John1971 Posted May 4, 2021 Share Posted May 4, 2021 I have been married for almost 12 years. It was rough in the beginning but we always worked through it. I have worked long hours most of my life. When we met I knew she was the one. I wanted to make sure she never wanted for anything. These last couple of years have been truly horrible financially and on our marriage as a whole. February 2nd she said over a text she wanted a divorce and I told her I didn't want her to stay if she wasn't happy, she said she was unhappy for years, no kids involved. She has moved out and I am covering all the bills we had together. she has a job and I cover the car and expenses. There was no infidelity on either side we just grew apart I guess. She wont sign divorce papers but she wont talk either but Good Lord lives on facebook. I dont have facebook.. Anyone have any ideas Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted May 4, 2021 Share Posted May 4, 2021 Talk to your lawyer. She doesn't have to sign the divorce papers. It will be cheaper & go more smoothly if she does but because she won't, you need to get on the contested divorce docket When the Court hears the case, the judge will order you divorced. Since she's being uncooperative, talk to your lawyer about stopping the various subsidies (paying for her car & expenses) you are providing. Link to post Share on other sites
Blind-Sided Posted May 4, 2021 Share Posted May 4, 2021 Yep... it only takes one person to want the divorce. Get a lawyer, get those paper filled out. If she wants out... then make it legal before she drains you and your bank account. As an FYI... where I live... once you file... I believe after 30 days... if there was no response... it would just get entered, and the divorce was granted. Everywhere is different though... and that's why you need to talk to a lawyer. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted May 4, 2021 Share Posted May 4, 2021 13 hours ago, John1971 said: Anyone have any ideas Please speak with a lawyer. This shouldn't continue indefinitely. Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted May 4, 2021 Share Posted May 4, 2021 14 hours ago, John1971 said: I have been married for almost 12 years. It was rough in the beginning but we always worked through it. I have worked long hours most of my life. When we met I knew she was the one. I wanted to make sure she never wanted for anything. These last couple of years have been truly horrible financially and on our marriage as a whole. February 2nd she said over a text she wanted a divorce and I told her I didn't want her to stay if she wasn't happy, she said she was unhappy for years, no kids involved. She has moved out and I am covering all the bills we had together. she has a job and I cover the car and expenses. There was no infidelity on either side we just grew apart I guess. She wont sign divorce papers but she wont talk either but Good Lord lives on facebook. I dont have facebook.. Anyone have any ideas Don’t be naive. She’s probably got a new boyfriend. The separation is to try him out full time while keeping you as backup in case it doesn’t work out. Thats why she won’t sign any divorce papers. You don’t need her permission to file. Dump her quick like she did you or you’ll waste a lot of time/life in this you won’t get back. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
johnsonalfred Posted May 7, 2021 Share Posted May 7, 2021 (edited) You should consult with an experienced divorce lawyer. Lawyer will handle all these these. No one can stop from getting divorce. You will get what you deserve. I found this link for you. Hope this will help. [redacted] Edited May 9, 2021 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Edited out commercial link 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Caauug Posted May 10, 2021 Share Posted May 10, 2021 On 5/4/2021 at 10:13 AM, John1971 said: There was no infidelity on either side we just grew apart I guess. And if you look out your kitchen window you will see a Unicorn frocking in your yard... On 5/4/2021 at 10:13 AM, John1971 said: I wanted to make sure she never wanted for anything. These last couple of years have been truly horrible financially and on our marriage as a whole. You gave her everything you had, you had nothing to to keep her around. Briffault's Law comes into effect.... She has or wants to go looking to what she can get from "Plan A"... No kids, you dodged the bullet, nice work!!! Now, this is hard to come to terms with.... She doesn't want you. There is no fixing her/us/me to turn back time... Loose all hope-tom... If you knew the truth you wouldn't want her "Second hand goods" anyway. Visit the most loved or hated D lawyer (s) in your area, visit all the recommended ones. This is important. Get advice, protect assets if possible. Only ever meet with her in public, document everything she says. Never ever drunk text or call her. Your life may depend on this. Do not get FB, it's not needed, that would be classed as stalking, don't go there. Do not beg, or fight for her, this shows you are needy and she will loose attraction because of this weakness. Get educated by a lawyer and prepare for a separation/divorce, do not tell her what you are doing/thinking. Your emotions/feelings are your concern, not her's, do not share. Only communicate to her what she needs to hear, that will be nothing of value. She will not sign D papers because you are "Plan B" or you are the fall back guy... The branch swing to the "Bigger Better Deal" is not a sure thing yet... Chances are you will know him or have met him... I'm not a punter or a gambler but I would lay money on the table your W has a lover.... Be prepared for the worst!!! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted May 10, 2021 Share Posted May 10, 2021 Do yourself a favor. Go online and check out your phone bill. Link to post Share on other sites
chlmari Posted May 20, 2021 Share Posted May 20, 2021 I agree, meet a Divorce Lawyer to have a closure , I think and to divided the bills you are paying now. Many lawyers offer free initial consultation. I already consulted a lawyer from Times Lawyers when I had a question about separation, and no fee involve on our first meet. They are in Brisbane. You should try it too. Best of luck to you. Link to post Share on other sites
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