He said maybe then blocked me

[Lunas]

Three weeks ago my ex boyfriend broke up with me. He did it because I've got some trust issues and I have been very needy in the relationship. I know that I have to work on myself and I got a new perspective on things, which I told him and apoligized for. He then blocked me everywhere but not messenger. 

But the thing is I tried to go into no contact but he has reached out every 2nd day, on messenger. These weeks he have done this thing where he blocks me and unblocks me on messenger numerous times a day. If I didnt answer his text in one hour he would block me. Then unblock me some hour later. He also asked me all those question if I was texting some other guy, and he also told me he will never find anyone like me and that I'm the best thing that ever happend to him. He still don't want to get back togheter, everytime I asked he said no. 

Then three days ago he message me that he would come pick his stuff up, I told him I could send it but he said no and he didn't want me to have to pay anything. It takes 2 hours for him to come to my place, and he only wanted two of his things and said I could keep the rest. He then came and picked it up, he said I could lay his stuff outside, so I did. We didnt see each other, but he afterwards apoligized trough text, and I said it's okay.

Then an hour later he messaged me saying that "It might be us in the future again". I told him maybe and that I will work on myself, and if he wanted to be back togheter he could message me and we could see if we both wanted it by then. 

One hour later he messaged me again saying "We can try, but you have a lot to work on", I asked him if he was sure. He said he is still unsure and to give it time and that he didn't want to give me false hope, that he had to think about himself first. I asked what he wants and he said "Wait and see". I said okay then I went into no contact, and now two days later he blocked me on both facebook and messenger..

I just don't understand? He has never blocked me on facebook before so it's strange for me. Is there a chance for me to get him back? Or is he just playing with my feelings?

 

[Wiseman2]

3 minutes ago, Lunas said:

 I tried to go into no contact but he has reached out every 2nd day, on messenger.

Try not to entertain on/off situations. Whatever games he's playing, just be above that.

When someone ends it, walk away with dignity and respect.

Delete and block him and all his people from ALL your social media and messaging apps.

That way you can leave this chapter in the past and reflect and regroup without the background noise from him.

 

[Lunas]

16 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

Try not to entertain on/off situations. Whatever games he's playing, just be above that.

When someone ends it, walk away with dignity and respect.

Delete and block him and all his people from ALL your social media and messaging apps.

That way you can leave this chapter in the past and reflect and regroup without the background noise from him.

 

Oh okay, so it's all games from his side? I will do that, thank you

[elaine567]

It's not necessarily games, but he is likely feeling a bit lonely, so he keeps in touch.
It is not uncommon for dumpers to want to find out what is going on with the ex, especially wondering whether you have a new bf, are dating, or are moving on.
Some are so removed and over it, they just want to be friends...
BUT, they usually tend to not want to get back with you....ever, if they were completely honest.  
That is why it is best to maintain no contact. You don't get triggered or get your hopes up each time he reaches out.
You are oblivious to what is going on his life too.
With silence and peace you can heal and move on. 

 

[Lunas]

3 minutes ago, elaine567 said:

It's not necessarily games, but he is likely feeling a bit lonely, so he keeps in touch.
It is not uncommon for dumpers to want to find out what is going on with the ex, especially wondering whether you have a new bf, are dating, or are moving on.
Some are so removed and over it, they just want to be friends...
BUT, they usually tend to not want to get back with you....ever, if they were completely honest.  
That is why it is best to maintain no contact. You don't get triggered or get your hopes up each time he reaches out.
You are oblivious to what is going on his life too.
With silence and peace you can heal and move on. 

 

Thank you for your response. I believe he is not sure himself what he wants and might get angry that I don't keep begging him and give him attention.. And youre right, he got my hopes up everytime... 

[d0nnivain]

How absolutely ridiculous.  This BS game of blocking & unblocking while measuring your response time would convince me to not waste my time on this guy.  You may have some insecurities & be a little needy but that seems to have been aggravated by a manipulative BF who doesn't give you solid ground to stand on.  He's a big part of the problem.   Go date a nice guy who doesn't play games.  

[Lunas]

48 minutes ago, d0nnivain said:

How absolutely ridiculous.  This BS game of blocking & unblocking while measuring your response time would convince me to not waste my time on this guy.  You may have some insecurities & be a little needy but that seems to have been aggravated by a manipulative BF who doesn't give you solid ground to stand on.  He's a big part of the problem.   Go date a nice guy who doesn't play games.  

Thank you, I know I shouldn't waste my time on him.. And I know I wasn't this insecure before I met him. I just have trouble letting go and giving up on people I love. I know you're right..

[ctwatlanta]

5 hours ago, Lunas said:

Three weeks ago my ex boyfriend broke up with me. He did it because I've got some trust issues and I have been very needy in the relationship. I know that I have to work on myself and I got a new perspective on things, which I told him and apoligized for. He then blocked me everywhere but not messenger. 

