If a women tells you there is no vibe between you, when you didn't ask the question

[User89]

Does that mean in women language the opposite? 

I'm asking since I had the complete opposite perception, and she told me this even though the conversation did not pertain to it.  She then wrote GLHF, with a smiley. 

I dunno. What you guys think? Kinda fishy?

[User89]

This is online btw. 

[d0nnivain]

Not fishy at all.   She's trying to head off you asking a direct question along the lines of "would you like to go on a date with me?"  She knows you like her but she does not feel the same way.    She is trying to keep you as a friend by avoiding the awkwardness that will follow if she has to directly reject your offer of romance. 

If you are cool being in the friendzone with no hope of anything more & having a front row seat to her dating escapes stick around at your own peril.  

There is no such thing as "woman language".  There is only a man (you) who is not listening.  

[User89]

1 minute ago, d0nnivain said:

Not fishy at all.   She's trying to head off you asking a direct question along the lines of "would you like to go on a date with me?"  She knows you like her but she does not feel the same way.    She is trying to keep you as a friend by avoiding the awkwardness that will follow if she has to directly reject your offer of romance. 

If you are cool being in the friendzone with no hope of anything more & having a front row seat to her dating escapes stick around at your own peril.  

There is no such thing as "woman language".  There is only a man (you) who is not listening.  

Okey so why was she inclusive before that? This is on a discussion on forum. She wrote what are "WE" (referencing me and her) to make of this and wanted to keep the discussion going. It was in a thread.. And she replied whenever I teased her and had fun back. No hard feelings at all. 

 

I'm just saying!..... You could be right. 

I'm gonna assume you are right but I know women... 

 

 

 

 

 

[d0nnivain]

She enjoys whatever you have going on as it stands -- joking & flirting on the forum -- & she would like that to continue.  But she knows you like her & she knows that will change if she is forced to outright reject any overt romantic overture she makes.  

I AM a woman & do this all the time with new men.  I make it clear that I'm not interested before they take the risk & make themselves vulnerable by asking me out. I am warning them so they can save face by never asking.  It's called taking a hint.  Please take the hint & never confess any romantic feelings to her because it will not go well for you.  She will outright reject you & then whatever fun you are having in the discussion will end too.  

[User89]

12 minutes ago, d0nnivain said:

She enjoys whatever you have going on as it stands -- joking & flirting on the forum -- & she would like that to continue.  .  

 So she's lying when she writes that there is "zero vibe between us" (zero is a pretty low number).  Again, I did not ask her anything about our "vibe". SHE is the one thinking romance, not I

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[d0nnivain]

Since you weren't thinking romance, take the compliment that she thought you were.   You are not losing something you wanted so no harm, no foul.  Who knows maybe she is one of those egotistical women who assumes every guy who looks at them would give their eye teeth to be with her.  Who cares?  Since you don't want to date her, carry on with what you were doing if you are still having fun. 

Quibbling with her about whether there is possibly a 1 - 49% vibe (as opposed to zero) is a useless exercise. Her message remains the same:  you are friendzoned & she will never date you.  

[elaine567]

GLHF is "Good luck have fun", which to me sounds pretty final and like she is letting you go. Add it to the "there is no vibe between us" it is all pretty clear.
Leave her alone..

[User89]

6 minutes ago, d0nnivain said:

Since you weren't thinking romance, take the compliment that she thought you were.   You are not losing something you wanted so no harm, no foul.  Who knows maybe she is one of those egotistical women who assumes every guy who looks at them would give their eye teeth to be with her.  Who cares?  Since you don't want to date her, carry on with what you were doing if you are still having fun. 

Quibbling with her about whether there is possibly a 1 - 49% vibe (as opposed to zero) is a useless exercise. Her message remains the same:  you are friendzoned & she will never date you.  

I would marry her. I was simply curious If you think she's lying If we hook her up to a lie detector chair. Will it catch fire? 

 

[d0nnivain]

3 hours ago, User89 said:

I would marry her. I was simply curious If you think she's lying If we hook her up to a lie detector chair. Will it catch fire? 

 

I suggest you run out & buy an expensive ring, then propose to see what that gets you. 

Assuming "liar liar pants on fire" is true, that will have an impact on the combustibility of the lie detector but since those are not chairs but machines that sit on desk,  flame ******ant underwear would be advisable.  Don't forget to put tin foil on your head during the test to make sure nobody steals your thoughts.  

