Iamconfused99 Posted May 6, 2021 Share Posted May 6, 2021 Hey! I am in LDR with him a bit more than 2 years. Last year because of corona we couldnt meet each other more than 1 time. Since then everything was okay till December where he wanted to break up with me. I really didnt understand what he meant because he was telling me that he loves me but he doesnt want to hurt me. And I told him that everything will be alright till 1 week ago. He didnt fulfill his promise even if he said that he will "definetly". So i got mad a lot and made a big drama out of it. And on the following days we talked and he told me that he loves me less than before, then he told me again that he would like to break up with me and some other things. Today I talked with him and he said that he would like to experience another relationships too and not in the sexual way but in the emotional. And I really am confused because he still claims that he loves me and everything but all he does hurts me. Right now we agreed to meet again but I really dont know what to expect. I think that this is due the long time in which we didnt meet but I really dont know anymore. Can someone give me advice? Best wishes R. Link to post Share on other sites
neowulf Posted May 6, 2021 Share Posted May 6, 2021 5 hours ago, Iamconfused99 said: Can someone give me advice? I can offer you an opinion. You'll have to make up your own mind. Long distance relationships almost always fail. They consist of almost nothing of real substance. If you aren't there to share the moment to moment joys and struggles of a each others lives, the bond simply begins to break down. That's just how it goes. My advice? End things with this guy and focus your energy on meeting someone local. It'll hurt for a while of course, but in the long run, you can't build a live with someone long distance. It sounds like he's grown frustrated with the distance between you and is probably either a) looking to meet someone local or b) already has. As I once said about long distance relationships; "All the responsibility with none of the fun." 2 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted May 7, 2021 Share Posted May 7, 2021 (edited) Distance & Covid killed your relationship. He sees no hope that you can spend meaningful time together. The talking isn't enough for him anymore & he wants a local GF he can see more often. It's not about disliking you. It's about the insurmountable situation. Edited May 7, 2021 by d0nnivain 2 Link to post Share on other sites
ShyViolet Posted May 7, 2021 Share Posted May 7, 2021 He got tired of being in a long distance relationship that is not going anywhere. There's very little upside to being stuck in a relationship where you see the person only once in a whole year. It's a complete waste of time and energy. Let him go. Going forward, avoid long distance relationships, and date people who are local. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
hippychick3 Posted May 7, 2021 Share Posted May 7, 2021 He’s checked out and finished with this relationship. He’s trying to soften the blow by telling you he still loves you. And he may still love you and care but not enough to continue. The only way a long distance relationship can work is if there are regular, consistent, and frequent visits. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted May 8, 2021 Share Posted May 8, 2021 He's tried a couple of times to break up. It hurts a lot, but you don't have much choice but to let go. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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