Lorianna Posted April 15, 2021 Share Posted April 15, 2021 Hi I've been posting some threads about my ex lately. Based on the signs I see that he regrets losing me. Except other things that I have mentioned on other threads, on the day we were supposed to have our anniversary he posted two stories "Her angel eyes so the good in many devils." And the other one "I think about you, but I don't say it anymore" Now he has got a kitten. I wanted him to get one so badly. He got one when we were together, but she died because she had problems and the vet couldn't save her. Now he has gotten another one and I am assuming that he has named her the nickname he gabe me (because he had posted it with this caption) . (It is "sweety" in another language). Actually he didn't say that to me often, but he saved my number on his phone with this name. What does it mean? Why might he be doing this? I would not give my pet the nickname I called my ex Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted April 15, 2021 Share Posted April 15, 2021 Sweety sounds a bit generic. Are you sure this has links to you? What if he called all his exes (or pets) Sweety? Why can't you get a kitten of your own? If he hasn't made any attempts to reconcile with you or show interest in you or your life, I wouldn't overthink this. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted April 15, 2021 Share Posted April 15, 2021 @Lorianna you've been maintaining too many connections with your ex. Stopping his mother from contacting you was a really great step away from this. Now, the next step is to remove your ex from your social media. Also, my grandmother literally called every single one of her canaries "sweetie". Glows is right - it's a very generic name. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lorianna Posted April 15, 2021 Author Share Posted April 15, 2021 27 minutes ago, basil67 said: @Lorianna you've been maintaining too many connections with your ex. Stopping his mother from contacting you was a really great step away from this. Now, the next step is to remove your ex from your social media. Also, my grandmother literally called every single one of her canaries "sweetie". Glows is right - it's a very generic name. Actually I don't have him on social media. We have mutual friends. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lorianna Posted April 15, 2021 Author Share Posted April 15, 2021 39 minutes ago, glows said: Sweety sounds a bit generic. Are you sure this has links to you? What if he called all his exes (or pets) Sweety? Why can't you get a kitten of your own? If he hasn't made any attempts to reconcile with you or show interest in you or your life, I wouldn't overthink this. It has links to me because he called it in a language we both speak (it is also not that common in our country) and there is no way he has called other girls or pets sweety in that language. I wouldn't think it has links to me if he would have called it sweety in our language or english for example. And about the attempts to reconcile... well in his mind he has made enough, even though they aren't enough for me. He wouldn't try to talk to me, or tell his mother to try to interfere so we could get back together, or even post stories about me exactly on the day we used to have anniversary. He was waiting for me to make my step but I have cut it short every time because he was not being direct about it and apologise firstly. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted April 15, 2021 Share Posted April 15, 2021 13 minutes ago, Lorianna said: Actually I don't have him on social media. We have mutual friends. So why are your friends gossiping about him to you? Tell them to stop it. Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted April 15, 2021 Share Posted April 15, 2021 1 hour ago, glows said: Sweety sounds a bit generic. Agree. Whatever language, endearing names are often given to pets. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted April 15, 2021 Share Posted April 15, 2021 2 hours ago, Lorianna said: What does it mean? Why might he be doing this? He's your EX. Who cares what he's doing? You shouldn't. You also need to disconnect from him on social media so you don't see what he's posting. Tell your friends that you would prefer they not speak to you about him. For all you know he calls everyone that name. I have an EX who called every women he knew by the same nickname. He was an outrageous flirt who couldn't keep 'em all straight. We were throwing a party once & he asked me to do something hostess related calling me by the universal nickname. I knew based on the nature of the request that he was addressing me but about 8 women answered him. Boy did that cause problems. This business about him trying to reconcile but it not being "enough" for you is game playing BS. Stop expecting this man to read your mind. Tell him what your expectations are or hush & be done. Sitting there, stalking his social media, trying to read tea leaves around what he named his new kitten & gossiping with your friends is unproductive. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted April 16, 2021 Share Posted April 16, 2021 If you broke up, it would be best to delete and block him and all his people from ALL your social media and messaging apps. Including his mother. Is this the same boy?: Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted April 16, 2021 Share Posted April 16, 2021 You're focusing on details that don't matter, in the grand scheme of things. Your relationship was unhealthy (based on your description). What he calls his pet is irrelevant. It does not the change the fact that your relationship was unhealthy. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Negotaurus Posted April 16, 2021 Share Posted April 16, 2021 I've given my pet a nickname I used with an ex because it was fitting and I thought it was cute. No biggie, nothing to do with my ex whatsoever. Link to post Share on other sites
Fletch Lives Posted April 16, 2021 Share Posted April 16, 2021 My ex does the same thing. She calls her dog Jerk! 3 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted April 16, 2021 Share Posted April 16, 2021 31 minutes ago, Fletch Lives said: My ex does the same thing. She calls her dog Jerk! 🤣 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ShyViolet Posted April 16, 2021 Share Posted April 16, 2021 Stop worrying about and analyzing every little thing your ex is doing. It's really not your concern or your business anymore. He's your EX. Move on with your life. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted April 19, 2021 Share Posted April 19, 2021 (edited) On 4/15/2021 at 5:02 PM, Lorianna said: Actually he didn't say that to me often, but he saved my number on his phone with this name. What does it mean? Why might he be doing this? I would not give my pet the nickname I called my ex because: Quote (It is "sweety" in another language) He rarely called you that, so he's not equating the two like you are. "Sweety" is such a generic term of affection that you shouldn't take it as he's pining for you by calling his cat a generic term of affection. Quote there is no way he has called other girls or pets sweety in that language. unless you're superglued to his side 24/7, you don't know that. Edited April 19, 2021 by kendahke Link to post Share on other sites
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