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[User89]

3 hours ago, d0nnivain said:

I suggest you run out & buy an expensive ring, then propose to see what that gets you. 

Assuming "liar liar pants on fire" is true, that will have an impact on the combustibility of the lie detector but since those are not chairs but machines that sit on desk,  flame ******ant underwear would be advisable.  Don't forget to put tin foil on your head during the test to make sure nobody steals your thoughts.  

 

 

Thank you for the sarcasm. Are you equally confident now as you were in your first reply that this is over? 

Bare in mind that she knows I love women that are exciting and non conventional. I wrote that regular women bore me. I've written that in the bloody forum.. Just sayin:) 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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[User89]

3 hours ago, d0nnivain said:

I suggest you run out & buy an expensive ring, then propose to see what that gets you. 

Assuming "liar liar pants on fire" is true, that will have an impact on the combustibility of the lie detector but since those are not chairs but machines that sit on desk,  flame ******ant underwear would be advisable.  Don't forget to put tin foil on your head during the test to make sure nobody steals your thoughts.  

If I asked you about <a function on a forum> , would you reply that there is quote "zero vibe between us. So. GLHF"  with a smiley.

I mean am I bordering on a love proclamation with my question?

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[d0nnivain]

27 minutes ago, User89 said:

Thank you for the sarcasm. Are you equally confident now as you were in your first reply that this is over? 

Bare in mind that she knows I love women that are exciting and non conventional. I wrote that regular women bore me. I've written that in the bloody forum.. Just sayin:) 

Yes. This woman does NOT want to date you.  Why is that so hard for you to understand?  She enjoys whatever playing you two are doing on line but that is as far as it goes.  She doesn't want anything more.  She wished you well in your search for the exciting non-conventional type you seek but she's unequivocally saying she's not that woman for you.  

How the heck can you say you love her or want to marry her?  Have you even met in real life?  

As for my sarcasm. . . you are the one talking about lie detectors, arson & possibly harming this woman . . . .it doesn't exactly ring true / serious.  

[User89]

15 minutes ago, d0nnivain said:

Yes. This woman does NOT want to date you.  Why is that so hard for you to understand?  She enjoys whatever playing you two are doing on line but that is as far as it goes.  She doesn't want anything more.  She wished you well in your search for the exciting non-conventional type you seek but she's unequivocally saying she's not that woman for you.  

 

  

I just felt something. Feelings can't be articulated. Intuition. Then I get this and it’s like WOW,  can I be this off? Have you ever had that? It's more that than the actual situation. I am not upset.   

 

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[Sun Seeker]

Step away from the computer, from your virtual life, virtual friends, virtual romantic interests, and go outside into the real world and meet real people.

[Wiseman2]

3 hours ago, User89 said:

This is online btw. 

Unfortunately, sounds like "not into you" in any language.

[mark clemson]

Perhaps she felt some tiny amount of "vibe," but not enough to take it further, assumed you might be feeling the same (or might start to in the future), and so headed things off.

If it makes you feel any better, or not perhaps but relieves your curiosity, then yes I think that is possible in this situation.

Since it is an online forum there are quite a variety of possibilities - should could have been trolling you all along, fishing for attention, be a dysfunctional person who "pushes others away" before things can get started, or even quite literally be a neo-Nazi.

The possibilities are endless!

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[User89]

6 minutes ago, mark clemson said:

Perhaps she felt some tiny amount of "vibe," but not enough to take it further, assumed you might be feeling the same (or might start to in the future), and so headed things off.

If it makes you feel any better, or not perhaps but relieves your curiosity, then yes I think that is possible in this situation.

Since it is an online forum there are quite a variety of possibilities - should could have been trolling you all along, fishing for attention, be a dysfunctional person who "pushes others away" before things can get started, or even quite literally be a neo-Nazi.

The possibilities are endless!

I'm leaning towards your first answer. I really felt something strong the day before, just intuition, but still.. So this was a way for her to to put a lit on it, I think. 

[User89]

Here's an example of our correspondence:

[Public Discussion] 

I've just been quoted:

She: but you don't want to be too rigid and stiff, right? Surely communication should be lucid and freewheeling.? 

Me - absolutely....(wall of text) 

She - I wasn't asking you

Me: Alright but avoid the question mark for rhetorical questions

She: it wasn't a rhetorical question. Quote me where I asked you something. 

