NotVeryBright Posted May 2, 2021 Share Posted May 2, 2021 In the beginning he was courteous, shy, opened doors. He took care of his medically ill mother. He took me everywhere, concerts, restaurants and adored me. He was different from the overly educated husbands in my life. He was a bit illiterate but knew how to fix everything. Married three times with three children... the last a girl that he wasn't allowed to visit without supervision because his left frontal lobe seizure center was taken out. He was hyper-nervous and always had chest pains... red flags of flirting on Messenger with old girlfriends which he said meant nothing. When we argued he immediately went on dating sites or picked up women for sex. He admitted that to me. He was an artist and painted several portraits of me. He left his laptop at my house and of course he was picking up women for sex. He refused to apologize because he said we were broken up (for a week) and of course he could do what he wanted. Then one day, he said he was bisexual and always has been...I could either accept it or leave. I was dumbfounded. His phone was full of pictures of mens' private parts-needless to say we didn't have a sex life because the thought of this made me leery of STD's HIV. We went back and forth in tryin to resolve issues... he said he would always be a bisexual but he loved women also. He wanted a three some 2 men and me... I said no way. He said I was boring. He posted inappropriate things on FB and his whole family blocked him... of course he blamed me, I was always the target for making him go to XXX places to meet men (when we fought) or pick up a woman for sex (when we fought). On the day he swore he would never cheat on me... I caught him in home with a woman... she then called the police because I was let in the house... and asked if she knew he was in a relationship. Humiliating for me. This was before Christmas and of course he went into dating mode while I was in shock. We've never been able to get back together because I can't forget or forgive the lies and humiliation... so now, he's finally blocked me and I assume is doing what he always does. I've blocked him also but it's really really hard... this soap opera has been going on for 6 years. I've decided -- NO MORE. Thoughts? Link to post Share on other sites
spiderowl Posted May 3, 2021 Share Posted May 3, 2021 (edited) No more sounds right. Are you going to leave this guy? There is no point trying to sort out his many issues. You are clearly unhappy and do not trust him. He seems to have multiple problems and is very uninhibited. In short, there is no reason to stay with someone like this; it can only lead to pain. Bear in mind that you are used to engaging with him in these many dramas. Being without him will feel strange, maybe even lacking in excitement. You need to adjust to having less drama in your life and more peace and, hopefully eventually, love. If you can go through the next year without getting involved with this guy again, you have a chance at happiness. It would be wise to seek therapy to help you withdraw from this guy. Edited May 3, 2021 by spiderowl 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted May 3, 2021 Share Posted May 3, 2021 17 hours ago, NotVeryBright said: ... I caught him in home with a woman... she then called the police because I was let in the house... Sorry this is happening. Is this recently? Is this the same man?: Link to post Share on other sites
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