But the thing is I tried to go into no contact but he has reached out every 2nd day, on messenger. These weeks he have done this thing where he blocks me and unblocks me on messenger numerous times a day. If I didnt answer his text in one hour he would block me. Then unblock me some hour later. He also asked me all those question if I was texting some other guy, and he also told me he will never find anyone like me and that I'm the best thing that ever happend to him. He still don't want to get back togheter, everytime I asked he said no. 

Then three days ago he message me that he would come pick his stuff up, I told him I could send it but he said no and he didn't want me to have to pay anything. It takes 2 hours for him to come to my place, and he only wanted two of his things and said I could keep the rest. He then came and picked it up, he said I could lay his stuff outside, so I did. We didnt see each other, but he afterwards apoligized trough text, and I said it's okay.

Then an hour later he messaged me saying that "It might be us in the future again". I told him maybe and that I will work on myself, and if he wanted to be back togheter he could message me and we could see if we both wanted it by then. 

One hour later he messaged me again saying "We can try, but you have a lot to work on", I asked him if he was sure. He said he is still unsure and to give it time and that he didn't want to give me false hope, that he had to think about himself first. I asked what he wants and he said "Wait and see". I said okay then I went into no contact, and now two days later he blocked me on both facebook and messenger..

I just don't understand? He has never blocked me on facebook before so it's strange for me. Is there a chance for me to get him back? Or is he just playing with my feelings?

 

Lunas, I think he blocked you from everything except Messenger so he could keep you on a string.  Breakups can be so terribly hard on both people.  The dumper oftentimes truly wants out of the relationship, but the relationship is like an addiction.  It's hard to just go cold turkey and completely no contact with someone that you've been involved with and had cared for.  So, he reaches out on Messenger to see if you still want him, and you immediately respond back...so he knows he still has you on a string wrapped around his finger.  He hates the idea that you could have truly moved on without him...even though he's the one that dumped you.  So, he reaches out to see if you're still there and it gives him reassurances that he could have you back any time he wants.  You can't do that!  It will tear your emotions to pieces.  When someone walks out of your life...let them keep walking!

You need to get your power back now.  Block him from everything, including Messenger, delete/block his phone number and everyone you both associated with as he'll use your mutual friends to keep tabs on you and get messages to you.  Once he knows you've moved on and closed that chapter you will regain your power back...slowly but surely.  Trust me, I'm dealing with it now.

[Lunas]

5 minutes ago, ctwatlanta said:

Lunas, I think he blocked you from everything except Messenger so he could keep you on a string.  Breakups can be so terribly hard on both people.  The dumper oftentimes truly wants out of the relationship, but the relationship is like an addiction.  It's hard to just go cold turkey and completely no contact with someone that you've been involved with and had cared for.  So, he reaches out on Messenger to see if you still want him, and you immediately respond back...so he knows he still has you on a string wrapped around his finger.  He hates the idea that you could have truly moved on without him...even though he's the one that dumped you.  So, he reaches out to see if you're still there and it gives him reassurances that he could have you back any time he wants.  You can't do that!  It will tear your emotions to pieces.  When someone walks out of your life...let them keep walking!

You need to get your power back now.  Block him from everything, including Messenger, delete/block his phone number and everyone you both associated with as he'll use your mutual friends to keep tabs on you and get messages to you.  Once he knows you've moved on and closed that chapter you will regain your power back...slowly but surely.  Trust me, I'm dealing with it now.

Yes you're right! He always reach out when im starting no contact and when i am being cold towards him he starts with his "sweet" texts. He unblocked me again today. So either I am on his mind or he wants me to keep him on mine. I know I have shown him i am "easy to get back", I will stop that now. If he wants me back he knows where I live.. But im not sure his a good man either way.. Breakup's really show the true colors of a person.

Yeah I will. Thank you and I hope what you're dealing with will get better too

[TeddyBundy1993]

As said he has kept you on a hold so he explore new pasture while he keeps tabs on you and know where your mind is at. You have to let go. Block him where he hasn't blocked so that he can't play anymore. Your thing with him is over he picked up his stuff and that's that's end of it. You gotta move on,  it will be the best for you.  

[CommanderCody799]

No CoNtAcT iS tHe OnLy WaY

[glows]

Not everyone knows how to say goodbye graciously or with some respect for another person nor have the willpower to follow through. You do that for yourself from now onwards and don't worry so much about what he does with his life or his time. 

There's too much in the aftermath of a break up to think through so give it time for the dust to settle. And for you to think a bit more clearly. 

My advice is pretty simple: don't make someone a priority when they've made you an option. Free yourself. 

[ExpatInItaly]

He sounds incredibly immature and manipulative. 

Leave the blocking/unblocking game to teenagers. It's not how a mature adult behaves, whether in a relationship or breaking up with someone. It's time to let him go for good so he can stop toying with your feelings.