Stupidkupid Posted May 9, 2021 Share Posted May 9, 2021 (edited) 4 minutes ago, Scotgirl84 said: He 100% doesn’t have sex with his wife and I know this. This is getting old. You do not and cannot know this. I don't care what he has said or his friends have said or her friends have said. This is almost certainly not at all true. And why does it matter? It changes nothing. He doesn't want to be with you. He has made this abundently clear Edited May 9, 2021 by Stupidkupid 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Scotgirl84 Posted May 9, 2021 Author Share Posted May 9, 2021 1 minute ago, Wiseman2 said: She told you this? She has told mutual friends Link to post Share on other sites
Stupidkupid Posted May 9, 2021 Share Posted May 9, 2021 2 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said: She told you this? Precisely. Link to post Share on other sites
Stupidkupid Posted May 9, 2021 Share Posted May 9, 2021 (edited) 5 minutes ago, Scotgirl84 said: She has told mutual friends I actually am not convinced by this. Because I can not see an honest to God reason that any of her friends would go around talking about her sex life. And if her friends are, then she has even more problems then her cheating husband Edited May 9, 2021 by Stupidkupid 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Scotgirl84 Posted May 9, 2021 Author Share Posted May 9, 2021 2 minutes ago, Stupidkupid said: This is getting old. You do not and cannot know this. I don't care what he has said or his friends have said or her friends have said. This is almost certainly not at all true. And why does it matter? It changes nothing. He doesn't want to be with you. He has made this abundently clear Exactly doesn’t matter how genuine he is or not he’s not leaving so that’s the end result Link to post Share on other sites
Author Scotgirl84 Posted May 9, 2021 Author Share Posted May 9, 2021 1 minute ago, Stupidkupid said: I actually am not convinved by this. Because I can not see an honest to God reason that any of her friends would go around talking about her sex life. And if her friends are, then she has even more problems then her cheating husband I know you will all say I’m crazy but I’m going to get a night with him for sex then I’ll call it off and block him Link to post Share on other sites
czanclus Posted May 9, 2021 Share Posted May 9, 2021 5 minutes ago, Scotgirl84 said: Cue everyone saying I am delusional. I am delusional to the fact he’s never leaving but not delusional to what he’s got at home! Even with that... likely he is uninspired and overwhelmed out of his mind with the domestic nightmare of a settlement. How unbecoming of a marriage-committed man to take no steps to improve it whether by engaging more in the marriage or divorcing mindfully and constructively. What a catch. Suppose further, he actively misses you every night he goes to sleep on the couch two floors away from his unassuming or apathetic wife. What do you, at this stage, believe you 'need to further reveal about yourself' for him to 'see the light' and choose you for exclusive relationship? Do you really think if it was sex he was looking for to complete the 'evaluation' he wouldn't have created an opportunity by now to see it happen? I've known of men who have flown across the country to get a feel of that experience after a chance encounter and a follow-up of hours long (secretive) phone seances with a woman who captivated them. (not my story, for whoever cares.) Where are they now? Yup, still married. Also, still calling the OW yearningly to tell her how much they crave her presence, her intellect, her charm. Would look really bad, that divorce, mid-child raising, for a fairly high-positioned legal professional. Heck, for all you know, he might have even told his wife of a sexual fantasy that is entirely the embodiment of you (but of course without any specifics nor that it is a real person) and asked her to indulge him in a session taking on your role. She obliged, hopeful of strengthening marital bonds. [Also, for whoever cares, I doubt he wouldn't shower after that event, nor are you spared out in the world of officially single men from them honoring their next appointment if that is how they roll, but not to digress...] And still... you're sleeping alone tonight. Sheer desire will not break this marriage. