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I mean I’m pretty oblivious when it comes to “signs” and whatever.

Last Sunday night, she was touching my hand almost every time I spoke or made a joke.

At one point she even sat on my lap and then brushed something off my knee (crumbs maybe?)

But last night she didn’t talk to me much. She started a conversation, but nothing more.

I don’t know if these are mixed signals, or if she just isn’t into me??

What should I do from here?

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1 hour ago, Zebarbu said:

At one point she even sat on my lap and then brushed something off my knee (crumbs maybe?)

Come on, she practically threw herself at you, so yes, a big yes indeed, at least she finds you physically attractive.

1 hour ago, Zebarbu said:

But last night she didn’t talk to me much. She started a conversation, but nothing more.

So she started a conversation, that's her showing an interest. And what did you do after she started a conversation? Did you continue with that conversation? Did you ask her questions, made jokes, or did you expect her to do all the talking and the seduction?  Did you ask her out? Guessing not. What more are you taking about ? Did you expect her to take off her clothes and plant you a kiss or something? At some point if you are attracted to her you need to show it to her.  Otherwise, she will turn her attention elsewhere. Again, if you are interested, ASK HER OUT. If not, let it be.

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1 hour ago, Zebarbu said:

No, someone I met like a week or so ago

The best way to find out is asking her out.

Anything but a "yes", is a "no". "No" had many forms: "busy", stressed", "confused" etc., etc.

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If you haven't asked her out on a date yet, you are the one with mixed signals.  

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1 hour ago, d0nnivain said:

If you haven't asked her out on a date yet, you are the one with mixed signals.  

Yeah, most likely...

 

So you think she's probably just waiting for me to ask her out then?

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On 4/15/2021 at 9:53 AM, Zebarbu said:

So you think she's probably just waiting for me to ask her out then?

Yes.  Odds are she is not going to ask you.  It may be 2021 but some stereotypical gender roles still persist.  

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On 4/15/2021 at 5:41 AM, d0nnivain said:

If you haven't asked her out on a date yet, you are the one with mixed signals.  

Agreed. She's probably letting you know of her interest figuring you'll ask her out if you feel the same.

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On 5/4/2021 at 3:42 PM, smackie9 said:

So OP how are things going now?

Really, really well you'll be glad to hear.

 

Just came back from our second date actually. We had s*x for the first time too.

 

We've got plans to cook a dish later on next week, so that'll be fun. Despite being shy/anxious, I'm really happy with her, and I feel things are going the right way. 

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I think it sounds really good actually! Before people start dating they can be really shy and things actually go pretty slowly in most cases. I totally think she’s into you.

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We had a good party last night... I didn’t sleep at all and had work at 7am the next day. She asked me if she could come along to watch me work and she stayed for 4 hours and left her bra behind lol
 

good times. 

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Hey guys,

 

So I've planned our 3rd date for this Saturday. Didn't ask her out last week as my 12-9pm shift didn't allow me to.

Anyway, I'm taking her bowling and she seems enthusiastic about it saying "Me too :) " when I told her that I was looking forward to it.

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So basically the date went a bit pear-shaped - not in the sense it was bad, it’s just the bowling centre was full and the staff weren’t able to tell us how long we’d have to wait. 
 

It was fun nevertheless, really fun. 

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