ellaroizy Posted April 8, 2021 Share Posted April 8, 2021 Hi everyone! Ex into parentheses because I have never been in an actual relationship with this guy. We had a quick situationship months ago after we started talking through a uni groupchat. I developed a big crush on him and he told me that he liked me, we decided to meet and I lost my virginity to him this day (I know..) but it went too fast for him and we both weren't ready for a relationship at the time, plus we had a pregnancy scare after this, so we "broke up" on good terms and never talked or saw each other again. Three days ago, there was a party at the place he lives in and I was invited, not him. At some point my friends left and I ended up messaging him on Snapchat (we kept each other on every social media) and I told him that I was at his place, bored, and wanted company. He told me it wasn’t a good idea to see each other after what we’ve been through, with me being drunk and him sober, that it will make things messy again. I said that it was fine, that it was only for one night, and that I was over him. He finally told me that I could stay the night at his but that nothing could happen. I agreed... but once arrived we ended up having sex. It was awful afterwards because he told me how he tried to forget about our story but that me popping up and us having sex again was a huge mistake. I also cried at some point, realizing that I wasn’t really over him. We promised that we’ll never talk again. We didn’t sleep well that night. When I left in the morning, we hugged each other and he told me «have fun hating me» as a goodbye, with a smile. I thought things were «cool» but apparently not. He blocked me on Snapchat (nowhere else) yesterday, 24 hours after it happened. I don’t really know what to think about this action, so if you want to help me overthink, feel free Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted April 8, 2021 Share Posted April 8, 2021 The two of you promised that you'd never talk again. So surely blocking you was a way to keep that promise. Unless your post had a typo and you mean to say "we promised to never speak of this again".... 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted April 8, 2021 Share Posted April 8, 2021 (edited) Sorry this is happening. It seems too messy to be FWB with this guy. You need to delete and block him and all his people from ALL your social media and messaging apps. That way you can move forward in peace without all this noise from the past. Get a good profile and pics on quality dating apps and start talking to and meeting men. Edited April 8, 2021 by Wiseman2 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted April 8, 2021 Share Posted April 8, 2021 You were FWB at best but he doesn't want to date you. He knows it's easy to fall into bed with you & he knows that is not a great idea so he's disconnecting from you. you. That is smart. Be grateful. Look at it this way, you don't need that level of insight into his life now that you are not together. If either of you gets a new person in your lives, that person will not be happy that you are still connected to an EX on social media. It's for the best. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
redglass Posted April 8, 2021 Share Posted April 8, 2021 It’s hurtful whenever anybody blocks you, but he’s done this to maintain his side of the bargain - to not contact you again. I’d follow his lead and block him on all of my social media. This is tough because you’ve realised you aren’t over him, and sadly having sex with him won’t have helped you. But try to remember you were never in a relationship. It sounds like your experiences together were really intense, and it would be best to cut all the ties here to move on. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted April 8, 2021 Share Posted April 8, 2021 I get why this stings, but he's following though on his promise to never speak to you again. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted April 19, 2021 Share Posted April 19, 2021 (edited) On 4/8/2021 at 5:47 AM, ellaroizy said: he told me «have fun hating me» as a goodbye, It's really time for you to block and/or delete him from your social media and move on. He's not nothing for you anymore. You need to mirror that behavior. Edited April 19, 2021 by kendahke 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Trail Blazer Posted April 19, 2021 Share Posted April 19, 2021 He did the only sensible thing in this situation. I'm not sure why you can't see this? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted April 21, 2021 Share Posted April 21, 2021 On 4/18/2021 at 10:32 PM, kendahke said: He's not nothing for you anymore. that should read "he's got nothing for you anymore" 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Recommended Posts