Then I did and she didn't think that warranted a response. 

This is quoting each other in a discussion, yet she claims to not be adressing me,  but she isn't being rhetorical either.

Is this what they call love? 

 

 

 

 

 

 

[Miss Spider]

You guys communicate like you can barely stand each other. This is definitely love

[Mrin]

21 minutes ago, User89 said:

Here's an example of our correspondence:

[Public Discussion] 

I've just been quoted:

She: but you don't want to be too rigid and stiff, right? Surely communication should be lucid and freewheeling.? 

Me - absolutely....(wall of text) 

She - I wasn't asking you

Me: Alright but avoid the question mark for rhetorical questions

She: it wasn't a rhetorical question. Quote me where I asked you something. 

Then I did and she didn't think that warranted a response. 

This is quoting each other in a discussion, yet she claims to not be adressing me,  but she isn't being rhetorical either.

Is this what they call love? 

 

Sorry dude. At face value this is pretty much "leave me alone".

[User89]

9 minutes ago, Mrin said:

Sorry dude. At face value this is pretty much "leave me alone".

Oh but there's more..She wrote to me about having sex with someone right at the moment she was replying to my post, and was very jovial.

I thought it was pretty funny. Probably true too.

 

 

 

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[dramafreezone]

6 hours ago, User89 said:

Does that mean in women language the opposite? 

I'm asking since I had the complete opposite perception, and she told me this even though the conversation did not pertain to it.  She then wrote GLHF, with a smiley. 

I dunno. What you guys think? Kinda fishy?

Not fishy to me.  If a woman is being direct about her lack of interest, take it as a gift and move on.

She probably enjoys your attention though, which is why she's still talking to you.  She will take your attention as long as you provide it, but that's probably it.

You thinking that this is somehow code for her being into you is you projecting your interest on to her.

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[Taramere]

18 hours ago, User89 said:

Does that mean in women language the opposite? 

I'm asking since I had the complete opposite perception, and she told me this even though the conversation did not pertain to it.  She then wrote GLHF, with a smiley. 

I dunno. What you guys think? Kinda fishy?

 

I don't know what's going on in this woman's mind, but you seem very clear that you do know.  Moreoever, you're quite insistent that what she says and what she means are too different things - which sounds like a potential ticking time bomb to me.  By which I mean that you might be the sort of man who doesn't take no for an answer.  And if so, that's a big big problem that at the very least could end up in you being slapped with a restraining order further down the road.

You mention liking non conventional women, whatever that means.  Then there's this:

Quote

 

Oh but there's more..She wrote to me about having sex with someone right at the moment she was replying to my post, and was very jovial.

I thought it was pretty funny. Probably true too.

 

Woah!  If you really found something like that funny rather than thinking she's a bit twisted for sending a message like that, then I'm guessing that you've got a bit of a kink about being cuckolded.  Maybe there's  certain type of sexual scene you're into, and perhaps your instinct is that this woman is into the same thing.  It might well be that she's into a scene (eg something involving cuckoldry) that you find exciting - but just because a woman has the same kinks as you, it doesn't follow that she wants to share that kink in any way that would involve romantic or sexual involvement (or, indeed, marriage - since you mention that) between the two of you.

[User89]

3 hours ago, Taramere said:

 

I don't know what's going on in this woman's mind, but you seem very clear that you do know.  Moreoever, you're quite insistent that what she says and what she means are too different things - which sounds like a potential ticking time bomb to me.  By which I mean that you might be the sort of man who doesn't take no for an answer.  And if so, that's a big big problem that at the very least could end up in you being slapped with a restraining order further down the road.

You mention liking non conventional women, whatever that means.  Then there's this:

Woah!  If you really found something like that funny rather than thinking she's a bit twisted for sending a message like that, then I'm guessing that you've got a bit of a kink about being cuckolded.  Maybe there's  certain type of sexual scene you're into, and perhaps your instinct is that this woman is into the same thing.  It might well be that she's into a scene (eg something involving cuckoldry) that you find exciting - but just because a woman has the same kinks as you, it doesn't follow that she wants to share that kink in any way that would involve romantic or sexual involvement (or, indeed, marriage - since you mention that) between the two of you.

She wasn't graphic. I just enjoyed that she didn't bore me.