Author LShalcy Posted November 18, 2021 Author Share Posted November 18, 2021 (edited) 11 minutes ago, Allupinnit said: I think she's known all along. No way she could ignore all of the red flags surrounding his availability. I think I need to step away from this thread. I'm triggered for sure. I just don't think people this selfish realize how deep and far the hurt goes to everyone else when Dad's cheating and ready to abandon the family he already has because he foolishly believes the grass is greener with a fellow cheater. True love and marriage is sacrificial, it's doubling down when life gets tough - that's why vows are written the way they are, because life doesn't follow your "feelings." So someone should stay in a marriage they don’t want to stay in? Is it better for his daughter to see his parents arguing every day, to start cursing because she hears her parents cursing at each other? IF this were to happen, his daughter will continue to see him. He has no intention of abandoning her. Edited November 18, 2021 by LShalcy 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted November 18, 2021 Share Posted November 18, 2021 49 minutes ago, RebeccaR said: I think he can’t live without the hot sex and the things you do that his wife doesn’t. That’s what keeps bringing him back. Yes it's his escape and makes life bearable. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Allupinnit Posted November 18, 2021 Share Posted November 18, 2021 2 minutes ago, LShalcy said: So someone should stay in a marriage they don’t want to stay in? Is it better for his daughter to see his parents arguing every day, to start cursing because she hears her parents cursing at each other? IF this were to happen, his daughter will continue to see him. He has no intention of abandoning her. Like I said if their marriage is so terrible and your love is so great, why hasn't he told her after all this time? Because he doesn't WANT to leave his marriage! He KNOWS the hefty cost of divorce on everyone, not just his pocketbook. Continuing to "see" your dad and having him as a fully present father and husband in the home are two completely different things - surely you know this! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
MilaVaneela Posted November 18, 2021 Share Posted November 18, 2021 LShalcy, This isn’t helping at all. What do you want? You keep coming back and yet every time you do, people try to help you and you just get angry, aggressive and a bit rude. Do you just want people to tell you that you’re right and you’re entitled to this man, his family and everyone else be d*mned? This isn’t healthy or productive for you or anyone else involved. You don’t want therapy, you don’t want advice, and you don’t want to move on and better your life. What are you looking for? 7 Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted November 18, 2021 Share Posted November 18, 2021 45 minutes ago, BaileyB said: seaman Sorry, that should say toxicity - although the autocorrect was kind of humorous. Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted November 18, 2021 Share Posted November 18, 2021 (edited) 43 minutes ago, LShalcy said: So someone should stay in a marriage they don’t want to stay in? Is it better for his daughter to see his parents arguing every day, to start cursing because she hears her parents cursing at each other? There is a third option - this is not a decision between stay and raise your child in an unhappy and unhealthy marriage or leave and find happiness with his affair partner. The third option here, which people who find themselves trying to rationalize their decision to have an affair as the best way to leave a marriage and find life happiness - is to actually make an assessment of the health and future of his marriage on its own merit. This would mean, he is not distracted by an affair and/or monkey branching from one woman to another. People do it everyday - they make the hard decision, showing respect to their spouse and the mother of their child, while still supporting the child and leading them to a new normal that is stable and healthy. This is NOT what is happening here - certainly not if he is searching for other relationships online, lying to two women, and having an affair for two years without even giving you the courtesy of knowing the truth about his marital status. So, don’t try to tell us that this is the better option by using some bogus argument about the fact that his child would not be in a healthy environment if he stayed in his unhealthy marriage and argued constantly with his wife… It’s simply not a valid argument. Edited November 18, 2021 by BaileyB 3 Link to post Share on other sites
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