Littlemoonrocket Posted April 29, 2021 Share Posted April 29, 2021 Hello all. My name is Sarah and I’ve come on here because I don’t know what to do. I will keep it brief - I will go into more detail later but right now this is all I can handle. Basically my H had an affair. I found hundreds of messages to her. At the time I had just had a baby so to be honest I threw myself into that. This was last year. I have just discovered that my H kept her number, even though I told him to delete/block her. map he has obviously put her back in his phone at some point. I called him out on it and he says they haven’t spoken in months. so here’s what I don’t understand - why would he still have her number if they aren’t in contact? thanks for listening Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted April 29, 2021 Share Posted April 29, 2021 (edited) Have you posted this story before? There was a woman on this board last summer who was pregnant at the time, asking virtually the same question. The prevailing wisdom in that discussion was that men don’t generally keep the number for their OW unless they are either still in contact, or as a back-up plan should they ever decide to contact the woman again. Either way, he dismissed your request to delete her from his life. That’s not a very respectful thing for him to do - first he cheated, and he has also disrespected your wishes to delete this woman’s contact information, Edited April 29, 2021 by BaileyB 5 Link to post Share on other sites
mark clemson Posted April 29, 2021 Share Posted April 29, 2021 This has apparently happened to others as your story has a familiar ring to it. At any rate, most likely he put her number in his phone to possibly contact her again at some point, ie, for "future reference". Why else would he put it in there? Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted April 29, 2021 Share Posted April 29, 2021 Here is the other post for your reference. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Stupidkupid Posted April 29, 2021 Share Posted April 29, 2021 2 hours ago, Littlemoonrocket said: Hello all. My name is Sarah and I’ve come on here because I don’t know what to do. I will keep it brief - I will go into more detail later but right now this is all I can handle. Basically my H had an affair. I found hundreds of messages to her. At the time I had just had a baby so to be honest I threw myself into that. This was last year. I have just discovered that my H kept her number, even though I told him to delete/block her. map he has obviously put her back in his phone at some point. I called him out on it and he says they haven’t spoken in months. so here’s what I don’t understand - why would he still have her number if they aren’t in contact? thanks for listening I can speculate as to the why but perhaps thus might be better in the infidelity section? You can ask the mod/admin to have it moved. You will potentially get more help there Link to post Share on other sites
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