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I think I'm in love with my best friend


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Ive grown up with my best friend and we have been bought up like brother and sister over the past couple of months I have started to feel love for him in more than a friendship way I’m scared to admit my feelings because he feels like family any advice?

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If your feelings are changing, I suggest gently dipping your toe in the water.  Do not make any announcements & make sure you leave ample wiggle room for plausible deniability so things don't get weird if he doesn't feel the same way.  

The next time you are alone together bring up the subject.  point blank ask something like "have you ever thought we could be more than friends?" Then gage his reaction.  

DO NOT do this via text or in any way other than live in person or you are guaranteed to get an answer you don't want, for there to be huge miscommunication & you will feel humiliated.  

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6 hours ago, Jfkxnfidkkcjdkf said:

Ive grown up with my best friend and we have been bought up like brother and sister over the past couple of months I have started to feel love for him in more than a friendship way I’m scared to admit my feelings because he feels like family any advice?

How does he feel about you? Does he treat you like his kid sister? If so, stay friends and date other guys.

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8 hours ago, Jfkxnfidkkcjdkf said:

Ive grown up with my best friend and we have been bought up like brother and sister over the past couple of months I have started to feel love for him in more than a friendship way I’m scared to admit my feelings because he feels like family any advice?

I wouldn't say anything. You seem conflicted. One moment you're feeling love that is more than friendship and the next saying he feels like family. Sort this out first before mentioning anything. Spend time with other friends. 

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Know the difference between loving someone and being 'in love' with them. 

I have a friend that I love dearly, find very attractive... but would never dream of taking it further. Primarily because she already has a boyfriend and I respect that, but also that I value the friendship way too much to ever see it as anything more. Control of your emotions and desires is a life skill that is seldom taught (or realised).

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I don't think there is romantic potential right now.   If he felt the same way you'd know.  

You don't even sound 100% sure that you have romantic feelings.  Are you sure that there isn't some void that you have in your romantic life right now, like no connections with anyone in a while?  These feelings seem to be developing out of convenience.

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