elaine567 Posted May 19, 2021 Share Posted May 19, 2021 39 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said: If you are blaming her for your cheating, she's doing it to get back at you. Agreed. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Finchy Posted May 19, 2021 Author Share Posted May 19, 2021 1 hour ago, Wiseman2 said: If you are blaming her for your cheating, she's doing it to get back at you. You mean she is telling me about her past experiences to get back at me? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Finchy Posted May 19, 2021 Author Share Posted May 19, 2021 3 hours ago, Finchy said: You mean she is telling me about her past experiences to get back at me? Or do you mean blaming her for my cheating means she will cheat to get back at me? Just trying to clarify / understand your comment. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Finchy Posted May 21, 2021 Author Share Posted May 21, 2021 On 5/19/2021 at 1:11 PM, elaine567 said: Seems to me that when there is a problem with sex, that after an assumed epiphany where they become a new enthusiastic person, it is kind of short lived and very soon they go back to where they were most comfortable unfortunately. Time will tell. It seems to me you are loading your wife up with lots of new things, but what happens when you run out of new things, when the new things get boring or to her are non-repeatable? I would slow down a bit and leave some things in reserve, wait till some things get solidly added to the repertoire as opposed to always seeking something new... and maybe losing her interest in the process. Men often get obsessed with "adventurous" sex, women not so much as some of it does nothing for the woman's pleasure. Pleasing her man all the time can get old... You have a lifetime to fill here, make sure these new things are actually good for her, not just you. Could be. I think it might depend on the man and how he views his role towards the couples sex life. Some initial enthusiasm from the woman is great, but if the man isnt taking a more active role in sustaining and leading once things have started to improve then probably his fault if they deteriorate again, barring other life issues. This is a mind shift I’ve gone through over the past several months. And balance is probably just as important. As for new material, there seems to be plenty of places to find ideas these days. But point taken that I also don’t want to overwhelm. Patience is important. Link to post Share on other sites
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