might think it is not like in the clichés you've heard). She on the other hand started a family with her boyfriend, they had one boy. Suddenly we got really close to the point she started mentioning our high school years and how she should have chose me. I didn't believe it at first but the way she was coming on to me made me realize things would get hot pretty quickly.

So we decided to meet just for the sake of it after all these years. This was July 2018 a very warm month. The first meeting went well, I picked her up from her place and we spent the day together. The tension was definitely there for the both of us. The day after that meeting I got a message from her telling me she couldn't sleep because of me being on her mind all night. I admit that it was the case for me as well.

So a week or so later I went to spend the afternoon at her place. I kept my cool and we hung out until I had to leave for work. I go to the door and put my shoes on, shes standing right in front of me, I get back up and gave her a hug. She looked at me for a second and then she threw herself on me and kissed me. It is by far the best kiss I ever had in my life. A warm feeling engulfed my stomach and felt amazing. Her kiss literally gave me a high that lasted the rest of the day. It is a feeling and a memory that still haunts me to this very day.

The next time I saw her (a couple of days later) we were at my place, in my bedroom to be more precise. I wont go into details here but what Ill say is that the sex was hands down I ever had. For the next 5 months we saw each other in secret mostly during the day a few times a week at her place while her better half was at work. She was talking about leaving him so we could start something together. I got to know her kid (who was 2 at the time) and I was willing to bite the bullet and raise him as my own. 

As the days, weeks went by, it got hard for me not being around her. I was still waiting for her to make the the move. I wasn't sleeping anymore, I was drinking to cope with this situationship. I started pressuring her to make up her mind and she just wouldn't take a decision. At the end of the summer, I told myself that if I we weren't together by Xmas that I should cut my losses and give up.

Things got hard for her too, I could see that she was stressed out of leading her doubled life. Things went south in mid December.  We were seeing each other less and less and I missed her.

I went to see her one last time, around the 20th. We talked about the whole thing. She told me her kid is her main priority and that she will love that boy way more that she will ever love me.(and who am I to argue with that, I kept my mouth shut and agreed.) I kissed her one last time in the same spot where it all started, I wished her happy holidays and hoped to see her again after Xmas.

We had one last argument on 26 and she remained silent until the 31st. On new years eve, she told she was going to try to work things out with her boyfriend and posted a nice picture of them on Facebook. She told me that it was as much of a heartbreak for her as it was for me.

I was absolutely devastated. It felt like the world was ending, nothing in my life made sense anymore. I got really depressed. Ive lost a long time friend/lover, I lost that kid that got to know me. I cut her out of my life in November 2019.

 

Ive been looking back ever since. I never got over it. Not sure if I did the right thing by walking away a second time.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

[ExpatInItaly]

48 minutes ago, Liam L said:

been looking back ever since. I never got over it. Not sure if I did the right thing by walking away a second time.

What choice did you have, though?

She made her choice, and it wasn't you. There was really nothing  else for you to do. 

You have romanticized something that was always sketchy, man. She't not a great person. Her ability to lie and deceive and bring her own child into it says a lot about her character, and none of it is good. The fact that she had her son around you is particularly appalling - not because you're a terrible man, but because a kid should not ever be dragged into their parents' messes. And why would you want to raise him as your own? He already has a dad for that. So unfair of both you and her to do that to a kid. 

I think you need to realize that despite all her hot air and sweet nothings, this was never going to go anywhere. She had an affair but that's where it started and ended. This woman was not your friend. She would have had the respect not to use you as her distraction from her troubled relationship if that were the case. 

[Wiseman2]

Sounds like she's a bored young mother saddled down and unhappy.

You represented an escape back to her carefree youth.

You both know this. Eventually she had to get back to her own life and you had to get back to yours.