Author Scotgirl84 Posted September 12, 2021 Author Share Posted September 12, 2021 17 minutes ago, basil67 said: Why do you care more about what he wants than what you need? I don’t but I feel blocking him gives him the satisfaction? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Scotgirl84 Posted September 12, 2021 Author Share Posted September 12, 2021 Just now, Scotgirl84 said: I don’t but I feel blocking him gives him the satisfaction? Do you think I’ve done the right thing by telling him he’s a fake and liar and he’s played me???? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Scotgirl84 Posted September 12, 2021 Author Share Posted September 12, 2021 2 minutes ago, Scotgirl84 said: Do you think I’ve done the right thing by telling him he’s a fake and liar and he’s played me???? I’m done pretending he’s unhappy and making excuses for him when he’s used me all along and now he just wants to be friends to ease his conscience and save his marriage by keeping me sweet that’s what it sounds like doesn’t it??? Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted September 12, 2021 Share Posted September 12, 2021 3 minutes ago, Scotgirl84 said: I don’t but I feel blocking him gives him the satisfaction? Again, why do you care what he wants. You would be smarter to do what you need 2 minutes ago, Scotgirl84 said: Do you think I’ve done the right thing by telling him he’s a fake and liar and he’s played me???? No. Contacting him is not helping you move on at all. And in all honesty, he will probably laugh at your response anyway. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted September 12, 2021 Share Posted September 12, 2021 1 minute ago, Scotgirl84 said: I’m done pretending he’s unhappy and making excuses for him when he’s used me all along and now he just wants to be friends to ease his conscience and save his marriage by keeping me sweet that’s what it sounds like doesn’t it??? @Scotgirl84 I can't keep up with your posts. Can you do just one post at a time and put all your thoughts in it? You're giving him far too much space in your brain. Just block him and be done with it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Scotgirl84 Posted September 12, 2021 Author Share Posted September 12, 2021 5 minutes ago, basil67 said: @Scotgirl84 I can't keep up with your posts. Can you do just one post at a time and put all your thoughts in it? You're giving him far too much space in your brain. Just block him and be done with it. I’m sorry I just feel telling him how he is and that I never want to see him again is helping me move on now cos the friends act is bullshit and his way of easing his conscience Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted September 12, 2021 Share Posted September 12, 2021 If you sent that and blocked him immediately it would be helping. But sending it, believing he might care about your message and leaving him able to contact you doesn't do anything to show him (or yourself) that you're done. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Scotgirl84 Posted September 12, 2021 Author Share Posted September 12, 2021 4 minutes ago, basil67 said: If you sent that and blocked him immediately it would be helping. But sending it, believing he might care about your message and leaving him able to contact you doesn't do anything to show him (or yourself) that you're done. So do you think I’ve done the right thing saying that? But now I should just block him? Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted September 12, 2021 Share Posted September 12, 2021 I think it was a complete and utter waste of time and I think he will just laugh at it. But if you think you've done the right thing, then that's OK. Of course, it's all meaningless if you don't block him. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Scotgirl84 Posted September 12, 2021 Author Share Posted September 12, 2021 1 minute ago, basil67 said: I think it was a complete and utter waste of time and I think he will just laugh at it. But if you think you've done the right thing, then that's OK. Of course, it's all meaningless if you don't block him. Cos he’s a liar and a cheat. I know what you mean. Why did I think he was different?? If he can go to bed with his wife every night lying to her he can lie to me Link to post Share on other sites
