Separation not married

[Francisco9]

Hello guys, 

Here's my story. So I met a girl about 7 years ago and became a couple. When she first presented me to her family, she did as a friend. I was shocked and confronted her after the family meeting. She confessed that she was angaged to a guy in Honduras but she broke up with him because of the distance. She moved to Texas by the way. She claimed she loved me and etc. A year passed and I still felt like she was talking to him. She decided to visit her other family in Honduras for a few weeks and I found out through her brothers IG that she was seeing that guy. We broke up and we got back together after "working" things out. Again, she was talking to the guy for sure. Well, he decided to move to Texas illegally for her. He got caught by immigration and applied for asylum. That's when she got pregnant from me and she had doubts about our relationship. The guy got release and he offered her everything. I guess she decided to be with me, probably because of financial reasons. We had our up and downs. We decided to purchase a home jointly but I never proposed because of the past. About a year ago, she left her phone and I confirmed my suspicious about him. They were planning on moving in together. We had a heated conversation and she left the house. She went to live with her mom to clear out her mind on what she wanted to do. We decided to work things out again but the guy was still chasing after her. I told her to delete him completely but she couldn't because she made a bs excuse that she needed to see his number so she knew not to answer him. I felt betrayed and turn a blind eye for my daughter hoping things would work out at the end. Well, they did not. We called it off last month and she left the house. I'm done with this relationship and we cannot come to an agreement on the house. I payed for everything financially these past 5 years. She wants me to sell the house but I don't want to do that. I told her ill buy her out for $20,000 in which I feel is fair. As for my daughter, I want to do 50/50 custody, what do you guys think? And by the way, the guy is still around but she claims she doesn't want anything to do with him. I feel like at the end. They'll get together and she wants to keep me as a backup plan because she still wants to be friends.

Feel free to ask any questions.

[Wiseman2]

2 hours ago, Francisco9 said:

  I told her ill buy her out for $20,000 in which I feel is fair. As for my daughter, I want to do 50/50 custody, 

A court decides custody, visitation and child support. You don't need an attorney to file in court for custody/visitation, etc. unless you can't agree.

Is her name on the deed? That  will have to be figured out with banks, attorneys,etc.

You're not married but the hassle of buying a house together will have to be worked out.

[emprosnet7]

I think you were disillusioned from the begging. She wants him all along and you were a spare. She will get money from you for child support and be with him. You must be more careful next time..

Edited May 11, 2021 by emprosnet7

[vla1120]

Since you're not married and you paid for everything this past five years, hopefully your house is not in her name! If it is, you'll need a lawyer to sort that out. Otherwise, you'll just need to sort out visitation and child support. Don't let her keep you hanging in case it doesn't work out with him. Go completely no contact with her unless it involves your child. Luckily, you didn't marry her!