smint Posted April 23, 2021 Share Posted April 23, 2021 Guys, I don't know is this right place to write.Being jobless is horrible.I don't know how to cope with it anymore.I had my job which I liked for last 7 years and I hardly got it,but I lost it because of corona in October last year. I am applying for jobs,but without any success.I am 35 and now I am back to my parents. My days are in front of computer sending applications for hours and walking without any plan through streets. I was never depressive,but I think maybe now this is called depression.Everyone is annoying me,friends with their stories,family,I have no more patiente.When someone is telling me snt,I don't even listen and can't wait to run away and to close myself in room or somewhere out where is nobody around.I am also looking for quite place far from everything,to go there and scream,but noone to hear it,not to call police... It feels like I will never find job,I had 4 interwievs out of God knows how many I sent(500 at least),one was successful but the package was really bad.I am observing people in streets,they all look busy and I am wondering what are they doing in their lives,how did they organize themselves... Thanks to whoever reads this.I have noone to talk and noone understands me. Link to post Share on other sites
ClearEyes-FullHeart Posted April 23, 2021 Share Posted April 23, 2021 Hi Smint: I went through something similar in 2002-2003. I'd been laid off in California and decided to move to Oregon to be closer to family, as many had migrated up there. This was during the dot com fall out. I struggled mightily for a year, spend a lot of savings and hightailed it back to California. I understand how you feel as I felt like suddenly I was on the margins of society. I took a part time job to have money but it was peanuts (might have been minimum wage or not much more) but better than nothing to keep my sanity in check. I had my own apt so was trying to avoid seeing my savings wash down the drain. There literally was no jobs as everyone was laying people off up there, and Oregonians were like why would you move here - we are last in the nation jobs-wise right now and we are all fleeing to CA. I am not sure if you formally rejected the one offer but if not, take it and still keep looking. You mention the package was bad - was that all around (salary and benefits)? I think having any (full time) job is better than none. Mentally you will feel better working, even if you are "underemployed." When i returned to California, I found work at something that interested me (still not my profession in tech as those jobs were not around) but it was for Blue Shield, a not for profit. The culture was so different from tech and startups and I was earning what I'd made a decade before BUT it was a good job with benefits. I started as a temp and then moved to a full-time role in a diff department more suited to me. After about 2 years total, i was back in my profession making much more. My time at Blue Shield is something I really value even today. Met some great people and learned a ton about the crazy world of US healthcare and insurance. Hang in there and take that offer if you still can is my advice. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted April 23, 2021 Share Posted April 23, 2021 You are depressed & feel beaten down by the situation. You are not alone but feel alone because of the Covid isolation. After 2008 when many lost jobs due to the economy lots of support groups popped up. You could at least go to a church basement or civic center to interact with like minded people. Being stuck home makes it all feel worse. Without a job you lost part of your identity too. That takes a toll. Do try to engage with at least your family. Can you volunteer somewhere to have something to do & give you a sense of purpose? Try to develop & stick to a routine. Journaling may help too. Maybe try to find an online support group. Near me there is one called networking without borders. It offers tutorials & other virtual interactive events so you have others to talk to in the same boat. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Caauug Posted April 25, 2021 Share Posted April 25, 2021 On 4/24/2021 at 5:44 AM, d0nnivain said: Can you volunteer somewhere to have something to do & give you a sense of purpose? ^^^^^ GREAT ADVISE^^^^^ If all else fails get out into your community and volunteer, you could be surprised at who else is volunteering. Net working is net working, more people you meet the more chance you will find someone looking for you. Over the years I have taken many steps backwards in my carrier, pay cuts to work in a related field just to gain experience etc. I worked at some of the worst employers, payed once every 3 months and then it is still short.... I worked for another employer that had no money to buy anything new, it was like going around in circles doing the same stuff all day everyday never making advances.... But looking back at every job and every move I made, had a purpose, if I had not done one of them I would not be where I am today. IMO every job be it a paying one or a volunteering one has something to offer you in knowledge gained. It might be just to show you how bad things can go but if you didn't take that job you would not know. Also a good time to learn from other's mistakes.... If at all possible, get out there and meet people, volunteering is a good way and can look good on a resume... Any job is better than no job, employers love to poach other companies employees.... Spend your free time on your self, exercise and get into shape. If you appear fit and healthy your interview will carry more weight. No one wants to hire and unhealthy person that is depressed. The last thing they want is for you to bring the moral of the whole team down... Good Luck.... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author smint Posted April 25, 2021 Author Share Posted April 25, 2021 ClearEyesFullHeart,d0nnivain,Caauug thank you so much for your support. I know that I am not alone, and yes I lost with job part of indentity too. I am coming from vary small country Serbia, and I worked for last 7 years in United Arab Emirates, firstly in sales, later as cabin crew. It was very good money I was making there, but I was far from family in muslim country alone. Don't get me wrong, I was respected there and I am grateful for everything, I am just trying to explain that cultural shock I needed to accept and to fit in and now I am back to Serbia, where all my friends have children and their lives, and I feel like I fell here from another planet. I studied chemistry and I have bachelor degree, but never worked in lab. Few employers wrote me that since I graduated in 2012.,it is considered that I forgot it all...so maybe it is good idea to volunteer in some lab, I don't know anymore. The job I told you I got was in Monte Negro(country near my country), it was customer service representative, I regret for not taking it, as you all said better anything than nothing. At the same time I am applying in Germany and I was told few times that my german level is not enough. I don't even know what I am doing and where I am applying and don't know how to pick up my thoughts. I would like to work in Germany while I am still not very old and I am still working on my german, but in meanwhile my life is extremely boring. Here people are conservative and think that they have right to say everything they want. I joined hiking club here but I had already conflict with some people, bcs I am still not married, it is time to have children, what Germany am I talking about and such things...Luckily my family is not pushing me about anything. Thank you so much for listening, I know that I need to find solution for myself, and I have noone to talk to. It is crazy how hard is to survive in this world and to fit in. :( Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted April 25, 2021 Share Posted April 25, 2021 Have you reached out to your university to find out if they have a placement department? Try that. Another option may be to reconnect with an old professor to see if you can audit a chemistry class or two to refresh your skills if you want a lab job. Hang in there. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author smint Posted April 29, 2021 Author Share Posted April 29, 2021 d0nnivain,thank ypu so mich,the thing is that here unemployment is very high and it doesn't help anything in life if someone has University or not.My professors can't help me much,I need to search to go out of here again and it is so frustrating. Anyways thank you for listening,I need to find way out however I know. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted April 29, 2021 Share Posted April 29, 2021 smint You never know until you ask. I had an unexpected occasion to speak to a former employer yesterday. We spent some time catching up but it turns out he's in the market for my services. Now he's going to send me work. This will make up for a steady revenue stream I lost due to Covid. Networking is all about staying in touch or getting back in touch with old contacts. So reach out to your professors anyway. They might not be able to help you but better you should be on their minds in case opportunities arise. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author smint Posted May 5, 2021 Author Share Posted May 5, 2021 Thank you d0nnivain ❤❤❤❤❤ yes,you never know. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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