Author Scotgirl84 Posted September 12, 2021 Author Share Posted September 12, 2021 Just now, Scotgirl84 said: Cos he’s a liar and a cheat. I know what you mean. Why did I think he was different?? If he can go to bed with his wife every night lying to her he can lie to me I don’t think he will laugh though he will be worried incase he gets caught out now Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted September 12, 2021 Share Posted September 12, 2021 I still think it was a waste of time and shows him that you still care what he thinks. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Scotgirl84 Posted September 12, 2021 Author Share Posted September 12, 2021 14 minutes ago, basil67 said: I still think it was a waste of time and shows him that you still care what he thinks. So I should just block now 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted September 12, 2021 Share Posted September 12, 2021 40 minutes ago, Scotgirl84 said: So I should just block now Is this a statement or a question? Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted September 12, 2021 Share Posted September 12, 2021 (edited) 3 hours ago, Scotgirl84 said: I’m sorry I just feel telling him how he is and that I never want to see him again is helping me move on now cos the friends act is bullshit and his way of easing his conscience The friends act is his way of trying to keep you involved. All you have to say to the man is - this isn’t what I want for my life, I’m ending it now. I think you are giving him satisfaction now by continuing to engage with him. When you get angry with him and call him names - he knows he has you. You are still thinking about him and you still feel something for him - anger and hurt - because you care. The best revenge is for you to move on and actually have a good life. Edited September 12, 2021 by BaileyB 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Scotgirl84 Posted September 12, 2021 Author Share Posted September 12, 2021 3 hours ago, BaileyB said: The friends act is his way of trying to keep you involved. All you have to say to the man is - this isn’t what I want for my life, I’m ending it now. I think you are giving him satisfaction now by continuing to engage with him. When you get angry with him and call him names - he knows he has you. You are still thinking about him and you still feel something for him - anger and hurt - because you care. The best revenge is for you to move on and actually have a good life. I said to him so what do you want just to be friends with me nothing more? He says yes please just friends. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted September 12, 2021 Share Posted September 12, 2021 Good lord, OP. Just block this guy. He is never going to be yours. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Scotgirl84 Posted September 12, 2021 Author Share Posted September 12, 2021 7 hours ago, ExpatInItaly said: Good lord, OP. Just block this guy. He is never going to be yours. I know very true he’s so bad Link to post Share on other sites
Snakesalive Posted September 12, 2021 Share Posted September 12, 2021 16 hours ago, Scotgirl84 said: I don’t but I feel blocking him gives him the satisfaction? Of what? This is real life not play ground stiff -real people get hurt 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Snakesalive Posted September 12, 2021 Share Posted September 12, 2021 9 hours ago, Scotgirl84 said: I said to him so what do you want just to be friends with me nothing more? He says yes please just friends. Why would you ask that ? 3 Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted September 12, 2021 Share Posted September 12, 2021 1 hour ago, Scotgirl84 said: he’s so bad What do you even mean by this? This isn’t about him OP - this is about you. You need to make a decision that is good and healthy for you. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted September 12, 2021 Share Posted September 12, 2021 2 hours ago, Scotgirl84 said: I know very true he’s so bad he's so married. Fixed it for you. 1 7 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Scotgirl84 Posted September 17, 2021 Author Share Posted September 17, 2021 On 9/12/2021 at 6:55 PM, ExpatInItaly said: Fixed it for you. I have blocked him. Walked away blocked no explanation. I am going to move into my new house and give my marriage another chance fresh start 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Yokoyan Posted September 17, 2021 Share Posted September 17, 2021 I've been reading this thread from the start, and all i can say is, good job Scotgirl. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Daisydooks Posted September 24, 2021 Share Posted September 24, 2021 On 9/4/2021 at 1:59 PM, stillafool said: Okay what type of operation would cause hormones to change - hysterectomy. If so, there are hormone replacements to correct that and it's not exactly an illness. Most post menopausal women who are still having sex. It's common for MM to lie about having an ill wife who can't give them sex only to find out their having sex like bunnies. A poster wrote yesterday about when her husband was having an affair MM had told OW they weren't having sex ever and she said in fact they were trying to have a baby and having sex EVERY night. Until you see it for yourself don't believe him and even with most illnesses you can still have sex. That may have been me. I hate to think this also happened to someone else too We were having LOTS of sex, trying for a baby and yet my ex told his OW we were roommates and didnt have sex. Ever. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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