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Scotgirl84 Posted May 9, 2021 Author Share Posted May 9, 2021 3 minutes ago, czanclus said: Even with that... likely he is uninspired and overwhelmed out of his mind with the domestic nightmare of a settlement. How unbecoming of a marriage-committed man to take no steps to improve it whether by engaging more in the marriage or divorcing mindfully and constructively. What a catch. Suppose further, he actively misses you every night he goes to sleep on the couch two floors away from his unassuming or apathetic wife. What do you, at this stage, believe you 'need to further reveal about yourself' for him to 'see the light' and choose you for exclusive relationship? Do you really think if it was sex he was looking for to complete the 'evaluation' he wouldn't have created an opportunity by now to see it happen? I've known of men who have flown across the country to get a feel of that experience after a chance encounter and a follow-up of hours long (secretive) phone seances with a woman who captivated them. (not my story, for whoever cares.) Where are they now? Yup, still married. Also, still calling the OW yearningly to tell her how much they crave her presence, her intellect, her charm. Would look really bad, that divorce, mid-child raising, for a fairly high-positioned legal professional. Heck, for all you know, he might have even told his wife of a sexual fantasy that is entirely the embodiment of you (but of course without any specifics nor that it is a real person) and asked her to indulge him in a session taking on your role. She obliged, hopeful of strengthening marital bonds. [Also, for whoever cares, I doubt he wouldn't shower after that event, nor are you spared out in the world of officially single men from them honoring their next appointment if that is how they roll, but not to digress...] And still... you're sleeping alone tonight. Sheer desire will not break this marriage. Only one way to find out. By blocking him and walking away I suppose. If he did love me and decide being with me is better than his life he’s got then he would do it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted May 9, 2021 Share Posted May 9, 2021 41 minutes ago, Scotgirl84 said: He 100% doesn’t have sex with his wife and I know this. No, you do not. You do not know what goes on behind closed doors. And yes, you're becoming delusional. It's concerning that you think you're the authority on their marriage, but it's clearly a defense mechanism to compensate for the fact that you actually have no idea what goes on in their bedroom. You're selling yourself a fanciful narrative because you're not prepared yet to deal with reality. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted May 9, 2021 Share Posted May 9, 2021 44 minutes ago, Scotgirl84 said: I know you will all say I’m crazy but I’m going to get a night with him for sex then I’ll call it off and block him You are completely crazy... Don't do it, it will just make it 100X worse. I know you will want to pull out all the stops in the hope he chooses you, but it won't work... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Snakesalive Posted May 9, 2021 Share Posted May 9, 2021 42 minutes ago, Scotgirl84 said: I know you will all say I’m crazy but I’m going to get a night with him for sex then I’ll call it off and block him Oh dear -why just why ? Kindly -IMO you need professional help -I wouldn’t label you as crazy -I’ll leave it to the professionals to make a diagnosis . I am concerned your state of mind and way of thinking doesn’t make the great role model to your children that I’m sure you want to be. By the way I’m sure they’ve been affected by your break up , by COVID etc -they need you to step up 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Snakesalive Posted May 9, 2021 Share Posted May 9, 2021 (edited) 29 minutes ago, Scotgirl84 said: Only one way to find out. By blocking him and walking away I suppose. If he did love me and decide being with me is better than his life he’s got then he would do it. 🎉Yeah there’s a sensible response although I’ll just wait for a few more posts where you completely back track on this .... Edited May 9, 2021 by Snakesalive Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted May 9, 2021 Share Posted May 9, 2021 27 minutes ago, Scotgirl84 said: By blocking him If you work together blocking is not really effective. You'll have to decide if having sex with you then going home and falling asleep in his wife's arms is good enough for you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Scotgirl84 Posted May 9, 2021 Author Share Posted May 9, 2021 28 minutes ago, elaine567 said: You are completely crazy... Don't do it, it will just make it 100X worse. I know you will want to pull out all the stops in the hope he chooses you, but it won't work... So you think don’t have that night of passion? In a way I want to show him what he could have then just block him so I’ll have The upper hand Link to post Share on other sites
Author Scotgirl84 Posted May 9, 2021 Author Share Posted May 9, 2021 24 minutes ago, Snakesalive said: 🎉Yeah there’s a sensible response although I’ll just wait for a few more posts where you completely back track on this .... I won’t I will do this Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted May 9, 2021 Share Posted May 9, 2021 13 minutes ago, Scotgirl84 said: So you think don’t have that night of passion? In a way I want to show him what he could have then just block him so I’ll have The upper hand You'll never have the upper hand, as HE is rejecting YOU, that is the bottom line. 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Stupidkupid Posted May 9, 2021 Share Posted May 9, 2021 10 minutes ago, Scotgirl84 said: So you think don’t have that night of passion? In a way I want to show him what he could have then just block him so I’ll have The upper hand Can you not see what is wrong with this? He knows what he could have and he doesn't want it. You're doing exactly what Elaine said "pull out all the stops in the hopes he chooses you" But... he isn't going to choose you. He's made that clear. You're not fooling anyone (except for maybe yourself) with the night of passion to then walk away. 1) You keep proving you're not going to walk away. Thats very clear. Over 500 posts on here. Around 400 from us and 100 from you going back and forth. 2) He has made it fairly clear that the sex isn't all that important to him 3) Most woman have a FLOOD of oxytocin (I think its oxytocin) post sex. Makes us want to bond. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Stupidkupid Posted May 9, 2021 Share Posted May 9, 2021 (edited) Double post Edited May 9, 2021 by Stupidkupid Link to post Share on other sites
Author Scotgirl84 Posted May 9, 2021 Author Share Posted May 9, 2021 2 minutes ago, Stupidkupid said: Can you not see what is wrong with this? He knows what he could have and he doesn't want it. You're doing exactly what Elaine said "pull out all the stops in the hopes he chooses you" But... he isn't going to choose you. He's made that clear. You're not fooling anyone (except for maybe yourself) with the night of passion to then walk away. 1) You keep proving you're not going to walk away. Thats very clear. Over 500 posts on here. Around 400 from us and 100 from you going back and forth. 2) He has made it fairly clear that the sex isn't all that important to him 3) Most woman have a FLOOD of oxytocin (I think its oxytocin) post sex. Makes us want to bond. Ok I won’t do the sex. I will walk away and never look back I’m done Link to post Share on other sites
Author Scotgirl84 Posted May 9, 2021 Author Share Posted May 9, 2021 22 minutes ago, Stupidkupid said: Double post So I’m meant to meet him tomorrow at work what do yous suggest I do? Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted May 9, 2021 Share Posted May 9, 2021 37 minutes ago, Stupidkupid said: Double post Agree, it does seem to go round and round about seeing him, blocking him, sex with him etc. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted May 9, 2021 Share Posted May 9, 2021 17 minutes ago, Scotgirl84 said: So I’m meant to meet him tomorrow at work what do yous suggest I do? How close do you work together? Same room? Same building? Will you see him for a few seconds, minutes, hours?... Can you avoid him completely? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Scotgirl84 Posted May 9, 2021 Author Share Posted May 9, 2021 13 minutes ago, elaine567 said: How close do you work together? Same room? Same building? Will you see him for a few seconds, minutes, hours?... Can you avoid him completely? Same office but different rooms will see him for minutes probably. Was supposed to catch him at lunch tomorrow not seen him since Friday at work Link to post Share on other sites
Stupidkupid Posted May 9, 2021 Share Posted May 9, 2021 2 minutes ago, Scotgirl84 said: Same office but different rooms will see him for minutes probably. Was supposed to catch him at lunch tomorrow not seen him since Friday at work Its obvious that nothing we say to you will change anything. We can tell you not to meet him until our lungs burst but you'll go anyway. Then you will say how much he misses you and loves you, but you're still pulling away. And we go around again 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted May 9, 2021 Share Posted May 9, 2021 1 hour ago, Scotgirl84 said: So you think don’t have that night of passion? In a way I want to show him what he could have then just block him so I’ll have The upper hand This so foolishly desperate. You have never had the upper hand with him, and never will. No way are you strong enough to have sex with him and then block him. Sorry Scotgirl, but you need a serious reality check. Go find your own man rather than clinging on to someone else's. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
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